How can I ask if he's still interested?

[Mikaangie]

So I met this guy that I really like and we have hung out twice. Both times were really amazing. However, the first time was a about 3 months ago. We haven't been talking because I thought he lost interest because he suddenly stopped messaging me like he used to. He would always initiate conversations & seem like he was really into me. However, they became infrequent, then eventually stopped altogether. I would never text him first, so I assumed he just lost interest then. Eventually I ended up getting into a relationship with someone else. Just a weeks into my relationship, the guy I like suddenly texts me one day telling me he was sorry he stopped talking to me because he's been busy. But I had to tell him I was now in a relationship of course & he was really upset because he claimed he was starting to really like me. I told I didn't know that because he hasn't been talking to me. I was actually pretty upset because I was also actually beginning to like him. We continued talking for a little while as friends, however, we eventually stopped talking again, but he would still like my photos & stuff on social networks.

While I was in my relationship, I admit I still kind of liked him & it kind of caused the end of it. It only lasted a few months. When it ended, me & this guy started talking again not long after. He seemed really happy to be speaking again. However, he suddenly stopped messaging me like he used to again. I thought he was maybe "busy" again like before, so I finally initiated a conversation for once & asked if he wanted to hang out whenever he was free. To my surprise, he was totally on board & actually wanted to see me that very day. So we hung out & like I said, it was absolutely amazing. He was all over me. However, he told me he was going to be moving not too long from now for college & that made me pretty sad. Also, he said he's scared of getting into a relationship because of being cheating on in the past. However, he said he'd still be there for me & do anything to make me happy. He also said we'd definitely hang out again soon. However, now he's starting to barely text me again. Ive pretty much began to try to initiate the conversations now, & he seems happy to be talking to me whenever I text him, but the conversations always end very shortly. I texted him the other day asked if he was free anytime soon & he said he wasn't. But still implied that we'd hang out again. I haven't spoken to him since that day & I actually don't know if I still should speak to him. I just want to know if he's still interested. If he isn't, I'll move on, but I at least would like to know. I just hate having a feeling of wonders & what ifs lingering over my shoulders. How can I go about it without seeming like I'm bugging? Also, I know it may seem like I'm just monkey branching between relationships, but I'm not, so please no criticizing me for moving "too fast" or anything like that.

[casey.lives]

space out the times you talk. there is only so much to say

[Redhead14]

So I met this guy that I really like and we have hung out twice. Both times were really amazing. However, the first time was a about 3 months ago. We haven't been talking because I thought he lost interest because he suddenly stopped messaging me like he used to. He would always initiate conversations & seem like he was really into me. However, they became infrequent, then eventually stopped altogether. I would never text him first, so I assumed he just lost interest then. Eventually I ended up getting into a relationship with someone else. Just a weeks into my relationship, the guy I like suddenly texts me one day telling me he was sorry he stopped talking to me because he's been busy. But I had to tell him I was now in a relationship of course & he was really upset because he claimed he was starting to really like me. I told I didn't know that because he hasn't been talking to me. I was actually pretty upset because I was also actually beginning to like him. We continued talking for a little while as friends, however, we eventually stopped talking again, but he would still like my photos & stuff on social networks.

While I was in my relationship, I admit I still kind of liked him & it kind of caused the end of it. It only lasted a few months. When it ended, me & this guy started talking again not long after. He seemed really happy to be speaking again. However, he suddenly stopped messaging me like he used to again. I thought he was maybe "busy" again like before, so I finally initiated a conversation for once & asked if he wanted to hang out whenever he was free. To my surprise, he was totally on board & actually wanted to see me that very day. So we hung out & like I said, it was absolutely amazing. He was all over me. However, he told me he was going to be moving not too long from now for college & that made me pretty sad. Also, he said he's scared of getting into a relationship because of being cheating on in the past. However, he said he'd still be there for me & do anything to make me happy. He also said we'd definitely hang out again soon. However, now he's starting to barely text me again. Ive pretty much began to try to initiate the conversations now, & he seems happy to be talking to me whenever I text him, but the conversations always end very shortly. I texted him the other day asked if he was free anytime soon & he said he wasn't. But still implied that we'd hang out again. I haven't spoken to him since that day & I actually don't know if I still should speak to him. I just want to know if he's still interested. If he isn't, I'll move on, but I at least would like to know. I just hate having a feeling of wonders & what ifs lingering over my shoulders. How can I go about it without seeming like I'm bugging? Also, I know it may seem like I'm just monkey branching between relationships, but I'm not, so please no criticizing me for moving "too fast" or anything like that.

 

 

If you have to ask, then it's better to assume he's not interested. I think its best to leave it alone. Let him demonstrate to you what his level of interest is. If you nudge him, he may do it to be polite, whatever, but you'll still be wondering if he would have done it himself.

 

Be patient and sit on your hands. Be receptive, not active or reactive. Don't reach out to him first. Be receptive and reciprocal and balanced. Let him come to you in his own way and observe from there. Let this run in the background while you move forward with your life. Focus on you and your needs. If he's not meeting your early dating needs with consistent communication and seeing you'll, you'll have a better idea of what's what. It's about your needs and whether they are meeting them to your satisfaction.

 

It's best to stay centered. Trying to do things to control the situation often backfires. Centered means being in control actually. It lets things unfold naturally.