Addie11939 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Recently I have started to feel unloved and unwanted by my gf who I have been with for 3 years, not had a single problem when we was together sex was good quiet regular but now nothing she is just pushing me away, she has become friends with this bloke and her daughter he is 30 and she is 22 I have met I'm and we'll she is more active with him like she will make more of a conversation with him then me and go to his house on a daily basic as I work 6 hours she doesn't even ask how my day was, also he is buying her takeaways and tobacco like my money isn't good enough she is admit that nothing is going on but she is just pushing me away all the time. Any help,advice anything would do Thank you for reading
preraph Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Jeez, she's certainly doing this right under your nose. What worries me is -- is she not inviting you along? Is it always just her leaving and going to see him and the daughter? Do you guys have kids? Are your kids going? If you have kids too and they also go, it could be absolutely nothing. But if she's letting him buy her things, I see it as a red flag. You need to sit down and tell her that from where you're sitting, it sure seems like she is dating this guy and just let her explain her way out of that. Good luck. I mean, are we both seeing other people now? It's a fair question. But not if you have a kid also going.
Author Addie11939 Posted July 15, 2015 Author Posted July 15, 2015 We have a son and I look after him at night when she goes round and I work drawing the day so she take him with her and I have sat down and talked but she always says you know where the door is if your not happy I don't gave a problem with her being friends with him far from it its just the fact of her pushing me away
preraph Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 She owes you a bit more of a talk than that. Look, I'm kind of -- not passive-aggressive, but aggressive-aggressive. If it were me, I'd start going round to this fellow's house with a six pack and CHEERFULLY hang out until I got the gist of what's going on. He can't well tell you to go away and only send your woman over. But don't go over there with an attitude. Just be friendly, like as if you've seen the light because your wife enjoys his company, and now you understand why and will also be enjoying his company. This should break up that little party right away if anything is going on -- and if it's not, you'll be free to visit right along with her. It probably won't take long to find out the tone of what's going on over there. Hopefully, it's just friends, but you are a guy, so you know how rare that can be. It's hugely important that you beat her over there. Don't give her any reason to say you're checking up by coming over after she's there. Just start trying to be friends with the guy. Find out what he likes. Be his buddy. She shouldn't mind if it's all innocent. If she has a cow about it, well, we're back to you know where the door is.
Grumpybutfun Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 It sounds as if she takes you and what you do for her for granted. I know this hurts, but you have to establish some boundaries and figure out if she is still in this relationship or if she is just using you to provide for her. You said she told you that there was the door and so you can leave anytime....that to me signals that she is using you for money and is already starting something with the other guy. She doesn't care if you leave...because she already has someone in line to replace you. Sorry, man, this stinks, G 5
lil hoodlum Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Two can play at that game. When she leaves to go over to that guys house, invite a nice young lady friend to "hang out" over to your house. If that upsets your girlfriend, then maybe she will be less inclined to leave the house. I don't really advocate playing games with others. So sorry you are going through this. I fear that this is not going to work out in your favor.
Author Addie11939 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 Thank you all for your advice I took it upon myself to speak to the guy and he admits he has feeling for my gf but she doesn't and she goes round their a lot because he asked her too because he is lonely tbh that's no excuse so I have hidden a camera in my living room and bedroom incase I'm at work and she brings him home, I trust her of course but not really getting a correct answer from her
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