unchat6 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 (edited) I am 18, my gf is 19 (6 months older). I met her when we were both 16, and . She was a junior, and i was a repeat sophomore (prep school). I had heard she wasnt a promiscuous girl like everyone else, so i immediately registered that as "shes not a slut" She sort of liked me her junior year, but really like me her senior year. We started hanging out during the summer after she graduated, lost our virginity to each other, and started dating (its been about a year) Back when we had started talking her senior year, and when i didnt hang out with her for a long time despite promising i would, she had tried to gauge my interest in her by mentioning she had a ninth grade boyfriend. It didnt even click in my head until months later when we, drunk in her dorm room, had the exes talk: turns out, he wasnt really her bf, she had only gotten with him three times in ninth grade, and made out with three people her sophomore year. She didnt hook up with anyone her junior or senior years of high school. I had only hooked up with one girl casually, but for about 4 months when i was 16. Hearing this, i figured my gf must have been pretty innocent. I few make out sessions is nothing for prep school, at least the one we went to. But then last month i found out she gave her ninth grade bf a bj, despite only getting with him three times. She said it didnt seem like a big deal because all her friends were doing it, she thought she might be with him, and thought she had liked him enough, but realized afterwards she hadn't liked him enough to do so, and stopped getting with him. Obviously, this shook me. Part of the reason i fell in love with this girl is i thought she was different than everyone else, but I have started to question her, or if the person i fell in love with was a lie. I love spending time with her, but i cant help but feel she had lower standards. Obvi she didnt, as she realized it was a mistake, but i cant help but feel ninth grade girls shouldnt be doing that so casually, but i was in 11th grade when i did something as casual. Why am i feeling this way? Should i be questioning her or her past? Is her past really that bad (virgin, never fingered, one bj?) i dont know what to think anymore, but i know that when i spend time with her, i have fun. I just feel as though i wouldnt have wanted to go out with her if i had known this then, and it scares me. I need some reassurance or an ass-kicking, please Thanks and sorry its so long Edited July 16, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and toned down the sexual content a little
Satu Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 Her past belongs to her, not you. You have to love her exactly as she is, and if you can't, step aside so she can find someone who does. 2
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