coldpillow Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Hi. So I connected with this girl on a dating site (we have a few mutual friends). We messaged for a while and went out for drinks. We were together for almost 3 hours, and the date went pretty well--it wasn't amazing or anything, but I've been on a bunch, and this one was good. I texted her the next day saying that I'd like to do it again, and she agreed but said she'd be out of town for a week. She mentioned when she'd be back, though. After she returned, I texted her, and she mentioned "sure, what do you want to do?" Afterwards, she dropped off for a bit (I've noticed sometime she just doesn't respond--this happened before we went out too). I then messaged her saying I really had fun, etc., and she said sorry that she was late in responding and asked to set something up. I then had to go out of town for an emergency, and when I returned, she agreed to a date and time and place. I texted her a few hrs before and she said "I'm sorry but something urgent came up, can you do lunch tomorrow?" I ended up backing out b/c I felt a bit taken for granted, and then I messaged her again the following week, and she didn't respond at all. She seemed interested b/c if she didn't want to go out at all, she wouldn't have asked for lunch, I think (and she seemed like she genuinely forgot and had something come up...). She was in my city for a few months for an internship, and this last message was sent when she had two weeks left before she went back home (8hrs away by car). So, it's very possible it just didn't make sense for her as she thought there wasn't long-term potential (and she isn't a short-term person). All this happened 3 months ago. I'm going to be in her hometown next weekend, so I messaged her asking if she would be free for lunch or dinner. She responded saying she would like to have dinner with me. Do you think I have a chance with her? Does she also like me? I don't feel like she would be obligated to have dinner with me as we have only met once. And I gave her the option of lunch or dinner and she chose dinner (lunch would be lighter and quicker). Do you have any ideas on what I should do? I'd like to make this work. She's only a 2hr flight away, and if it worked out, I'd do the traveling... Id have to tell her I like her this time to see her again right? Bc the only way I would see her again is if I drove or flew to meet her... How should I approach this?
yxalitis Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 This is a repost. How do I make this work? - LoveShack.org Community Forums
torturedartist Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Hi. So I connected with this girl on a dating site (we have a few mutual friends). We messaged for a while and went out for drinks. We were together for almost 3 hours, and the date went pretty well--it wasn't amazing or anything, but I've been on a bunch, and this one was good. I texted her the next day saying that I'd like to do it again, and she agreed but said she'd be out of town for a week. She mentioned when she'd be back, though. After she returned, I texted her, and she mentioned "sure, what do you want to do?" Afterwards, she dropped off for a bit (I've noticed sometime she just doesn't respond--this happened before we went out too). I then messaged her saying I really had fun, etc., and she said sorry that she was late in responding and asked to set something up. I then had to go out of town for an emergency, and when I returned, she agreed to a date and time and place. I texted her a few hrs before and she said "I'm sorry but something urgent came up, can you do lunch tomorrow?" I ended up backing out b/c I felt a bit taken for granted, and then I messaged her again the following week, and she didn't respond at all. She seemed interested b/c if she didn't want to go out at all, she wouldn't have asked for lunch, I think (and she seemed like she genuinely forgot and had something come up...). She was in my city for a few months for an internship, and this last message was sent when she had two weeks left before she went back home (8hrs away by car). So, it's very possible it just didn't make sense for her as she thought there wasn't long-term potential (and she isn't a short-term person). All this happened 3 months ago. I'm going to be in her hometown next weekend, so I messaged her asking if she would be free for lunch or dinner. She responded saying she would like to have dinner with me. Do you think I have a chance with her? Does she also like me? I don't feel like she would be obligated to have dinner with me as we have only met once. And I gave her the option of lunch or dinner and she chose dinner (lunch would be lighter and quicker). Do you have any ideas on what I should do? I'd like to make this work. She's only a 2hr flight away, and if it worked out, I'd do the traveling... Id have to tell her I like her this time to see her again right? Bc the only way I would see her again is if I drove or flew to meet her... How should I approach this? I have to be honest with you in saying that I don't think she likes you. If a woman really likes you she'll go to pretty great lengths to be able to spend time with you. This one is going to great lengths not to spend time with you. Let her go, and keep your eyes open for new ones.
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