sportygirl89 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 So I think I sort of like my coach from the gym (I know he is single via mutual friends). Only issue is I feel like he is extremely hot and out of my league. I'm not bad looking but anyone who has seen pictures of him are like he would be out of my league. This is not the typical gym and we have a close community. I would be afraid of other people picking up on it. It would be fine if we got together and they knew but I would hate it if he were to reject me for whatever reason (guys are weird and unpredictable). How would I approach him to ask him out for coffee or something like that? (He is about to leave in a year so that would be why he wouldn't say yes).I just don't want everyone watching my move. We are friends on Facebook.
wb1988 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 As a guy I can say that we don't really talk about romance, so if you asked him out and he said no he is unlikely to tell everyone about it.
Rewan Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I agree that I don't think he would be open about telling people that you asked him out. No matter male or female, most people I seem to encounter don't feel the need to broadcast that. But there are always the exceptions.. However, I'd rather discuss the real issue here- your doubt. I'm not trying to be harsh, but isn't it better to maybe take a chance rather than wonder what if? I can understand how difficult it must be because I have had those same kind of doubts about guys being out of my league in the past. But can anyone really fault you for how you feel? You can't control who you have feelings for. We don't get to point and say that we're going to have feelings for that person forever. It's more like getting hit by a specific drop of rain in the middle of a downpour.. So my best advice is to just be straight with him and ask him out.. I can understand that it's intimidating and quite difficult to work up the nerve to do, but if you don't try, you fail from square one. :S I hope this helps. :S
preraph Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Find out if there's a policy at the gym that they're not supposed to date the patrons. Also, be aware that probably every girl he sees there who's single is after him if the's that great.
Author sportygirl89 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 Find out if there's a policy at the gym that they're not supposed to date the patrons. Also, be aware that probably every girl he sees there who's single is after him if the's that great. There are other coaches dating girls in the gym. So I think its safe to say its okay. I may go to a couple gym classes this week. Do I ask him out for coffee or for him to help me with a gym movement? I think he must get a lot of the girls think I am too hot. He seems like a good guy. So I'm just like what in the heck?!
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