seany25 Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Been chatting to this woman for the last 3 months first on Facebook then added snapchat & after that she sent me her number. So we used all 3 then. She was through a lot with an ex just before we started talking & he tried to kill her & stuff. So in light of that, as we began to get closer, she told me not to feel like I had to "wait on her". But I said I didn't mind giving her space to heal as she would be worth waiting for. We're both 30. We haven't met yet but we were due to meet very soon plus I've invited her to my sister's wedding. She is incredibly beautiful inside & out. Has both been through a lot & achieved a lot. I foresaw us getting together & being together because she is honestly the most beautiful woman I've encountered. She has not in any way tried to use anything that has happened to her as a manipulative mechanism to get a guy on board to take care of her blah blah - she prides herself on being strong & independent. Anyways, last week we had a slight debate publicly on Facebook about young people who get up to no good. I was specifically speaking my mind about car hijacking that happens a lot around here & voicing my contempt for the culprits who do this. On the contrary she was saying they should be helped & sympathized with as they have been brought up the wrong way or may have psychological issues etc... She is a social worker so I understand her angle but this particular crimes has aggravated me so much I called them vermin & wee rats, which she didn't like. That was nearly a week ago & she deleted the conversation the next day. I sent her a text asking was she ok. I waited a few days & sent her an explanation on Facebook about why I said what I did & apologized for pissing her off. She has ignored me & I'm a little depressed about it because all the things I've been hoping for us seem to be going down the pan, & for what, a difference of opinion? She is busy as she has 3 kids & a career plus her recovery to deal with so I understood anytime she went off the radar for a few days. However this feels different, she has actually ignored me. I was thinking though, if she absolutely wanted nothing to do with me again, surely she would have blocked me from everything?.... Maybe she's just letting me sweat. Maybe she actually is done & we're done. I can only hope for the best & expect the worst. I'm not gunna contact her again & see what happens. In fact I'm not even going on Facebook or using snapchat again for a while. Gunna go completely off the radar. Hope she realizes an opinion is a silly thing to throw away a potentially great relationship for.
craw Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Jeez your entire relationship is based around a cellphone. Why don't you call and see her face to face more often? Stop using social media to keep your relationship going. Try this for about three weeks and then come back here with a report. I don't even understand why you two haven't met as yet? 1
Gloria25 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Dude, I lost count of the red flags here... -Suicidal over a break up with some guy (I mean, how much do her kids mean to her if she was willing to take her life and leave them behind?) -3 kids. Are they the same daddy? Is she divorced. -You two have serious disagreements on serious topics/issues. Why do I have the feeling that you're more intrigued by her "outer" beauty here? Dude, last thing she needs are men in her life. Three kids should keep her busy and all her time needs to be spent with them cuz obviously she isn't mentally healthy to even have hamburgers on a weekend (when the kids are with the dad and/or relatives) with a dude without getting suicidal over him. 2
Author seany25 Posted July 15, 2015 Author Posted July 15, 2015 Jeez your entire relationship is based around a cellphone. Why don't you call and see her face to face more often? Stop using social media to keep your relationship going. Try this for about three weeks and then come back here with a report. I don't even understand why you two haven't met as yet? At the start she wasn't ready to meet a guy so I remained patient. Then last week I suggested we meet soon after our holidays, but literally the next day this incident happened & messed it all up.
Author seany25 Posted July 15, 2015 Author Posted July 15, 2015 Dude, I lost count of the red flags here... -Suicidal over a break up with some guy (I mean, how much do her kids mean to her if she was willing to take her life and leave them behind?) Where have you read suicidal? It says her ex tried to kill her. -3 kids. Are they the same daddy? Is she divorced. Not married but kids have different dads. -You two have serious disagreements on serious topics/issues. It was in fact a serious disagreement about only one particular topic, because she is a social worker & I slandered certain young criminals whereas she is sympathetic to them in that they need rehabilitation. Why do I have the feeling that you're more intrigued by her "outer" beauty here? I'm certainly intrigued by he outer beauty, but honestly I'm also fascinated by what's on the inside too. She has achieved a lot of great things like a "street Angels" project type thing where volunteers patrol streets at night ensuring women get home safely etc. that's just one thing, but she's very inspiring & alluring. Dude, last thing she needs are men in her life. Three kids should keep her busy and all her time needs to be spent with them cuz obviously she isn't mentally healthy to even have hamburgers on a weekend (when the kids are with the dad and/or relatives) with a dude without getting suicidal over him. You are correct that she is quite a busy woman. But now that I've told you she was not suicidal & you read it wrong, you might have a slightly different opinion?
Gloria25 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 You are correct that she is quite a busy woman. But now that I've told you she was not suicidal & you read it wrong, you might have a slightly different opinion? She is busy setting up volunteer programs rather than actually raise her kids - whom all have different dads that she didn't even marry? And, instead of her concentrating on her kids, she's busy with dudes - which will probably end up in kid 4, 5, 6. What an honorable and inspiring woman...geesh, boy I was wrong here. Now that you put it that way, she's a catch in my book
Lois_Griffin Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Good Lord, 3 kids from different fathers, and not even one husband in her past? You're a brave guy, wanting to take this woman and her litter of kids on. Since she seems to have a 'souvenir' kid from just about every guy she dates, one would HAVE to assume she doesn't understand even the basics of contraception. If you do end up meeting and dating Fertile Myrtle, you'd better be scrupulous with birth control since she isn't. Otherwise, you'll be adding kid number #4 to her growing list. So be SMART. And for God's sakes, you didn't 'slander' anyone. Your lady friend is what's wrong with this world - she's got too damned much 'compassion' for the delinquents that run roughshod all over the place nowadays because their parents cant control them. Maybe if they got the kick in the ass they so badly NEED, they'd straighten up. Patting them on the head and giving them tea and cookies like she wans to do is stupid and ineffectual. And she's a fool if she's going to act like a damned baby because you happen to have a difference of opinion. I can almost guarantee you that boatload of kids she's got are probably going to grow up and be JUST like the hood rats she keeps defending. Surely there are other ladies you can spend your time and effort on that don't come with more baggage than the main terminal at Heathrow Airport? 1
Arieswoman Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Surely there are other ladies you can spend your time and effort on that don't come with more baggage than the main terminal at Heathrow Airport? Ten characters.
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