biggles6087 Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 (edited) Well after trying to get back with my ex we finally walked away from each other in the end last night after a massive fight I found out she was telling lies all along and and leading me on I known her for 10 months before and dated her for 3 months broke up in May , I'm gutted we blocked each other on social media alot of problems arose when we were trying to patch things up but it was just a game to her and it's destroyed my confidence she didn't even say sorry for telling lies after I found her out she was meeting others when she told me she wasn't .I feel used and she made me look like fool altho I started NC today its going to be a long haul I don't know how I'm going to get through this one as some nasty games where played from her side. Anyone any advice please feeling very low. Edited July 14, 2015 by biggles6087
d0nnivain Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 It's OK to grieve the loss of the relationship. Get the tears & the pain out. It will help you to heal. Blocking each other is a good plan so you can see her moving on with her life. Don't let this one experience destroy your confidence. Analyze what went right & what went wrong. then avoid making those same mistakes again. 1
finalendeavor Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 I'm sorry you're struggling. If you need anyone to talk with or vent to, I'm here 1
Author biggles6087 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 It's OK to grieve the loss of the relationship. Get the tears & the pain out. It will help you to heal. Blocking each other is a good plan so you can see her moving on with her life. Don't let this one experience destroy your confidence. Analyze what went right & what went wrong. then avoid making those same mistakes again. Thank you she seriously messed with my head It was a long distance relationship I asked down for a date she blew me off telling me she couldn't afford the travel I said no probs that is fine I understand maybe another then I found out last night from a friend she actually came down to my city and met another fella and slept with him this weekend gone.She tried to tell me she was hanging out in her own house with a mate of hers but that was a lie also I went stone cold sober and meet know one when we were trying to sort things out i feel so used she doesn't even care what damage she caused or the lies she told I'm so hurt it is unreal.
Author biggles6087 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 I'm sorry you're struggling. If you need anyone to talk with or vent to, I'm here Thank you very much in bits typing this I thought we had a chance o get back together that's the idea she gave me.
dangerbang Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Thank you very much in bits typing this I thought we had a chance o get back together that's the idea she gave me. It's not going to happen with this woman, accept it and move on. I've read your previous posts. You're just flogging a dead horse and causing yourself unnecessary pain at this stage. Trust me - it's not going to happen with this girl ever. The only thing you can do is stop all contact for the rest of your life, and after a few months things will start to lighten up again. Go neiridh an bothair leat.
Author biggles6087 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 It's not going to happen with this woman, accept it and move on. I've read your previous posts. You're just flogging a dead horse and causing yourself unnecessary pain at this stage. Trust me - it's not going to happen with this girl ever. The only thing you can do is stop all contact for the rest of your life, and after a few months things will start to lighten up again. Go neiridh an bothair leat. Thanks very much for that I deleted her number I cant block it because my network won't allow it's going to be tough trying to forget her we used to have some laugh I just have to accept that it is over now and move on.
d0nnivain Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Did you actually know her IRL or was this "relationship" virtual? Either way LDRs are hard no matter what. In the future, perhaps stick to people who are in your geographic area. 1
Author biggles6087 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 Did you actually know her IRL or was this "relationship" virtual? Either way LDRs are hard no matter what. In the future, perhaps stick to people who are in your geographic area. I actually knew her and met her face to face.
dangerbang Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Thanks very much for that I deleted her number I cant block it because my network won't allow it's going to be tough trying to forget her we used to have some laugh I just have to accept that it is over now and move on. I believe there are apps for blocking numbers. You may have had some laugh, but she's probably having even better laughs with someone else right now, so you can't dwell on that stuff. Mate I've been through some nonsense a couple of months ago, we were supposed to get married, so my whole life changed. You have to want to get over it though, that's the first step. I still struggle a little but just learn what you can from it and move on. Otherwise you'll just be wallowing in your own misery while everyone else gets on with their lives.
Author biggles6087 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 Just like to say thank you to everyone for the kind comment been in bits all day .
Author biggles6087 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 I believe there are apps for blocking numbers. You may have had some laugh, but she's probably having even better laughs with someone else right now, so you can't dwell on that stuff. Mate I've been through some nonsense a couple of months ago, we were supposed to get married, so my whole life changed. You have to want to get over it though, that's the first step. I still struggle a little but just learn what you can from it and move on. Otherwise you'll just be wallowing in your own misery while everyone else gets on with their lives. she certainly was having some laugh its going to take along time to get over it i suppose I really loved her.
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