squatsNpeanutbutter Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Firstly, I know it's about the thought and I'm grateful he bought me something but given everything else it feels so lack lustre. I'm 27 he is 34. We have been together a little over 2 years. We both have decent paying careers. For his birthday I asked him what he wanted or needed and he said a few things... Of course none of which were "cheap" or easy to find. So I go and buy al of things us of course clothes and shoes (since he never buys himself new clothes) and I ended up spending a crap load of money and so much time to plan out his whole birthday. For my birthday I've been taking about a camera... A more professional camera to maybe start a blog and etc. he knew all of this and would always drop hints like he was getting me one. Well, he bought me the same little point and shoot camera I already have. The one I have is an older model but essentially it is the exact same camera I have. I'm not trying to be ungrateful but I was really disappointments especially since I put so much time and everything into his birthday... I thanked him but I said it's ok you can return it since it's the same Camera I have. If it was a money thing(which I donhave think it is) I would have much ratcheted him just save the money then buy me a half ass gift last minute..
GemmaUK Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 I honestly don't understand why he would do that. My automatic thought when I read camera was a digital SLR - I love a good SLR! Maybe he isn't much into gadgets himself? Has he asked if there's a particular one you had in mind? My last ex was strange when it came to my birthday. I had bought a little faux leather biker jacket just 6 weeks before my birthday. I had been out with him when I saw it, tried it, he helped me find my size and pick the style which suited me the best. It was just £50 and is still going strong over 2 years later. It came to my birthday and he took me into town to get something and all he was interested in getting me was £200 leather biker jackets which were basically the same as the one I had just bought.... I never understood that either.. I didn't let him get me one though.
Author squatsNpeanutbutter Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 I honestly don't understand why he would do that. My automatic thought when I read camera was a digital SLR - I love a good SLR! Maybe he isn't much into gadgets himself? Has he asked if there's a particular one you had in mind? My last ex was strange when it came to my birthday. I had bought a little faux leather biker jacket just 6 weeks before my birthday. I had been out with him when I saw it, tried it, he helped me find my size and pick the style which suited me the best. It was just £50 and is still going strong over 2 years later. It came to my birthday and he took me into town to get something and all he was interested in getting me was £200 leather biker jackets which were basically the same as the one I had just bought.... I never understood that either.. I didn't let him get me one though. I talked about it and I was so excited because all the hints and things he was telling me. He said he asked one of his friends and his friend who is into photography said he prefers that camera over an SLR and I'm just left thinking "oh wow..." I know it's not all about the gift but come on... And he is VERY tech savvy which is why all of the things he asks for are always so expensive and hard to find...
d0nnivain Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 I'm not sure it was the halfassed gift you see. He got you a camera. Even though you may have been talking about a different one, he replaced what you have with the exact same model. I would assume he thought it was good enough for you to buy yourself so he couldn't go wrong. 3
Arieswoman Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 My husband asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I said a new purse ( I think that's a "wallet" in USA ?) and I asked for one that was a good size, so I could keep all my credit cards in it etc He got me this stonking great big thing that had pockets galore and was so big it wouldn't fit into any of my handbags (that's a "purse" in USA I believe?) So I thanked him profusely and a week or so later went out and bought myself one that was similar (same colour etc) but a lot smaller. I gave the other one to the charity shop ... He still hasn't noticed the difference and we are both happy. I honestly believe that if you want a specific present from a man you need to give him written instructions and even map co-ordinates .... 7
Vintage79 Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Sorry - this just makes the OP sound really petty and superficial. You mentioned a camera, he likely looked at yours, asked your friends, and got what made sense. Unless you told him a very specific model and that you hate the model that you currently had, the gist is, he did his homework, asked around, and got you something he thought you would enjoy. He may well have put the time and effort in, and just because he can't read your mind, you complain. Just because you think you put in more effort than he did (which you yourself should have enjoyed doing), you complain. OP you get no sympathy from me, and if I were dating you, you'd be a short step away from being dumped based on how you reacted... 2
LivingDeadGrl Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Guys need to be told exactly what you want, or they will buy their own version of what you want, which is usually not what you want at all. I once had a 4x4 helmet bought for me (which i had asked for) and it was sooo nice. Except it was size XL!!! I have a small head and am a pretty small woman, so it would have bobbled all over and they should be firm on your head. I told him that it was too big and ended up returning it because I just couldn't wear it. Later, he would always throw it in my face that I never liked his gifts and always returned them (which was false) Point being it's a losing situation either way. Just pretend you like it, and buy yourself an SLR camera.
NopeNah Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Return it and use the credit towards the camera you want. I hate Bday/xmas gifts! If I want something I'll buy it myself..I think it's a dumb tradition. 1
Shining One Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 This reminds me of a conversation with an old girlfriend about gifts. Her: I want a camera. What about you? Me: An ASUS GeForce GTX 780 Ti DirectCU II. Notice, I provided a specific manufacturer and model instead of just saying "a video card". I prodded her until she gave me enough information to work with. OP, You didn't even indicate what type of camera you were looking for. I'm tech savvy myself, and I don't assume SLR when someone says camera. I tend to not assume at all when it comes to electronics. If you want precision in your gifts, be precise in your suggestions.
joseb Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 What kind of blog are you thinking of doing? Unless it's a photography one or something that needs very high resolution or you need very shallow depth of field I wouldn't go for an slr. No need. Resolution on the web is so low compared to even the small cameras. 1
ascendotum Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Guys need to be told exactly what you want, or they will buy their own version of what you want, which is usually not what you want at all. there is likely an element of this going on here and for sure in many other gift purchases for gfs. Well we do know better except not so much in this case. I get why the OP is a bit cheesed off with the birthday gift. He was given solid hints and he gave hints back that seemed to confirm he was going to get her the one she wanted, but then at the last minute he doesn't. If he did some research and came up with an alternate model that had most of the features of the camera she wanted then I think she would less cause for complaint but she could still feel a little disappointed unless her hints were open to many models. To me whats bizarre is that he got her the same model that she already had so it is somewhat redundant. I wouldn't necessarily say he put less effort in because of that as its likely the same legwork for the other more expensive camera. As some else suggested, see if you can take it back and get credit for the camera you want. Hopefully issues with gifts are not a trend. 1
Itspointless Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 I thanked him but I said it's ok you can return it since it's the same Camera I have. Poor guy. This somehow reminds me of my first girlfriend (long ago) who reacted disappointed with the neg-lace I gave for her birthday. I always could read what she was thinking, but then apparently not what she wanted from me. Mind you, I even went shopping for it with a woman (lol). It really costed me a lot with what I earned back then. She started to like it when she saw it at the jeweller with a girlfriend while shopping. Wow, it is expensive after (!) all she must have thought. And how dumb to tell me her surprise. I can imagine what she must have though: he cares about me after all. Later when she had broken up she went on to tell me how she had worn it during a job interview. Oh great! I never really understand why the cost of a present is important to people.
katiegrl Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 (edited) Firstly, I know it's about the thought and I'm grateful he bought me something but given everything else it feels so lack lustre. I'm 27 he is 34. We have been together a little over 2 years. We both have decent paying careers. For his birthday I asked him what he wanted or needed and he said a few things... Of course none of which were "cheap" or easy to find. So I go and buy al of things us of course clothes and shoes (since he never buys himself new clothes) and I ended up spending a crap load of money and so much time to plan out his whole birthday. For my birthday I've been taking about a camera... A more professional camera to maybe start a blog and etc. he knew all of this and would always drop hints like he was getting me one. Well, he bought me the same little point and shoot camera I already have. The one I have is an older model but essentially it is the exact same camera I have. I'm not trying to be ungrateful but I was really disappointments especially since I put so much time and everything into his birthday... I thanked him but I said it's ok you can return it since it's the same Camera I have. If it was a money thing(which I donhave think it is) I would have much ratcheted him just save the money then buy me a half ass gift last minute.. I bet that made him feel real great....good job! How did he respond to that? Edited July 15, 2015 by katiegrl 1
Vintage79 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 I bet that made him feel real great....good job! How did he respond to that? Exactly - the op is incredibly focused on herself and seems to try to make her boyfriend feel bad when he buys her a somewhat expensive gift. The guy should run away from this girl and the OP needs to learn how to be nice to people...the OP comes across as terribly immature, demanding, needy, self-centered and unappreciative...
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