ird Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Hello LS, I recently got an OKcupid account and things have been going as expected. Mostly uninteresting guys, few rare ones that I connect with. I was 'liked' by a guy that had a very extensive profile (lots of work put into his about me, questions, etc.) He had strictly stated the type of girl he was looking for and I seemingly hit every target he described. Seemed quite genuine. I 'liked' him back and we started messaging, we got along very well in my eyes. I enjoyed talking to him greatly. He asked me to write him a long email about what i want in a man and what i expect in a relationship, so I wrote to him. I pretty much described him (which was the truth) and I described wanting something extremely similar to what he wanted. However, ever since sending him that, he never replied. He logged into OKC the day after. He never even read my KIK messages I sent (nothing weird, just 'hey what's up?' to start a conversation.) A week or so after not talking, I tried texting him (we exchanged numbers) just saying hello, along those lines. He never responded. He's 30, and a nurse in the ER so I know he's extremely busy. From what I gathered from our chats he's never had a "serious" relationship. However he could be lying about everything, which is a shame because he seemed so genuine. Anyway LS, what do you think happened? I don't know why he couldn't shoot me a message saying that he isn't interested, even after me texting him that one time. I find it very unlikely that he found someone the day after we stopped talking and became immediately smitten and swore off his OKC account and texting other people such as me. He seemed very mature/sincere so I simply don't understand. I've entertained the thought about him being married and getting busted. I felt as if I was what he was describing in his 'about me' so I really don't get it. What do you guys think of my situation? I really have no hope of ever talking to him again but I'd like other opinions on this.
yxalitis Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 It doesn't mater "what happened"we can only guess, like you are. The point is, he's not interested, move on. You never met him, he could have turned out to be a waste of time anyway, all the texts and phone calls in the world don't stop that happening.
babycakees Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 This isn't a weird OLD situation. This is the norm. Get used to it unfortunately. Guys move on fast.
deathandtaxes Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 He pulled a fade. Nothing peculiar to OLD. Keep on keeping on.
IronZ Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 The same thing that happens to me constantly on OLD sites. I meet a girl I think is cool, she thinks I'm cool. We seemingly hit it off. Then out of nowhere she disappears. This happens more often than you think. Move on to the next one.
xcupid Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 No point in guessing what happened. If he had been interested he would have gotten back to you fast. Time to chalk it up to experience and move on.
Bobbi7 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Yikes! He ain't responding, most likely he's not interested...
joseb Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 This is why I keep communication to a minimum on OLD, and I don't invest emotionally. As far as I'm concerned, until I meet someone, there is really nothing there. In this case it could be a few things - you came across too strong in your email, or he thought you were trying to say the things he wanted to hear or he said the same thing to 10 girls and some of the other emails he got were better or he was already seeing one or more girls from OLD or IRL, and one of them became more serious The reason he hasn't replied to say he is not interested is because that that is easier. If he replied, there is a possibility of you replying and continuing to discuss, and he just doesn't want the drama when pulling a fade is easier. I'm not saying he is right to do that, but it's pretty much par for the course on OLD.
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