Tyrelysia Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Ill try to make this as quick as possible. Boy meets girl through a mutual friend we go out to a party together have alot of fun take alot of photos. The next day she messages me sending me all the photos and eventually we agree to go out and get ice cream blah blah blah things went great! Fast foreward her and my friend get a HUGE fight that involves her dad and the cops. She hates me and tells me she doesn't want to see me anymore, I totally agree with her and I go on with my life. 2-3 weeks later she contacts me saying basically I want give you a second chance and I'm all for it. We're talking almost every day but rarely get to see each other due to her family having a medical emergency I obviously totally cool with that but she has blown me off a few times to go to the hospital (cool in my book im not mad just getting slightly annoyed). Eventually I tell a friend how this is BS she isn't hanging out with me because of her famlies medical issues, remember were talking every day (50/50 we starts contact) Finally i get to see her a few times we hang out in public end up kissing at the end of night even though I only see her for brief periods of time. Now at the same time remember we have a couple mutual friends, one of her friends and is dating on of my friends. So some drama goes on between all of them (mainly just the girls) and she gets mad at me saying how MY friends are all drama (remember the first kid who tried fighting with her and her dad). I tell shes being over dramatic and we don't talk for a few days and finally she texts me, knowing from fb im going to a concert, "try not to have too much fun without me tonight im super jealous". We start talking again only for a week later some douchebag told her I was "making jokes at her grandparents" (the family emergency I was talking about) and she gets overreacted about this again because listen I was never joking about her family just how she was blowing me off. Again a few days later she messages me "Why do I keep coming back to you even though I hate you its so annoying". she sends me pictures of us together, wants to play phone games, and is all cute and **** again. This is July 1st we start talking again for a few weeks (its 70/30 me texting first now) and finally agree on a time place to meet up to talk (since she has been sick and working alot, I know she wasn't lying) but I see one time on snapchat she had gone out with another guy while saying she had work all day, granted I was at a concert when she did get off work early. We're texting its around 2 weeks ago like July 1st she sends me pictures of us together, wants to play phone games, and is all cute and **** again. She picks me up we go for a drive and both agree that we've liked each other and theres something about one and another that we cant put are finger on that were just attracted to and like about each other. She says she always comes back to me for that reason and I do the same. Throughtout the conversation she mentions her friends both male and female that ask how the "ryan situation" is going and they don't seem to like me very much and neither does her dad even thought they have never met me. I apologize alot for the past she forgives me for everything and we have as usual hanging out. By the end I ask her if were still a "thing" again and she agrees I go to kiss her but only end up giving her a kiss on the cheek. Later on that night she says "Idk ryan I wanna give us a chance at being anything" and I ask her what changed her mind she says "Im not sure what I want and I dont want to waste your time. Im not scared to date anybody but Idk if wanna date anybody right now" Granted she had a ****ED up past relationship that ended like 4-5 months ago. I know for 100% fact shes attracted me and that at some point she REALLY REALLY liked me I know feelings can fade but I don't want to give up on this girl. After our last conversation on monday I was thinking about doing something spontaneous and showing up to her house with flowers and basically telling her 100% about how I feel about her and how'd change anything/do anything to have her and be with her. Not sure exactly what you guys think I know its hard to get the whole story here on paper and Im not exactly the best typer/forum guy ever. Just give me some advice and if you need more information id gladly give it you
Grumpybutfun Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 My opinion is you need a new gf and new friends. Way too much drama and way too much waffling. Friendship and romantic or sexual relationships are supposed to be fun and fulfilling while adding to the value of your life. These make me want to jump off a cliff and I'm not even there in person. You can and will do better if you move on quickly. Good luck, Grumps 3
carhill Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Save your money........ Heh, when I saw the thread title I had to laugh because I routinely spent, on flowers, in a year what I pay in closing costs to buy another house. My laughter was at the absurdity of it all but hey who am I to dampen the throes of romance of the young. I was there once.
Author Tyrelysia Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 My opinion is you need a new gf and new friends. Way too much drama and way too much waffling. Friendship and romantic or sexual relationships are supposed to be fun and fulfilling while adding to the value of your life. These make me want to jump off a cliff and I'm not even there in person. You can and will do better if you move on quickly. Good luck, Grumps What about the good times and feelings I have for her tho? I mean these are just small problems that are literally NOTHING at all lol. She overreacts I think her friends are convincing her...
Author Tyrelysia Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 Save your money........ I mean it doesn't have to be flowers lol I just thought that would be romantic These are the PROBLEMS we've had we have MANY good time together, laughs, and there IS a connection there but she can't make up her mind with me! I can't tell if her friends are pulling her away or what it is but I know theres something between us I can feel it. Im wondering if we can get past this and what I can do at this point? Do I just ignore her until she texts me back and if she doent just say **** it?
carhill Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Ha, ha, I took it one step further and had a full-on rose garden and wildflowers planted in my orchard and did hand-made bouquets. OK, I really can't stop laughing now. Hey, do what you do. Either it works for you or it doesn't. Old fart tip: Relationships can be, and often are, transitory. Enjoy them and move on when the enjoyment is gone. It's OK!
Phoe Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Ehh... to me, this sounds mentally exhausting. And I personally can't handle that. But it's up to you to decide if that's okay to you.
Author Tyrelysia Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 Ehh... to me, this sounds mentally exhausting. And I personally can't handle that. But it's up to you to decide if that's okay to you. No that makes sense but I think it says alot that we've stuck thru it all and tbh it seems like we've been dating the whole time lol shes just been going through alot even tho her last text was an unsure I dont know if im ready for this text I wanna do something for her that proves im ready to change and take it to the next step.
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