LizzyLizAP Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 My ex and I have been broken up for well over a year and he is dating someone else and they live together for almost a year. He jumped right into a new relationship. Now, he is calling me more, saying he loves me, and then some days he saids he doesn't and that he's just joking. I feel silly to still fall for him calling me. I have moved on with my life, but, he keeps coming back in it and it does set me back, I feel overwhelmed because, he's still the love of my life and I know that I should be over it but, I just love him so much still. I feel that he is with the lady for his own reasons and like I told him, he made his decision. For him to leave me alone and allow me to move on with my life too. He keeps saying that he will get back with me, that he wants to see me, blah, blah, blah but, I just don't want to deal with him when I know he is with someone else. It is not my style to be involve with a guy even him being my ex when I know he is with someone else. He likes her enough to be with her and to live with her. SO, I just don't know what to do. I am moving to the city he works in, in a few weeks to finish school and I just feel like why is he coming back in my life, I thought I was progressing and then he starts calling me every week and then I take a step backwards. I am confused, he saids I am tough, but, it's just because, I love and respect myself and I will not entertain him, when I know he is shacking up with someone else. He saids that she is not the type he will married, yet, he is with her. I am just like you wont have your cake and eat it too with me. So, I suffer in silence and just try to be positive. It's very stressful because, I really do love him and we broke up because, of distance but, I will not entertain someone who is with someone else. He made his choice so just leave me alone. HELP anyone going through something similar or know what I can do to heal and let this go? I am confused...:(
Got it Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Lizzy, it depends on how much of a door you want to leave open for him. Right now he is playing both sides, and you can see that. Why don't you block him? Think about it this way, what is he offering you? He breaks up with you and isn't compassionate enough to take in account your heart and just keeps you hanging on. What kind of "love" is that? I know it is hard, it comes down to what you want and what you want to prioritize. (((()))))) 1
Author LizzyLizAP Posted July 15, 2015 Author Posted July 15, 2015 Got it....Your so right. I told him not to call me anymore and I am the one that broke up with him but, he hasn't called me since. I made my mind up that I will not pick up the phone anymore even if he does call me. Thank you so much! 1
AppleKakes Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 IMO, not fair if he thinks you should just sit around on a Saturday nite by the phone awaiting his call while he's burning up the sheets with her. Good deal, tell him until he's "single and available" you have a life to live. I mean, stuff happens...sometimes we meet someone and they have someone else. But you two were broken up and he has moved on....period. So, he had the chance to try with you again before starting with her and he chose not to. So, who is he to now disrupt your life and try to get you all preoccupied over him? BTW? Who dumped who? And, no, I don't believe in "we decided to break up".
Author LizzyLizAP Posted July 21, 2015 Author Posted July 21, 2015 AppleKakes....YOUR RIGHT, I have, if he is single and I am interested, I'll consider it, and cross that bridge when I get there until then, holla. Yes, things do happen but, he had enough time to make up his mind, so it is what it is at this point, I told him if he wants to be friends, then leave all that relationship and romance stuff off the table, don't call me every week, call like a friend once in a blue moon and I broke up with him, mainly because of the distance, and I didn't have time to keep on begging it felt for him to spend time with me. So, I was like it's over. Funny thing is once he got with his "gf" he has been trying to see me, like every other week, and I lived in another city. Not going to lie, I love him still, and probably always will but, I am a woman first and it is not right I feel to get involve with someone in a relationship, regardless of our history. So, it is what it is at this point and I am solely focusing on my own life. Only GOD knows what the future will have in store.
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