CollegeKid101 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Hey guys, I recently posted about a month ago about how to break up with my girlfriend..well I did it and I was honest and she cried a lot, but I know I did the right thing. We are not in contact anymore, it was as clean of a break up that I could imagine. Anyways...fast forward about a month, I just got back from school (had a summer renuion with some of my friends). We ended up at the bars all weekend and had a great time and moved the party to our house. We probably had about 200 people or so at this house party... I've had a pretty big crush on this girl at school for awhile now and she happened to show up, I never acted on it due to the fact that I was happy in my relationship and would never cheat and she had been with a guy I believe (not sure). Well the night was going great for me and my friends as we were pretty much on cloud 9 and just enjoying college. This girl and her friends are pretty close with my good group of friends so we happened to be around her a bunch, but she looked very upset the entire night, not exactly sure why. Up until then we had only met once and it was only for about 20 minutes or so at the bar after one too many drinks probably 4-5 months ago. I ended up reintroducing myself as I didn't know if she remembered me or not. Although I was not in the best state I remember her not being too pleased after I said "hey..I'm collegekid101" *puts hand out* *no hand put out back* YIKES. Although she was already in a terrible mood from what I could see, I took this as a bad sign and simply walked away. Whoever the guy she was with or perhaps is still with was at the party too, but he was busy with other girls so this may have added to her not being in a good mood. Or she was just pretty upset that I acted like we hadn't met, I just didn't want to be the guy that remembered and she didn't..if that makes sense. I didn't end up seeing her the rest of the night, but I can't stop thinking that I messed up with this girl. My friend, whose a girl, told me to just act like the night never happened and if it does come up just say you weren't in the best state memory wise. I probably won't see her for another month as I won't be back till then for school. What do you guys think? Did I really blow any chance with her? Next time I see her should I just say hey "collegekid101's crush we met at the bar last year!" or something along those lines? I'm going to be around this girl a lot regardless as I mentioned our friend groups are very close. Guess I'm just crushing right now, LoveShack Community. Regardless it's college and there's plenty of girls!
empresario Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 From what I can tell you didn't do anything wrong. As an over-thinker myself, sometimes I do the same thing. I figure I must have offended someone if they aren't instantly attracted to my charm. But what did you do wrong? Nothing. You greeted someone. You couldn't have acted any other way than you did. So don't worry about it. Put it out of your mind. Dwelling on it will only make you vulnerable to actual mistakes. Keep in mind it could just be that she's not into you. Either way, it's not your fault.
wb1988 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 (edited) It sounds like she was in a bad mood for reasons that have nothing to do with you, but honestly if she liked you even a little bit then surely she should have lightened up. Your approach was fine and your friend is right, but it sounds like you're a nobody to her at the moment. Remember that your feelings for her have absolutely no effect on her feelings (lack thereof) towards you, so don't try to imagine ****. Also as a guy that's 26 I wish I could tell myself in the past that I should only go for girls that are outside my social circles; you should take this advice. Also as you said there are so many girls, why waste your time on someone that seems to be in a bad place right now. Edited July 13, 2015 by wb1988
Author CollegeKid101 Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 I guess the reason I had a gut feeling she may be slightly into me was when we talked at the bar those few months ago she had good vibes toward me, but then again I shouldn't overthink that either. Also reason I approached again was that she and her friend had yelled my name about an hour before that, but I ignored it because I didn't know if it was me just being in a intoxicated state of mind lol. Regardless thanks for the responses guys, I was just overthinking it as usual. Now that I'm not in a relationship I'm going to go after girls regardless if they're in my friend zone or not.
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