torturedartist Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Hey everyone I signed up just to ask this. I met an amazing girl I am 25 she is 20. We have everything in common. The day I met her we texted a little bit then it went cold for two days and she agreed to meet up this past Sunday. Well Sunday morning she said we would meet and then she canceled and didn't text me all day. Well Monday we decided to meet and we hit it off or so I thought. We went for dinner then she wanted to get ice cream so we did then we watched a movie then went for a walk. During the movie she reached for my hand and was all over me. This girl I was so into I didn't even want to kiss her because I didn't wanna move to fast. We ended up going back to her house and we chilled for a minute and then we parted ways we talked about another date which we discussed before this weekend but then she said maybe tomorrow meaning today. She told me to message her when I got home. I ended up messaging her and telling her I had a great time and I look forward to seeing her again. Then I messaged her telling her I made it home and hope she has a good night. I woke up and waited but she never texted back soni sent her q message asking if she wanted to meet up again for a walk and she didn't even respond so its been almost 24 hours. I know o might have texted her too fast. I don't want to seem desperate but this girl is the girl I have been looking for 2 years. She is an amazing woman and would love to see her again. How long should I wait so message her again or call her. I don't care if there is competition because I want to know more about this woman. Sorry for long question. I hate to do this to you, but I need to point out that rather than meet this girl (in real time and space) and tell her that you like her, you chose to stick to a very easy and safe method of conveying thoughts and feelings to other people: texting. Dude, throughout history women have been drawn to the here-and-now events of men. That's how bands make it. They provide something to people (women primarily) that is here and now. Call it live. Call it non-canned. There's something about the tangible that really speaks to a woman. And your text messages weren't tangible. They were digital. They could be stored for any amount of time and come out in perfect working conditions, making them preservable. You just bought a Hallmark card and sent it to her. She needs more than Hallmark cards. 1
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 I hate to do this to you, but I need to point out that rather than meet this girl (in real time and space) and tell her that you like her, you chose to stick to a very easy and safe method of conveying thoughts and feelings to other people: texting. Dude, throughout history women have been drawn to the here-and-now events of men. That's how bands make it. They provide something to people (women primarily) that is here and now. Call it live. Call it non-canned. There's something about the tangible that really speaks to a woman. And your text messages weren't tangible. They were digital. They could be stored for any amount of time and come out in perfect working conditions, making them preservable. You just bought a Hallmark card and sent it to her. She needs more than Hallmark cards. You are very right I should have done something in person but I guess all I can do is live and learn. I love your analogy though. Makes perfect sense. I will start thinking that way more.
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 I understand your predicament so well. You have no idea. Seriously go read my thread. Basically the same situation. We had such an incredible date and she was so chipper about seeing me again and even sent me a text after getting home thanking me and so on. And then just dead silence. So freakin confusing! Honestly I doubt either of us did anything wrong. Think about it. One moment everything is a-okay and the next they're either gone or coming up with excuses? Maybe these girls found what they perceive to be a better option and you're off their list for no good reason. One of the dangers of online dating I suppose. You have so many fish in the sea that you tend to get choosy. Grass is always greener as some would call it. The best relationships I had were girls I went to school with. Girls I grew up with and was already friends with. Meeting a complete stranger online and expecting them to be right for you is kind of crazy when you think about it. It's too bad I'm not in school anymore. I miss those days Thanks a lot man yes its crazy. I didn't meet her online. I met her at school and she was definitely all over me and then when I left she acted like we never met. I guess what separates a man from a boy is being able to move on and not stay in the same place wondering what if.
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 Apologies if I offended you.... You too IronZ. . No your good I was just being a B%$tch and didn't wanna hear the truth its all good now though. She can do whatever cause when she comes texting me back I won't be replying. I oo many fine ass women to be hung up on one.
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