walkingonair Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 (edited) I broke up with him 2 months ago cause he never fully commit and has issues with commitment and also said he's moving in the summer.I stupidly met up with him after not seeing him for 2 months.He was super affectionate,held my hand and always hugged me.But also kept saying that he's gonna move august 1st.Why was he acting like a bf if he's still planning to move?I was really hurt and mad when I went home and I just hugged him and left.He then texted to see if I got home safe.Why is he doing this being all boyfriendy and calling me baby?why can't he just leave me alone if he's moving? :(Is it wrong that I'm super mad at him that he's moving for no real reason just cause he wants to move...Should I completely stop talking to him?The thing is I feel so much guilt when I ignore him but he's the one who's hurting me.I wish I could stop feeling guilt:( Edited July 13, 2015 by walkingonair
La.Primavera Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 1) Because he can. 2) Because you encourage him. He gets to walk away in a few weeks and leave you picking up the pieces. Think carefully about what you do here. If you continue to stay in contact with him this could drag on for a long time and you will be the one who suffers the most. Think about the time you waste on this guy is time you could be spending on getting to know another guy with actual relationship potential. This guy has nothing to offer you but heartbreak. This is the advice I gave you over two weeks ago when you were thinking about hanging out with him again. I stand by what I said. This guy is no good for you. For your own sake let him go! 1
Author walkingonair Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 1) Because he can. 2) Because you encourage him. He gets to walk away in a few weeks and leave you picking up the pieces. This is the advice I gave you over two weeks ago when you were thinking about hanging out with him again. I stand by what I said. This guy is no good for you. For your own sake let him go! Thanks!You're right,i should've listened to you but my emotions got in the way.I knew deep down that seeing him would only make me hurt more.We hung out yesterday and today I feel so used and hurt.Crying all day:(He also said we could hang out again if I want....ugh so selfish.
La.Primavera Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 I know how hard it is to stay away but you have to be firm with yourself because you keep getting hurt over and over again. Nothing good comes from staying in contact with him. It only prolongs your suffering. You can't trust his behavior or motives. Only you can stop this from happening again. I think no contact would really help you in this situation. I'm sure part of you regrets breaking up with him but the truth is that was absolutely the right thing to do. Put yourself first and stay strong! 1
Author walkingonair Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 (edited) I know how hard it is to stay away but you have to be firm with yourself because you keep getting hurt over and over again. Nothing good comes from staying in contact with him. It only prolongs your suffering. You can't trust his behavior or motives. Only you can stop this from happening again. I think no contact would really help you in this situation. I'm sure part of you regrets breaking up with him but the truth is that was absolutely the right thing to do. Put yourself first and stay strong! Thanks!Its gonna be so hard but I'm officially gonna start moving on today:(I just feel a lot of guilt because I never told him how I feel for him cause I was always afraid of getting hurt cause he'd always distance and stiff.is it ok that i haven't told him? Edited July 14, 2015 by walkingonair
La.Primavera Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Trust me, he knows. You have given him enough. It is time to do what is best for you now. 1
joseb Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 There is no reason to feel guilt. Just tell him hanging out hurts you and you don't want to see him or talk to him anymore. I'm not sure what you hoped to achieve meeting again after 2 months.
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