emagdnim Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 (edited) Hi all, I posted a while ago about this flakey girl that I was talking to daily and we hung out a couple of times. I thought we were really hitting it off over messaging but she seemingly wasnt as interested in person. I won't get into the full story but basically she was not reciprocating interest and due to her living a 45 minute drive away and her not being available when I would request hang outs I just decided to back off and let her do whatever it is she wants to do on her own. She reached out every couple of weeks regardless, but it was mostly being disrespectful and/or rude. For instance she would send me a picture saying she was in my city to seemingly rub it in my face because she would not come out here when I tried. And as another example, I recently took a holiday and she sent me rude texts after finding out that I was there and not at home for independence day (For what reason I dont know). I brushed off the first few times and then she did this again recently, rubbing other things in my face through texts or pictures in the middle of the night which I just started ignoring. Then she reached out recently to tell me she's sorry for doing all of that and I don't even know how to respond or why she's even saying sorry. She was pretty insensitive towards me in general so I'm wondering if she's just doing this to ease her own mind since I haven't given her anything. I don't know if it's appropriate to just ignore this or not, and I don't like being rude but also don't want to feed an ego. Thoughts? Edited July 14, 2015 by emagdnim
casey.lives Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 i think it's always advisable to accept a direct apology. it's good for everyone. just let them do the talking
LivingDeadGrl Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 It doesn't sound like you've invested enough time into this person to even care about an apology., why would you? The way she's acted isn't something I'd be interested in even hearing an apology about. I guess if you want to, hear her out. Otherwise, next.
Author emagdnim Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 Yeah, you've both described my thoughts dead on. I decided to answer and ask her why she was apologizing, her answer was not very clear other than "well we stopped talking and I drunk text you." So fair enough, that's as far as it went. I just said it happens and that was that. Still kind of pointless to me but it was interesting to hear what she was going to be sorry about. 1
scooby-philly Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Seems like a very strange situation. How old is she? Is she spoiled, ghetto, etc.? I mean, texting people you don't really know to taunt them smacks of a real underlying issue. I just broke up with a crazy and no-**** together woman and while I have a temper, I won't be taunting her moving on. Just ignore it. You're probably a nice enough guy and feel bad - but that's the problem - she didn't feel bad bothering you. Just let it go. You can't block numbers for text, but erase the whole conversation each time she bothers you so you can't even text her back.
Author emagdnim Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 Seems like a very strange situation. How old is she? Is she spoiled, ghetto, etc.? I mean, texting people you don't really know to taunt them smacks of a real underlying issue. I just broke up with a crazy and no-**** together woman and while I have a temper, I won't be taunting her moving on. Just ignore it. You're probably a nice enough guy and feel bad - but that's the problem - she didn't feel bad bothering you. Just let it go. You can't block numbers for text, but erase the whole conversation each time she bothers you so you can't even text her back. I'm 25 she's 22. Think she's somewhat high maintenance from what I can tell, she's really, really anxious but that's about all I could gather. Describes herself as very "soft." Yeah, not sure about her taunting either, at first I thought it was attention seeking but that's a strange way to go about it. And her attitude about me being gone for the 4th was like "why would you even do that..." kind of thing which is really none of her business. The strange thing to me is, why did she reach out to say sorry for reaching out? Lol. If it was me I would have just stopped texting. Not much accomplished there, I wasn't going to keep that conversation going nor did she try. I definitely delete her chat each time anyway, it's a good way to proceed!
h0000 Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Some people are just F**ked up on the inside. She enjoyed your attention even though she treated you like shssst. However you are not taking this anymore and showed her your back bone and she does not like it. That's why she periodically reaches out and even apologise. She wants you to keep showering her your interest so she can get back on top of you. Of course if you fall for her trap she will go back to treating you like shssst again. Then the next round starts
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