pinkpositive Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Ok. So I posted here in Loveshack 1month ago and asking for advise if my ldr bf really loves me or not and giving the reasons why I'm doubting. Many says to break up with my bf cos it seems like im the only one who's making effort so I did Tried but I was surprised, He immediately book a flight ! he sent me an email containing his Plane ticket!!! After 2 years being Apart we will meet for Real and I cant help it but to smile and be excited! I think trying to break up with him helps a lot hehehehe.. and gave him some kind of realization. Now this August 2015, we will already meet. He will be visiting me here in my country.. sweet! Im really excited and so nervous cos I dont know what to do! What do you think the sweetest thing I can do for him? and it is also his bday! he will be staying here for only 3 weeks and I want to make it most memorable! Would really love to hear your suggestions and advice! Thank you! ;) Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 He will be visiting me here in my country.. sweet! I understand you feel very excited about this. All I can say is: be cautious. He's coming for a vacation. 1) He couldn't come to see you in almost 2 years due to work. Would you be OK with seeing him next time in 2016 or 2017? 2) Have you ever heard of sex tourism? Well, if I were you, I wouldn't provide that. If you do, be prepared for what's coming next, which includes fading contact. What do you think the sweetest thing I can do for him? Let him have a memorable time with you that will make him think he really wants to be with you, especially when he'll be back home. You need to know what he likes doing, what bores him, etc. Arrange a special birthday for him. Where will he be staying for 3 weeks? Are you touring the country? Will he rent a car? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 You should not be doing anything sweet for him. The first order of business here is NOT getting your hopes up. If he didn't step up to the plate until after you said you want to break up, he's in crisis mode. It should not have taken that to get him to be interested. You now think that manipulation works so you have a bad message here. Second, SAFETY is the operative word here. You don't know this guy. He is still a stranger, despite whatever electronic interactions you have had. You don't actually know him. He needs to stay in a hotel, not your house. You need to have an idea in your head where you draw certain lines. There is a false sense of intimacy with OLRs. If you wouldn't jump into bed with someone on a conventional 1st date, consider dialing back the passion here too. I'd possibly get him a food based gift basket for his hotel room, a few maps of the area & some info about local attractions. Maybe send him a guidebook to your city before he arrives but then let him impress you. Link to post Share on other sites
Rewan Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 From what I've read, I am a bit concerned if you can forgive me.. What it sounds like, unfortunately, is that he is using the ticket as a bargaining chip for keeping the relationship going. If you were trying to end the relationship, he might have booked the ticket as a way of keeping you reeled in.. If this is the case, he may decide to call the trip off if he is not serious.. I know, for example, that in the United States, you are able to cancel the ticket within the twenty four hours following when you place the reservation. I'm not trying to be mean or sound negative, so I apologize if that is how I am being read, but it could happen if it has taken him two years to come to you.. :S Regardless of whatever happens, I hope that you'll be careful.. And I would recommend not trying to go over the top for the first meeting. I can understand that you're excited about finally being able to meet him, but it is important to recognize if he is taking advantage of you.. I'm sorry if this hurts, but it is true. :S I hope this helps, at least a little Link to post Share on other sites
clam Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 After 2 years of stringing you along, I doubt he will actually show up in August. Mark my words -- something will conveniently come up that prevents him from traveling to your country. Link to post Share on other sites
nouedis Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I'd say take it easy on what you do with this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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