ptopes Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 My ex and I broke up 4 months ago due to constant petty fights. I recently texted him and we met up yesterday to talk and catch up. We ended up talking about what happened towards the end of the meetup. I ended up telling him that I do want to be single, and I don't want things to be awkward when we hang out with mutual friends. He said that's fine. But then I opened up and told him I still cared about him and a part of me does want him back in the future once our lives are together. He agreed. He seemed reluctant at first, but then he hugged me and wouldn't let go. Every time he did, he pulled me back. I could tell he really wanted to kiss me since he kept on looking at my lips. After some hugging, he told me he still cares more than a friend, and that he thinks there's a good chance of getting back together. He said he misses me and what we had. But we both agreed that if we were to date, we need to be friends first for a better foundation... But when we hugged, he was leaning his forehead against mine when we hugged and everything. He mentioned how he still kept all of our photos and occasionally runs through them and whatnot. I guess I just want your opinions on if this seems like he actually misses me or just the idea of me :/
acapelo_dp Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 It's too early to tell whether or not he just misses your company or wants you back. Does he talk about sex, or is interested in spending time with you? If you are willing to try and get back together you will need to spend more time with him and find that out. If his actions matches his words, he makes dates and keeps them and starts "dating" you again then it looks good. I got back together with my ex a little over a month ago (we dated for 1.5 years before and broke up for 3.5 months) and we basically just started hanging out again and having a good time. He would ask me on dates and keep his word, then we naturally became exclusive again and he has been amazing. Also be careful because if you are both serious about getting back together after going on some dates then you have to actually work on fixing the problems that broke you up in the first place or it will never work. Communication and starting a brand new relationship is key. Do not pick up where you left off or it will end in disaster. Good luck
Author ptopes Posted July 15, 2015 Author Posted July 15, 2015 Thank you for your advice. I told him if I were in the area that if it would be okay to grab some lunch or dinner from time to time and he said that would be fine. The only thing that makes me nervous is that he did mention how he did want to have sex with me. He made several comments on how physically attractive I was. He hadn't mentioned anything yet about genuinely wanting to spend down time with him or anything.
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