contel3 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 I had this weird experience today. Talked to my ex for a few minutes and suddenly I felt like someone had slapped me in the face. Like really hard. I looked at him and realised just how INCREDIBLY STUPID this guy is. I felt almost sad realising this. Anyone experienced something similar? 2
GammaLeonis Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 See my thread. That definitely hit me today. Not that she's stupid. She just turns into this crazed sucubbus every now and then. Can't tell if I'm scared or weirded out.
Starks Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 yup, I made a simular thread about how I was glad my ex didn't give me a second chance because it allowed me to move on to a much better woman.
Gus Grimly Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 I'm not able to see it, but my best friend and folks seem to think I have. Certainly I've got rose colored shades on.
aloneinaz Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Oh hell yea! My last ex was a nightmare or mood swings, irrational behavior, anger, temper, etc.. One minute she loved me and I was the love of her life to an hour later when she totally devalued me.. Classic BPD symptoms.. It took me awhile to figure out what was wrong with me in that I put up with her BS for so long. I've come to peace with it and met a NORMAL, mentally healthy woman that I've been with for 2 years. I can't imagine how F'd up my life would be if I was still with that train wreck.. 2
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 When I used to talk to my ex she'd act normal and I'd miss her. Then I remember her crazy side and I thank myself every day I didn't knock her up or marry her. Easy to fall in love with, impossible to have a relationship with 1
Ariess10 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 I'm starting to see my ex was very very selfish , so I guess it's a start
arsenal78 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 More and more everyday. With breaking up, it's almost like you enter a reverse "honeymoon stage" where you're shocked it's over, you look at all the good, and make irrational attempts to justify why you want him/her back but eventually in time, that just like the honeymoon phase fades and real life hits you that maybe, just maybe you're really better off in the long run. I feel like Keanu Reeves by this point, I've dodged so many bullets. 3
candie13 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Dated a dude for 7 years and yeah, the break up was nasty - I've basically dumped him. The guy way constantly in contact with me, every month or so, for the last 5 years. Anyway, I had just dumped the latest guy and this old ex had a terrible timing with his text, so I started picking on him... and then... how can I say, I've got him talking and just... let him talk, asked questions and listened. I was in awe... Really ? For this? That is it? That's all? It was an epic moment, I felt like sending the guy flowers and a gift after that pseudo-quarrel ended. I totally felt like I had dodged a bullet. BIG BIG time !
mightycpa Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 No. In all the cases where it was difficult for me to leave the RS behind, all my girlfriends were great. That said, the one that hurt me most got married and divorced multiple times, and has multiple fathers for her kids, so I guess I'd have been in for a world of hurt sooner or later. I just got mine sooner. I guess that intellectually, I'm glad, but if I reach down into my feelings and examine them truthfully, it still feels like I took the bullet, not dodged it.
candie13 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 I had held a huuuuge torch towards my ex of 7 years, it took me 5 years to take him off the pedestal and realize... sh*t, that probably would have been the biggest mistake of my life. I most prob would have ended up in a divorce and wouldn't have had a clue as to why... I truly feel immensely lucky. Strange, to hear a 35 years old women saying that
Arieswoman Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 A couple of years after i divorced my first husband I slowly realised how fortunate I was that I was now free of him. It took a while to sink in but his cheating really did me a favour as I could see what he was really like, and get rid.
foolinlove79 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 It takes a while to get to that point i think. My ex is ****ed financially. Selfish. Entire relationship on his terms. No compromising or discussion about issues. Needy. Demanding. Critical. More baggage then the average guy i think. Would only make time for me when it suited him. Expected me to fit my life around his. I was not a priority. I think he only wants a gf to avoid being on his own and lonely. For financial help. For sex. Yeah i dodged a bullet 1
Ariess10 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 Well at least now I don't have to sit around on holidays waiting for her , seeing how I wasn't allowed over to her moms , I'll never get why that bitter woman didn't like me .. So ya I guess I dodged a bullet in not having kids and them being around a miserable woman like that
Latino4Lyfe Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 I myself, feel like I dodged a bullet with my ex girlfriend. Granted it kind of sucks to look back and realize all the money, time, and love spent trying to go above and beyond for someone that in return could give 2 sh**s if you were dead or alive and then see/hear about the aftermath of the break up. For instance, on my side, I'm healthy, blessed with a wonderful job on the verge of another potential promotion soon and my family health issues are finally starting to get better for them. My ex on the other hand last I heard around from people...claims to be "trying" to get her life together and making up excuses only to still be hanging around negative people, hanging out at bars feeding her alcohol addiction and spending money she does not have and just being vulgar. It makes me sad sometimes to hear that, but at the same time as myself and others have said, this was what she wanted so there you have it.
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