cece7 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Not really sure how to start this but here it goes: We have been together for 5 years and 3 kids in, and we have had issues for a while. The last big blow out we had, he said " he fell out of love with me a long time ago and I wasn't the woman for him", after a very long conversation we decided to work on things. He has OCD and things need to be a certain way, and I keep promising to do things in a way that won't annoy him, but time and time again, I fail. Things have been okay for a bit and now coming back home after a week away.(Sorry let me back things up a bit, in the past 5 years he has gained some weight, our relationship issues, depression has now set in full force) He tells me that he doesn't want to work on our relationship anymore. I seen this coming but, I thought that we've made it this far that we would get through it, but I am numb and he is/was my world (other than my kids). I just sit here..... Any advice would be appreciated.
understand50 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Not really sure how to start this but here it goes: We have been together for 5 years and 3 kids in, and we have had issues for a while. The last big blow out we had, he said " he fell out of love with me a long time ago and I wasn't the woman for him", after a very long conversation we decided to work on things. He has OCD and things need to be a certain way, and I keep promising to do things in a way that won't annoy him, but time and time again, I fail. Things have been okay for a bit and now coming back home after a week away.(Sorry let me back things up a bit, in the past 5 years he has gained some weight, our relationship issues, depression has now set in full force) He tells me that he doesn't want to work on our relationship anymore. I seen this coming but, I thought that we've made it this far that we would get through it, but I am numb and he is/was my world (other than my kids). I just sit here..... Any advice would be appreciated. Some information please. When you say you were "working" on your relationship, what were you doing? IC, MC, Date night? Are you having regular Sex? Is he being treated for Depression? So.... Get into IC and MC if you have not. Get him treatment for Depression, and read up on what you can do to help. I found this helpful, it got me started on trying to find a away to "fix" my marriage when it was in trouble. May help you as well. Free Marriage Counseling: How to Do it Yourself | The Art of Manliness Wish you luck. 1
Author cece7 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 Well we were working on it, should I say. He accused me of not communicating with him on a regukar about things other than family issues, also he had issues with the way I cleaned/tidy the house, it wasn't that it wasn't decent, but it didn't always look like a hotel, Perfection. I did the best I could with 3 young kids running around all day. I asked too manu questions and I'm a terrible decision maker on the spot, all things he wanted me to work on. I went to counselling in the beginning of our issues but stopped because I couldn't get sitter after 3 months, tried MC but it was a joke to him. Date Night became non existant after the 2nd last child and him working overnight. We stopped having sex once complications with the last child in early 2014 and nothing since then. He says its cause his weight gain and because I do things that he can't understand, he has no sex appeal for me. What does IC mean? I must sound pathetic, but he was my everything, I lost all my friends, social network and now I'm losing him. I am left with 3 kids, and no one else.I am just numb,
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