regine_phalange Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 Absolutely. I personally value and admire modesty a lot. Especially on the successful people.
Author yxalitis Posted July 17, 2015 Author Posted July 17, 2015 I bet you sent her a message anyway. Me? No, not my type... I prefer a more laid back, calm, relaxed person, she sounds like a stress ball. 1
Phoe Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 I do believe there are people out there who can be "too fussy", but whether she is or isn't is impossible to say. We don't know what she wants, and we don't know what her experiences are.
Leigh 87 Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 I have been called too fussy many times..... One guy I felt no spark for. I could have grown attracted for sure but I really didn't feel excited about seeing him again despite him being super into me and the type of guy who had a decent job and would treat a girl well. I told him during our date that I didn't feel a spark but would like to be friends. I went and ordered my own dinner as I didn't want to him to pay when I had no romantic interest in him. We walked around the shops. I didn't agree to hold his hand or get close. If I were into a guy I would have accepted hand holding. He tried to kiss me end of our date. I declined. I just didn't feel sexually attracted to him. I didn't have urge to kiss him. He then told me " look... you're gonna stay single if you keep up your attitude..my mum took a year to warm up to my dad. .... " He then proceeded to text me. I had to tell him again that I wasn't interested. He responded with telling me that sparks and the giddy feeling and the crazy in love feelings are for fairy tales a day most couples get together and grow over time to feel excited. He reminded me again that I will remain single for ever if I only dated men who I felt the spark for. Two platonic male friends also called me too fussy for not wanting to date them in order to see if love could develop slowly. They wanted to settle down and they were not phased that they weren't crazy excited about dating me. Another three men earlier this year told me that I was making a huge mistake for rejecting them. They said my quest for a spark was unrealistic and I was way too fussy. I am constantly told that I'm too fussy. Fortunately, I have parents married for 30 plus years who both felt a spark. I have a good friend who felt fireworks with her bf and they are still crazy in love years later I don't even care what a man does for work. I simply need a man who is compatible, kind hearted and whoI have ssizzling chemistry with....The wow factor a day spark that makes you giddy with excitement and makes you wanna "make out " years later providing you stay together ( which comes down to compatability) Apparently, despite my lack of preference for body type, height so long as he is not stupidly shorter then my 166 cm average frame and the fact I don't care about job or income. . And I am STILL called too " fussy" to actually feel excited about date number two with a man ...... I think you have to take what you can get also. Men I feel chemistry with and feel excited about happen to be into me some of the time. So I date them rather than men I am not excited about dating.
DaisyBug Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 I have been called too fussy many times..... It's funny how it's literally a man's God-given right to choose a woman based purely on sexual chemistry, but heaven forbid should a woman expect to have the same!!
Author yxalitis Posted July 17, 2015 Author Posted July 17, 2015 It's funny how it's literally a man's God-given right to choose a woman based purely on sexual chemistry, but heaven forbid should a woman expect to have the same!! No one here suggested this...men here are often put down for being too shallow, and the woman supported for standing up for their rights...
S_A Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 (edited) Ok guys, I saw the profile that prompted this thread. My take away from her profile is that she does NOT think she is Ms. Perfect and that she is NOT expecting to land Mr. Perfect. Funny how two people can interpret the same thing so differently. yxalitis, wtf man? lol. You sure you did not skip over a crucial line in her profile? I mean it's a decently long write up for an OLD profile, but you miss one or two key sentences in there and I can see how you'd misinterpret it. In the looks department she would never catch my eye. It's not because I think she is ugly though. She looks nice, but everyone has different tastes. I just have a taste for a different flavor is all. I totally expected something else though. BTW guys, my small dick comment was sort of a joke (I was serious about The Rock supposedly having a small dick though). And you know what, if she wants a guy with a big package then I don't see a problem with that. Edited July 17, 2015 by S_A
DaisyBug Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 No one here suggested this...men here are often put down for being too shallow, and the woman supported for standing up for their rights... I'm not talking about here, but in general. She was saying how these guys kept telling her that if she doesn't hook up with them (despite not being turned on by them) she'll never find anyone, yet no doubt they were hitting her up because they thought she was hot. Guys say all the time that they shouldn't have to date a woman they're not sexually attracted to, and even say that they want to dump their wives/leave their families because they're not turned on anymore. It's simply more socially acceptable for a man to choose/dump partners based on lust than it is a woman, though that is indeed changing.
Popsicle Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 Me? No, not my type... I prefer a more laid back, calm, relaxed person, she sounds like a stress ball. Good. Popsicle
ZA Dater Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 You are only too fussy if you never find anyone who ticks all the boxes.
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