daisy_098 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 (edited) So it's been 3 months since my boyfriend and I broke up and about a month in a half since NC. Our breakup was a messy one just for the fact I was left with confusion on why it happened. The last time we talked I told him I needed my space and needed no contact from him because he was still indecisive on what he wanted in his life period (his life is very unstable at the moment and chose to let me go in order to not have me involved in his problems and also I felt confused if he actually wanted me) Couple days later he had deleted me off social media and suggested it was for the best for him and nothing against me but wanted to "move on" as well as telling me to move on too. That alone hit me hard, yes I suggested the NC this time around but in my head I wonder why is this happening to me. I really thought this relationship was going amazing we really did love each other (well I still do) and I'm just confused on what went wrong. Throughout the past few weeks I've heard absolutely nothing about him nor seen nor texted not been around anywhere he's at. We work in the same company but not once have we bumped into each other . I must say it's been great because I get to spend more time with my friends and family who have helped me so so much through this healing process but this has also been so difficult because I'm constantly thinking about him missing him and hoping things were how they used to be. I know I should not keep hope anymore, and I slightly don't but there's still s piece of me that hopes we maybe will communicate again one day. There's been so many times I've wanted to contact him but I've been very strong and tell myself I did nothing wrong I shouldn't be chasing something that doesn't want to be in a relationship to begin with much less unstable. I've also deleted his number from my phone so I really have no way to contact him. I guess you can say this relationship was my truest one I've had and I really felt like he was the one. We dated for about a year but through that year I was the happiest as well as him until his stress took over . I guess you can say this was a lesson learned for whenever I'm ready to date again. Things do happen for a reason but sometimes it's hard to accept those reasons Edited July 16, 2015 by daisy_098
Gus Grimly Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 Things do happen for a reason but sometimes it's hard to accept those reasons Yeap. You're doing really well by sticking to NC. Good job!! Obviously deep down inside you know the relationship wasn't working. We all hang on to hope in these situations because we are in love and some things are worth fighting for. It's never easy watching your best friend/lover/teacher/confidant slip away. We grasp onto threads desperately trying to save the best thing we thought we ever had. *Poof*, gone ... we look around, dumbfounded how everything we worked so hard to achieve has vanished without a trace. How do we cope? How do we carry on without them in our lives?!?!? Answer is ..... we just do. 1
Ariess10 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 That's pretty much it , we just gotta keep on keep on .. I think after time goes on we start to see that the relationship we "thought" was soooo perfect really wasn't .. You start to see over time it wasn't that you thought it was, just the worlds sick way of showing us
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