ChicagoSparty Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 Please don't get hung up on 20 year old girls.
Author onelove89 Posted July 15, 2015 Author Posted July 15, 2015 Please don't get hung up on 20 year old girls. I'm trying not to lol. It's been two years since me and my ex broke up after a 5 year relationship and my life went to **** since. I don't have family support or friends that I talk about it to. So when I connect with a woman I really get clingy and hopeful I'm not a bad looking guy I don't think lol I'm just shy.
the watcher Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 She is an amazing woman: no she is not.Only in your mind. Poor way to treat you. Forget her.
Author onelove89 Posted July 19, 2015 Author Posted July 19, 2015 OK so she replied last night for the first time since the date and her text was "hey are you up?" So I waited a few minutes and said "yea what's up" then she said "sorry for going mia I do that sometimes I had a lot of fun on our date I just got nervous about some of the things you shared with me" I then responded with "what made you nervous?" Then she just stopped messaging me since last night. Wtf should I just ignore her when she messages me again and make her wait a few days to hear back from me?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 OK so she replied last night for the first time since the date and her text was "hey are you up?" So I waited a few minutes and said "yea what's up" then she said "sorry for going mia I do that sometimes I had a lot of fun on our date I just got nervous about some of the things you shared with me" I then responded with "what made you nervous?" Then she just stopped messaging me since last night. Wtf should I just ignore her when she messages me again and make her wait a few days to hear back from me? Cut communication with her. She's playing games. Do you really want to get involved with someone who puts you through an obstacle course just to communicate with her?
introverted1 Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 OK so she replied last night for the first time since the date and her text was "hey are you up?" So I waited a few minutes and said "yea what's up" then she said "sorry for going mia I do that sometimes I had a lot of fun on our date I just got nervous about some of the things you shared with me" I then responded with "what made you nervous?" Then she just stopped messaging me since last night. Wtf should I just ignore her when she messages me again and make her wait a few days to hear back from me? That's the advice you already received and didn't take. There is probably nothing left to salvage (sorry ) but, if she contacts you again, don't be so available.
babycakees Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 OK so she replied last night for the first time since the date and her text was "hey are you up?" So I waited a few minutes and said "yea what's up" then she said "sorry for going mia I do that sometimes I had a lot of fun on our date I just got nervous about some of the things you shared with me" I then responded with "what made you nervous?" Then she just stopped messaging me since last night. Wtf should I just ignore her when she messages me again and make her wait a few days to hear back from me? Yes. Don't let her think she can just come and go like that.
katiegrl Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 OK so she replied last night for the first time since the date and her text was "hey are you up?" So I waited a few minutes and said "yea what's up" then she said "sorry for going mia I do that sometimes I had a lot of fun on our date I just got nervous about some of the things you shared with me" I then responded with "what made you nervous?" Then she just stopped messaging me since last night. Wtf should I just ignore her when she messages me again and make her wait a few days to hear back from me? Yes you absolutely should ignore her. Better yet just block her and delete her number. Frankly I cannot believe you even have to ask this question.
hakim Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Doonnn''ttt text her again! If you do, you'll scare her off for good. Personally, you're WWAAYYY to invested, clingy after only one date with her. She's already demonstrated a bit of flakiness already. She's 20 which means she's VERY young and clearly immature. I'd keep looking if I was you. If she reappears, PLAY IT COOL.. Don't play massive games but don't return her text for a few hours either. Don't be too available to her either. Again, IF she reaches out, DON'T ask her out. Let her do it. You need to turn the tables on her where she doesn't feel she already has you wrapped around her finger (think BORING). Girls like a challenge. Give her one. Everything here is solid advice, until Again, IF she reaches out, DON'T ask her out This is when I'd assume she wants to see me - I would ask her out there and then.
Author onelove89 Posted July 19, 2015 Author Posted July 19, 2015 Thanks for the advice everyone! I will try this again and just move on to the next!
babycakees Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Thanks for the advice everyone! I will try this again and just move on to the next! A girl who is genuinely interested in you will not go "MIA" for a few days and ignore your texts. She's playing games. Don't let her. Good luck 1
Author onelove89 Posted July 19, 2015 Author Posted July 19, 2015 Yes you absolutely should ignore her. Better yet just block her and delete her number. Frankly I cannot believe you even have to ask this question. Usually I am not going up on no girls like this. I have been happily single for two years because I choose to be. Sorry if that sounds cocky. This girl just really sparked my interest and had so much in common with me it was unreal. I don't party but I do meet a lot of random people because I'm very outgoing. I just never met someone like her yet. I know there is plenty of women in the world I was just shocked how great she seemed.
katiegrl Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Usually I am not going up on no girls like this. I have been happily single for two years because I choose to be. Sorry if that sounds cocky. This girl just really sparked my interest and had so much in common with me it was unreal. I don't party but I do meet a lot of random people because I'm very outgoing. I just never met someone like her yet. **I know there is plenty of women in the world I was just shocked how great she seemed.** Yeah well obviously she wasn't shocked at how great YOU seemed.....as women don't go MIA on guys they think are great.....or *seem* great. You want to keep hanging on to a chick who is lukewarm about you (at best)....and who will go MIA on you whenever she feels like..... because she *seems* great.....be my guest! I wish you luck cuz dude you're gonna need it.
IronZ Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Usually I am not going up on no girls like this. I have been happily single for two years because I choose to be. Sorry if that sounds cocky. This girl just really sparked my interest and had so much in common with me it was unreal. I don't party but I do meet a lot of random people because I'm very outgoing. I just never met someone like her yet. I know there is plenty of women in the world I was just shocked how great she seemed. I'm right there with you man. I'm experiencing the same thing right now. Amazing first date. Got along well before that and everything looked so damn promising. And now I'm getting the silent treatment. I don't know where I went wrong. At least if I knew I could better myself or try something different. If I knew then I wouldn't have to be in this limbo. This is such a horrible feeling.
Author onelove89 Posted July 19, 2015 Author Posted July 19, 2015 I'm right there with you man. I'm experiencing the same thing right now. Amazing first date. Got along well before that and everything looked so damn promising. And now I'm getting the silent treatment. I don't know where I went wrong. At least if I knew I could better myself or try something different. If I knew then I wouldn't have to be in this limbo. This is such a horrible feeling. I feel ya man its a ****ty feeling. Just gonna have to move on I guess.
Author onelove89 Posted July 19, 2015 Author Posted July 19, 2015 Yeah well obviously she wasn't shocked at how great YOU seemed.....as women don't go MIA on guys they think are great.....or *seem* great. You want to keep hanging on to a chick who is lukewarm about you (at best)....and who will go MIA on you whenever she feels like..... because she *seems* great.....be my guest! I wish you luck cuz dude you're gonna need it. Ouch......kinda rude but OK lol. I don't need luck cause I'm not hung up on one girl I have a few nice girls I talk to and **** around without this girl seemed very different. I don't need luck cause I'm not hurt I was just curious. Thank you though
Author onelove89 Posted July 19, 2015 Author Posted July 19, 2015 A girl who is genuinely interested in you will not go "MIA" for a few days and ignore your texts. She's playing games. Don't let her. Good luck Thank you for the advice
wizer Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 I just got nervous about some of the things you shared with me" What the heck did you share with her? You're an excon? A drug addict? A serial killer? Think about what might have upset her. You may be just a bit too open and personal and emotional on a first date for your own good.
IronZ Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Ouch......kinda rude but OK lol. I don't need luck cause I'm not hung up on one girl I have a few nice girls I talk to and **** around without this girl seemed very different. I don't need luck cause I'm not hurt I was just curious. Thank you though Katiegirl is very blunt. You should see her responses in my thread lol. Got a point though. It's so hard to meet that one girl who is different and you think it can actually go somewhere and then she turns out to be someone who pulls this crap. Clearly not the person you thought she was. Time to let go.
brok3npromise Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Time to move on. Plenty of other fish in the sea
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 Katiegirl is very blunt. You should see her responses in my thread lol. Got a point though. It's so hard to meet that one girl who is different and you think it can actually go somewhere and then she turns out to be someone who pulls this crap. Clearly not the person you thought she was. Time to let go. Well thank you! It definitely sucks lol and its been a long time since I met someone a cool as her but I guess time to move on to the next. I didn't share anything that would be shocking ha-ha so I have no clue wtf she is talking about.
katiegrl Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 (edited) Well thank you! It definitely sucks lol and its been a long time since I met someone a cool as her but I guess time to move on to the next. I didn't share anything that would be shocking ha-ha so I have no clue wtf she is talking about. Apologies if I offended you.... You too IronZ. . Edited July 20, 2015 by katiegrl
IronZ Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Well thank you! It definitely sucks lol and its been a long time since I met someone a cool as her but I guess time to move on to the next. I didn't share anything that would be shocking ha-ha so I have no clue wtf she is talking about. I understand your predicament so well. You have no idea. Seriously go read my thread. Basically the same situation. We had such an incredible date and she was so chipper about seeing me again and even sent me a text after getting home thanking me and so on. And then just dead silence. So freakin confusing! Honestly I doubt either of us did anything wrong. Think about it. One moment everything is a-okay and the next they're either gone or coming up with excuses? Maybe these girls found what they perceive to be a better option and you're off their list for no good reason. One of the dangers of online dating I suppose. You have so many fish in the sea that you tend to get choosy. Grass is always greener as some would call it. The best relationships I had were girls I went to school with. Girls I grew up with and was already friends with. Meeting a complete stranger online and expecting them to be right for you is kind of crazy when you think about it. It's too bad I'm not in school anymore. I miss those days
IronZ Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Apologies if I offended you.... You too IronZ. . Not at all offended. You're just telling me what I need to hear. Of course it's going to hurt, but at least I have people to talk to about it here. Keep the advice coming. 1
joseb Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 OK so she replied last night for the first time since the date and her text was "hey are you up?" So I waited a few minutes and said "yea what's up" then she said "sorry for going mia I do that sometimes I had a lot of fun on our date I just got nervous about some of the things you shared with me" I then responded with "what made you nervous?" Then she just stopped messaging me since last night. Wtf should I just ignore her when she messages me again and make her wait a few days to hear back from me? So what do you think it was you shared that she is referring to? (If you are not sure don't text her asking though!) Sounds like she is playing games - you would have been better not responding to the text so soon - she ignored you for several days. Best move on, if she does reply again take your time to respond - if at all.
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