Herpaderppicklez Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Ok so about a year ago in May 2014 I started dating this girl I'd liked for months and in the November 2014 I broke it off because I didn't think it was going anywhere. The relationship hadn't been taken as serious as I'd liked it to be, she couldn't find time for me for example. I immediately regretted the decision and we spoke about getting back together "very soon" but a week or so afterwards she, after agreeing to go on a date the next day, kissed my best friend at a party while I was in the room. I was put off by it and lost all interest in her, she begged for me back and said her head was in a mess after the break up but I ignored what she had to say. In March 2015 earlier this year we began to talk again and I became attracted to her again. I've pursued her up until now. She was in a relationship for two months with a friend, from March when I started talking to her again until May. I've told her I have strong feelings about her but she won't tell me how she feels but says she likes me but doesn't feel ready for a relationship. She has told me she wants a relationship in the future but says it could take a while before we become an "item" again. This gutted me as I feel like I am in love with her. What should I do? Forget about a relationship with her or continue to pursue a relationship with her for the future? Thanks from Joe Also, this post may make her sound horrible but I've known her for years and she is actually a nice person when it comes to friendships and stuff. This is just how she is about relationships.
smackie9 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 What she really meant was, she was never really into you...that's why she never made time for you BUT she was more interested in the other guy. She isn't interested in a relationship WITH YOU. She will hang out with you and take advantage of the fact you like her until she meets someone she wants to be in a relationship with. There you have it. Do not waste your time on any girl that gives excuses as to why they can't be with you...they actually never wanted to in the first place. 1
empresario Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Just because she is a nice person and has no ill-intent, it doesn't mean she isn't kind of a jerk. Look at it this way. This has nothing to do with you. Let that sink in for a second. She isn't worried about what you're feeling. She's worried about what SHE's feeling. My read, take it for what it's worth, is she is severely damaged and probably depressed. She seeks validation and attention from men. When she can't find it, she goes to you. She has kept you on the hook for years. She lives on it. It's to make her feel better. If you want to end the cycle, you have to move on. She doesn't want you as a boyfriend/lover/husband. She wants validation.
acrosstheuniverse Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Forget about it. If she really liked you she'd be with you now, she wouldn't be saying 'maybe someday'. Move on with your life and date other people. She's dangling you on a piece of string as backup. When I like someone enough to want to be their girlfriend there's nothing I want more than to ya know, actually be with them. If I was willing to put it off, see other people, risk the guy meeting someone else, I'd know I truly wasn't even remotely into him!
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