DaxSmitty20 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 To clear it up I'm a guy and lately I've been developing feelings for one of my long time friends. I've known her since 10th grade when we were transferred to a new school. I had a crush on her then and I told her about it not too long ago, and she had said if I asked her out she would've dated me. But we both had transferred back to our old schools later that year. Fast forward 3 years we're now both going into our sophomore year of college and we've grown pretty close since freshman year. We both had pretty crappy relationships and we were both there for each other and helped each other out and everything. About a month ago we were both at a birthday party for one of our friends and we were all playing volleyball and it got super intense between her and I. We both have the "I hate losing and do whatever it takes to win" mentality so when we were on opposite teams we would trash talk and scream at each other all in good fun. But then there was a moment where she was kind of leaning in and it looked like she was trying to kiss me. I asked her after the party if she was and she said yes. Eventually we hung out after that and we ended up kissing then and several times after that. We were sort of dating but at the same time it wasn't official. I had something very romantic planned when it came to asking her out, I was just waiting for the right time. On the 4th of July she ran into her ex at a party and I guess it brought back old feelings, she admitted to liking me but wasn't sure what she wanted to do. She tells me she didn't pick either of us but I honestly think she chose him but won't tell me because she knows how much I hate him. She's never said one nice thing about him and he treats her like absolute crap, but now she's convinced he's "changed". Anyways the other day my phone got stolen and whoever stole it texted her and called her a slut and made fun of anorexic people and it turned into a whole big mess. Now at that time we weren't on the best of terms because of the whole her seeing her ex really upset me so whoever stole my phone essentially added fuel to the growing flames. She's been pretty upset with me and I get it because yeah it does look like I'm the one who said that stuff. But we have never in the 3 years we've known each other ever gotten in a fight, this is the first time we ever have. One of my friends has talked to her and said yes she is mad, but claims it isn't because of the texts I never sent and now I'm just even more confused.. I'm trying to set up a meeting with her so we can talk this out and get things back to the way the used to be, but I'm not exactly sure what to say. We have nearly dated and then something went wrong probably about 4 different times... Honestly the other 3 were my fault and this one is hers. Right now I'm just trying to save the friendship but she has been on my mind so much recently and it's weird to me. Before it was just a small crush and I'd get over it. Now it just feels like it's so much more and I really don't wanna lose her. What's my game plan here, what should I do? And stop talking to her isn't really an option so please don't say that.
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