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My ex moved for us to be together a few years ago. It was a disaster. We both ended up being hurt. Me more than her. We were apart for a year. She ended up dating a much older rich doctor so I had to stay away from her. Long story short it didn't work out between them and she moved back to her home Province. I hadn't spoken to her for a year, when I received a notification one morning that she had requested to connect with me on linkedin.com. I ignored the request.

I am familiar with linkedin for my work, and I don't think it's possible to add someone by mistake. Or certainly not that simple of a mistake anyway. However anything is possible. Was this an attempt to contact me? If so why not use facebook or email? Any thoughts? I still wish we could give it another shot at times, but more than anything I'd like some sort of closure because of the way it was left......

 

 

Thanks,

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If it was, it was a very weak attempt haha I wouldn't contact her unless she actually texts or calls you.

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It was definitely an attempt to get back on your radar and it worked bc you are questioning the motivation behind her actions. My making contact via Linkedin.com she can claim business networking was the motivation, which may explain why she didn't use Facebook's platform or direct email contact. Why she made contact is anyone's guess. Maybe she wants to rekindle a friendship, or thinks that it may be worth giving a relationship with you another chance. If you don't feel the same, the business networking plan saves face.

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Why even reconsider a possible reconciliation when it was a disaster the first time? Nothing will change the 2nd time either.

 

 

People are MUCH better off NOT recycling failed relationships cause they are lonely at that moment.

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It is just by accident imho. She probably has no idea it even happened..

 

If you sign up to LinkedIn with your Google email for e.g, Linkedin will ask you to give access to your contacts which she might have done.

 

LinkedIn then periodically sends emails to these contacts to connect with each other. I know this because I keep getting these from a lot of people who are on my contact list too.

 

Do not over-analyse this. If she wants to contact you, she will find a better way to do so.

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Not sure about LinkedIn - I get random requests from ppl who are bscly strangers to me quite a bit. Seems more like spam for ppl in your contacts.

 

edit - or in other words, what Dexter said. ;)

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My ex moved for us to be together a few years ago. It was a disaster. We both ended up being hurt. Me more than her. We were apart for a year. She ended up dating a much older rich doctor so I had to stay away from her. Long story short it didn't work out between them and she moved back to her home Province. I hadn't spoken to her for a year, when I received a notification one morning that she had requested to connect with me on linkedin.com. I ignored the request.

I am familiar with linkedin for my work, and I don't think it's possible to add someone by mistake. Or certainly not that simple of a mistake anyway. However anything is possible. Was this an attempt to contact me? If so why not use facebook or email? Any thoughts? I still wish we could give it another shot at times, but more than anything I'd like some sort of closure because of the way it was left......

 

 

Thanks,

 

Yes, it could have been a reach out.

 

It's been a year. If you are comfortable with where things stand, think about it, and if you feel the need, reach back out to her and ask if she meant to...

 

Regardless of what you hear, relationships can and do work out the second time around...

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Nope - I get this all the time. When someone signs up or linked in it mines your email for addresses and sends requests out.

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