whtelightn Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 I wonder if my ex is manic depressive. We work together and we were dating for 6 months last year. Yes, she is real moody, does not smile and get real snippy or has an attitude. SHe is 29. SHe lives at home with her parents and she works at the front desk. However when she was dating me she was real happy and everybody noticed she was smiling etc. I did ask her one time if she does get depressed and she said yes she does but does not want medicine to be all doped up. She broke off the realationship of invalid excuse. She was cold of a sudden in doing it like saying leave me alone until she finally said, she wants a house, car and then she issues and does not know how to grow and feeling pressured by her parents and that I am always around. I even asked her one more time in August and she just flipped out while my emotions were calm. When I even told her HER LOSS not mine she flipped even more and starting honking etc and stating do not ever contact her again and I am harassing her. 3 months of no contact and then all of a sudden decided to come and talk to me about my truck of an incident that happened outside. She wantd to tell me because one of my coworkers stated that I need to be told and she jumped at the chance. She was nervous as heck. SHe would make the contact all the time and if we did not talk for certain amount of time she would make an attempt to let me know that she is there or make up some kind of excuse. She even got jealous when my coworker went into my truck. Then in Feb she asked me to go with her to help the comptuer exchange because she felt that she would be taken advanatage of. AFter that she said that she will take me car shopping and house shopping when she goes( WTF, I thought we were broken up). SHe was also parking next to me back in November till April. Then she invited me to lunch 2 weeks before her Bday and the a week later she went to lunch with me when I asked.( Yes everybody saw this at the office and someone or few people might have asked her she is a private person). I even asked her to let me know if she would accept my inviation of me taking her out but she never let me know. Then I noticed she parked 4 spaces away. I sent the Bday card and then it was RETURN TO SENDER. I could not beleive it. I called her on it and she said she did not move and and she did that. She said that she read the other letter but it is returning it( it was telling her how I feel and when she is ready to let me know). I said it was just a bday card and she said I don;t want to hear it and that I AM BOTHERING HER. Oh my god. I am bothering her. Can you explain that. Now she parks 8 spaces away and avoids walking by my desk. There has been complaints about her the way she greets people, does not smile, and acts snippy. I mean I am bothering her by sending a Bday card after we were talking all this time and going out. Can you explain that to me. I cannot. I have been told watch and see what happens once her mood changes again she will seek me out if I am still there or when I leave( looking for a new job). I am in shock and that is a childish way to do that to me. I mean that is really extreme reaction. she accepted my xmas card and Vday card. Can someone help on this? Yes she is a loner and does not have hardly any friends etc. Sounds like to me she really has issues.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 Avoid her like the plague. She may have issues, but they are hers and hers alone to fix right now since you aren't a part of her life. Any 'help' you try to give is going to probably end up with her overreacting negatively and pegging you as the 'psycho ex' to anyone who will listen. Best not to get to that point. Shut her off, and refuse to let her be in contact with you in any way, shape or form. There is really nothing you can do that will really help her right now. At the very least, all you can do is try to talk to someone who can influence her - maybe her parents? There's no guarantee they'll listen to you though if your ex has given them the impression that you are the 'bad guy' in all this.
alphamale Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 if this "woman" was bipolar and not on medications, trust me, you and everyone in her life would know it.
Author whtelightn Posted May 4, 2005 Author Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia Avoid her like the plague. She may have issues, but they are hers and hers alone to fix right now since you aren't a part of her life. Any 'help' you try to give is going to probably end up with her overreacting negatively and pegging you as the 'psycho ex' to anyone who will listen. Wow that was a quick response. Your right she overreacting negatively, and wanted to make sure it was not me and if there was something wrong with me. Geez, I feel sorry for her in this matter. I just have a feeling that will seek me out again once I leave? Best not to get to that point. Shut her off, and refuse to let her be in contact with you in any way, shape or form. There is really nothing you can do that will really help her right now. At the very least, all you can do is try to talk to someone who can influence her - maybe her parents? There's no guarantee they'll listen to you though if your ex has given them the impression that you are the 'bad guy' in all this. Your right if I do that she will think I am the bad guy in all of this. I did write them a letter last time in stating the reason why I have not be around because that is the way she wanted it and letting them know it is not me that is their daughter. That was back in August and nothing was ever said but since the parents were treating me nice I had to let them thanks for their hospitailty.
Author whtelightn Posted May 4, 2005 Author Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale if this "woman" was bipolar and not on medications, trust me, you and everyone in her life would know it. How so Alphamale? She does not have any friends at all and she is a loner. EVerybody here at works thinks there is something wrong with her.
alphamale Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by whtelightn How so Alphamale? the regular hospital admissions for psychotic mania alternating with clinical depression would be a major tip off.
Author whtelightn Posted May 4, 2005 Author Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale the regular hospital admissions for psychotic mania alternating with clinical depression would be a major tip off. Well that has not happened and I am sure that can be kept quiet. To me the unusal reaction from hot to cold is extreme and then seeking me out again and I am not the only one who notices it. Everybody sees it, on how she acts. Again we are not experts or doctors but just our opinions right?
miso Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 there are degrees of everything alphamale someone can have mild bipolar, also there can be long time periods of normality inbetween episodes. however i am not sure if your ex sounds as though she is bipolar, sounds more like she has trust issues, hard to get close to people, gets scared, shoves them away, yearns for closeness...repeat cycle could be wrong...
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