RoseyLife Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 this is weird... my ex's girl friends (friends that are girls, not the dating kind of girlfriends) are contacting me and trying to be friends with me. i don't even know them. they're trying to start conversation... i am wary about this. what could be their intentions?
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 To milk you for information. Either that or they want you for themselves. Best not to get involved in either case.
Author RoseyLife Posted May 4, 2005 Author Posted May 4, 2005 they don't know that i'm his ex. they just know that we used to hang out a lot together. do you suppose he's talking about me and that is why they are curious to know more about me?
JanieQP Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 This happened to me in my divorce. Friends of my ex who'd made little or no effort to get to know me during the engagement and marriage suddenly started e-mailing me. They were only interested in getting the inside scoop, since the ex wasn't talking much. I sent short, civil replies saying I was sure they'd heard about our divorce, and they could get more information from the ex - and I cc'd the ex on every one. Several people acted pretty embarrassed the next time they saw/talked to him, which was our indication that my cynical judgement call about their motivations wasn't far off. Pretty pathetic that people's reactions to a break-up can be dishonorable enough that it forces the breaking-up couple to cooperate civilly with each other ... I tell you, disappointing the blood-thirsty was a real motivation to remain calm and mature at moments when I'd rather dump the guy off the nearest cliff. Good luck in getting the support you need in your break-up ... just be very careful about where you get it.
Author RoseyLife Posted May 4, 2005 Author Posted May 4, 2005 ps-- i also have this oddball feeling she is actually my ex's brother's wife (his brother is fairly young). i haven't seen her face to face, but we're all part of an online community. she got my email address because it's listed (along with my picture) as one of his "friends" in his profile. he talks to his brother a lot. while we were dating i never got to meet his family, who were curious to meet me. firstly... what do you think. and secondly... do you think i should email her asking her who she is? thanks
morrigan Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 I agree that they know something went on between you and their friend ( or whatever he is to them!) Even if you did want to get back with your ex, I'd avoid socializing with these people at this time. Their interest in you doesn't seem sincere. Don't bother emailing them or contacting them at all. Ignore their contacts or say you're busy.
Author RoseyLife Posted May 4, 2005 Author Posted May 4, 2005 that makes sense. so my wariness had good reason and i was not just being silly, that is reassuring thank u all
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