Guy wont answer text until a day later

[andy85]

I went on a date with a guy and since then, he has been hot and cold. He was so nice during the date and wanted to invite me out to several places he usually goes to on the weekends. But after that day, he has been incredibly distant.

 

I went away for 10 days after our first date, but when i came back he was really nice the first day via text, liked some fb posts of my trip but then didnt say much the week after.

 

I invited him out for some drinks via text and the next day all he said was, "hey, wise girl"

I asked if he wanted to go out and he never responded, so I let it be.

 

A week later he liked a photo I added on facebook and I sent him a text two days later asking how he was.

 

He responded a DAY LATER, and jsut said he was doing OK and had gone out of town for a bit to a beautiful town north of the city. I then asked if he wanted to maybe meet up and he was silent again. It has been a day now and no response.

 

I know I should just stop texting him but I'm so confused as to why he even responded if he was then going to ignore me again? I have him on facebook. Should I delete his number AND facebook or will that look to crazy? Im not sure what to do now. Some people tell me to just straight up ask him what happened, and others just say to ignore him and its obvious that hes not interested. SO why didnt he even bother responding?

[aloneinaz]

Certainly, don't text him or contact him again. To me, he's clearly not into you by his actions. Is this kind of a flake a person you'd want to date anyway?

 

 

If someone treated me like that, I'd be GONE.. I have no patience for flaky or rude people. I'd also un-friend him or block him as well. Who cares what he thinks.

[Leigh 87]

He just isn't into you.

 

If a guy is into you he will :

 

Text you after a first date. Usually tthe night of the first date or the day after LATEST.

He INITIATES weekend plan. Fridays and Saturdays are the days that a man who's into you WILL want to reserve for you.

He will remain in consistent contact after date one, usually tell you that he had a lovely time and then keep in regular contact and arrange another date soon after the first date.

 

He will tell you that he wants to stop dating other people after the second or third date. Men who feel a spark and great chemistry with a great seeming GIRL WILL tend to want to stop seeing and dating other women.

 

My current guy texted me after date two declaring that he had called canceled his dates, deleted tinder and that he wanted to see whether ( or not ) I was on the same page.

He has texted me daily since date one. I can always count on him to initiate texts or calls daily.

 

All the men who have been into me have made it loud and clear. I have never had to deal with low contact or lagging interest.

 

This guy didn't respond when you asked to hang out. Even platonic friends don't just leave things for a day, they respond. Every one has their smart phone. This guy received your text and he didn't feel excited enough to respond!

 

A man who was excited about you would have jumped at your clear invitation to hang out.

 

This guy sees you as either a platonic friend or a potential friends with benefits or worse, a booty call.

[fitnessfan365]

He just isn't into you.

 

If a guy is into you he will :

 

Text you after a first date. Usually tthe night of the first date or the day after LATEST.

He INITIATES weekend plan. Fridays and Saturdays are the days that a man who's into you WILL want to reserve for you.

He will remain in consistent contact after date one, usually tell you that he had a lovely time and then keep in regular contact and arrange another date soon after the first date.

 

He will tell you that he wants to stop dating other people after the second or third date. Men who feel a spark and great chemistry with a great seeming GIRL WILL tend to want to stop seeing and dating other women.

 

My current guy texted me after date two declaring that he had called canceled his dates, deleted tinder and that he wanted to see whether ( or not ) I was on the same page.

He has texted me daily since date one. I can always count on him to initiate texts or calls daily.

 

All the men who have been into me have made it loud and clear. I have never had to deal with low contact or lagging interest.

 

This guy didn't respond when you asked to hang out. Even platonic friends don't just leave things for a day, they respond. Every one has their smart phone. This guy received your text and he didn't feel excited enough to respond!

 

A man who was excited about you would have jumped at your clear invitation to hang out.

 

This guy sees you as either a platonic friend or a potential friends with benefits or worse, a booty call.

 

Leigh, I do agree that he isn't interested. If he wanted to see her, he wouldn't ignore multiple invites. But even though it's perfectly fine to have an opinion on a subject, please remember not to speak in certainties as if you know how every man that's interested will act. In fact, it seems like you're encouraging the OP to focus on clingy desperate guys in my opinion.

 

1) It doesn't matter how much I like a woman. Until it starts to get more serious, she sees me on weeknights only.

 

2) I would NEVER ask a woman to be exclusive with me after 2-3 dates. It takes longer than that to see if she is relationship material. In fact, my advice would be to avoid anyone that wants to be exclusive that soon. They're more into the idea of having a relationship in general, and not into having a relationship with you. Why? They don't know you well enough yet.

 

3) Personally, I think it is desperate behavior for someone to initiate daily calls and texts from the first date on. Being a realist, I think it's more natural to let communication frequency increase the longer you've been dating someone. After all, it's a person you just met. So it's not a good thing to cling to them and force yourself into their life right away. Things that develop naturally take some time.

Edited July 15, 2015 by fitnessfan365