yxalitis Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 (edited) This happened a few weeks back, but in the absence of anything else going on right now, thought I’d post it. Met this girl online, seemed nice enough, American Expat over here trying the “new life” thing, texts were rapidly replied to, and the phone calls we exchange (two I think) were free flowing and easy…seemed like a good match intellectually. Her OK Cupid profile had a 95% match to mine, which doesn’t really mean anything, but still, the signs were positive. Decided to meet up at an upmarket bar for a drink. She arrived on time, walked in the door, saw me…and that was it… I stood up, went to shake her hand, and she didn’t even unfold her arms, just sort of twisted so I can barely grab her fingers… Oh…kay, I’ll let that slide it is cold outside…we went up and took a seat….and started to chat. Well, let me rephrase I started to chat, she replied with the minimal effort possible, never expanding her answers past a few syllables, not asking anything herself, looking utterly disinterested, bored, and uninvolved. OK, I get it, when she saw me, she instantly wasn’t attracted to me, I do have a polarizing look, that’s fine, the world goes on, life continues…. I’ve gone on first dates with woman where I didn’t immediately feel that chemistry, that attraction, but no matter what I ALWAYS continue the date as best I can, positive, happy, talkative…whether I think the person opposite me is a potential partner, or just a human being sharing a drink, I can still enjoy the time, enjoy my drink, the atmosphere, the music, and yes, whatever conversation I can have with this other person…regardless of physical attraction or not. But to just sit sullenly for the 15 minutes it took me to finish my drink…that’s just f’ing rude! As I drained my glass I got up, said “I’ll just settle the bill” went and paid, and walked out with a “good night” to her… I’ve never encountered that attitude before… Edited July 14, 2015 by yxalitis
Arieswoman Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 yxalitis, That's OLD for you. I can beat that. I met a guy via OLD in the carpark of a pub/bar. He took one look at me, never said a word, turned on his heel, got in his car and drove off. I went and sat in my car and laughed until I cried.
Author yxalitis Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 yxalitis, That's OLD for you. I can beat that. I met a guy via OLD in the carpark of a pub/bar. He took one look at me, never said a word, turned on his heel, got in his car and drove off. I went and sat in my car and laughed until I cried. OR cried until you laughed... That is horrible..wow, how awful for you...come over here, let me give you a hug! 4
Author yxalitis Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 OR cried until you laughed... That is horrible..wow, how awful for you...come over here, let me give you a hug! Hey, no fair, Koala avatar, but lives in Liverpool?? That'd like me having an...umm...Hedgehog for an avatar? Badger? The Beetles? Nah, I'll stick with Cthulhu!
Arieswoman Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Thanks xylitis - if you do OLD you have to have a thick skin !! PS I love Koalas but I know they are not as cuddly as they look !
Author yxalitis Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 Thanks xylitis - if you do OLD you have to have a thick skin !! PS I love Koalas but I know they are not as cuddly as they look ! Yxalitis...you have to spell my made up name correctly. Been using that as my all-in-one username for 20 years! And wait until you meet a Drop Bear...wow
torturedartist Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 This happened a few weeks back, but in the absence of anything else going on right now, thought I’d post it. Met this girl online, seemed nice enough, American Expat over here trying the “new life” thing, texts were rapidly replied to, and the phone calls we exchange (two I think) were free flowing and easy…seemed like a good match intellectually. Her OK Cupid profile had a 95% match to mine, which doesn’t really mean anything, but still, the signs were positive. Decided to meet up at an upmarket bar for a drink. She arrived on time, walked in the door, saw me…and that was it… I stood up, went to shake her hand, and she didn’t even unfold her arms, just sort of twisted so I can barely grab her fingers… Oh…kay, I’ll let that slide it is cold outside…we went up and took a seat….and started to chat. Well, let me rephrase I started to chat, she replied with the minimal effort possible, never expanding her answers past a few syllables, not asking anything herself, looking utterly disinterested, bored, and uninvolved. OK, I get it, when she saw me, she instantly wasn’t attracted to me, I do have a polarizing look, that’s fine, the world goes on, life continues…. I’ve gone on first dates with woman where I didn’t immediately feel that chemistry, that attraction, but no matter what I ALWAYS continue the date as best I can, positive, happy, talkative…whether I think the person opposite me is a potential partner, or just a human being sharing a drink, I can still enjoy the time, enjoy my drink, the atmosphere, the music, and yes, whatever conversation I can have with this other person…regardless of physical attraction or not. But to just sit sullenly for the 15 minutes it took me to finish my drink…that’s just f’ing rude! As I drained my glass I got up, said “I’ll just settle the bill” went and paid, and walked out with a “good night” to her… I’ve never encountered that attitude before… People like her are in for very disappointing lives in terms of relationships. You should feel sorry for her, and wish she was more cordial, like you. 1
joseb Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 well yxalitis, look at it from the positive side - at least she made it very clear and you didn't waste much time, cash or energy on her 3
Author yxalitis Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 well yxalitis, look at it from the positive side - at least she made it very clear and you didn't waste much time, cash or energy on her ...true...
DaisyBug Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Wow, that IS rude. Sorry that had to happen to you!
kendahke Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 This happened a few weeks back, but in the absence of anything else going on right now, thought I’d post it. Met this girl online, seemed nice enough, American Expat over here trying the “new life” thing, texts were rapidly replied to, and the phone calls we exchange (two I think) were free flowing and easy…seemed like a good match intellectually. Her OK Cupid profile had a 95% match to mine, which doesn’t really mean anything, but still, the signs were positive. Decided to meet up at an upmarket bar for a drink. She arrived on time, walked in the door, saw me…and that was it… I stood up, went to shake her hand, and she didn’t even unfold her arms, just sort of twisted so I can barely grab her fingers… Oh…kay, I’ll let that slide it is cold outside…we went up and took a seat….and started to chat. Well, let me rephrase I started to chat, she replied with the minimal effort possible, never expanding her answers past a few syllables, not asking anything herself, looking utterly disinterested, bored, and uninvolved. OK, I get it, when she saw me, she instantly wasn’t attracted to me, I do have a polarizing look, that’s fine, the world goes on, life continues…. I’ve gone on first dates with woman where I didn’t immediately feel that chemistry, that attraction, but no matter what I ALWAYS continue the date as best I can, positive, happy, talkative…whether I think the person opposite me is a potential partner, or just a human being sharing a drink, I can still enjoy the time, enjoy my drink, the atmosphere, the music, and yes, whatever conversation I can have with this other person…regardless of physical attraction or not. But to just sit sullenly for the 15 minutes it took me to finish my drink…that’s just f’ing rude! As I drained my glass I got up, said “I’ll just settle the bill” went and paid, and walked out with a “good night” to her… I’ve never encountered that attitude before… You stayed 13 minutes longer than you needed to. If she wouldn't have even shaken my hand, I would have grabbed my coat and left her there. Seriously. 1
martaldn Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 You stayed 13 minutes longer than you needed to. If she wouldn't have even shaken my hand, I would have grabbed my coat and left her there. Seriously. or even better. he could get her in the bar have a seat, tell her "excuse me i need the loo" and never come back!
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