Morphine Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 My ex left me for GIGS and she basically lost attraction for me (I am a busy guy, too). I dream of getting back togrther, but it has only been 4 weeks since break up...so yea. She told me "I dont love you, I think". Now, will I reconsider ever getting back together? Maybe in a distant future. But not now, not in a year, not in 2 years. There will be no going back to the old relationship...it must be a new relationship. But even then - we must feel that we are in love. If there are no butterflies, no sleepless nights, no loss of appetite, if I am not thinking about her several times a day - then there is no chance. I am sure you have all of these right now - only because you are hoping this reconciliation will bring an end to your pain. No it wont. Take your time. Enjoy single life. LOVE your life.
Author Lizrd3000 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 (edited) I just broke up with her 1 hour ago after sleeping over in a city i dont know in her dads house. I woke up fron a bad dream about her cheating on me, from when our relatiomship ended, and i decided to look through messages from when we first broke up to confirm she really did cheat. I found out she cheated on me and had sex with the dude OUTSIDE. i couldnt take this ****, woke her up and broke up. She cried alot, i did a little, and explained i couldnt forget the **** she did to me. She said she changed and regrets her mistakes and ****, but I didnt buy it. When we parted ways at the station, i told her not to contact me again, and told her ill delete her number and she should do the same. She cried and begged me to not delete her. But im gonna do it anyway. I hope you guys can take some wisdom here, dont go back to a cheating ex. 99.5% it wont work and isnt worth it anyway. I learned from this stupid ****hole space i was in for sure. You guys will see me around for a few more months. Edit: i have a problem too.. my dick feels ****ing disgusting now that i had sex with her knowing she ****ed some dude outside. The slut. How do i get rid of the disgusting feeling? Edited July 28, 2015 by Lizrd3000
15Love Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Unfortunately re-reading your old answers it sounds like you were fairly warned. Now go get tested, implement full and permanent NC and move on. Sorry you had to go through all this a third time.
Author Lizrd3000 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 You're right. I'm at work but i cant seem to concentrate. I keep hearing her crying and it honestly breaks my heart and makes me wonder if i made the right choice, because she really seemed sad and made me believe she changed. And it tears me up that i hurt her. I seem to do everything impulsively. What can i do to get rid of the guilt of having hurt the girl I love, and the what if's of her maybe really having changed? She didnt really do antything wrong, but i just felt like i couldnt get over the fact she cheated. I also found out today HOW she cheated, which opened a scar and made me break up. Why does it feel like i screw up everything that I do? She cried so much at the train station....
15Love Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 How would you feel if it happened a fourth time? If you're okay with it...then give her another chance. Don't have any regrets at the end of yor life. Decide which way would leave you more regretful.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 You're right. I'm at work but i cant seem to concentrate. I keep hearing her crying and it honestly breaks my heart and makes me wonder if i made the right choice, because she really seemed sad and made me believe she changed. And it tears me up that i hurt her. I seem to do everything impulsively. What can i do to get rid of the guilt of having hurt the girl I love, and the what if's of her maybe really having changed? She didnt really do antything wrong, but i just felt like i couldnt get over the fact she cheated. I also found out today HOW she cheated, which opened a scar and made me break up. Why does it feel like i screw up everything that I do? She cried so much at the train station.... uhhhhhh? The bolded sentence is pretty damn contradictory. Get your s--t together. She CHEATED on you and has broken up with you TWICE. What possible reason would there be to continue this fiasco? You did what you needed to do. You were dumb to take her back a second time. Don't double down, well, triple down, on dumb. It's time to move forward and turn the page on this chapter of your life. She cried? Who cares, she cheated? 2
Author Lizrd3000 Posted July 29, 2015 Author Posted July 29, 2015 I have to remember how she cheated on me, and the wag she did. She tried everything to hide it as it was going on. She couldve backed out anytime but decided to continue doing whatever she was doing. Its easy to only remember the good things and make up reasons to go back. But theyre just not logical. I keep thinking how she said that "she needed to do it and has changed now she knows what the other side is like", and that it's normal to make mistakes. But then i have to remember that I've got all the right to not be forgiving this. Its her fault it all shatered, and I shouldnt place all the blame on myself. Just a note to myself for when my clarity of being drunk subsides. Thabks phoenix for the response, you're right, but it sucks hurting someone you love.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 I have to remember how she cheated on me, and the wag she did. She tried everything to hide it as it was going on. She couldve backed out anytime but decided to continue doing whatever she was doing. Its easy to only remember the good things and make up reasons to go back. But theyre just not logical. I keep thinking how she said that "she needed to do it and has changed now she knows what the other side is like", and that it's normal to make mistakes. But then i have to remember that I've got all the right to not be forgiving this. Its her fault it all shatered, and I shouldnt place all the blame on myself. Just a note to myself for when my clarity of being drunk subsides. Thabks phoenix for the response, you're right, but it sucks hurting someone you love. How the f--k are you hurting her?! YOU WERE THE ONE THAT WAS CHEATED ON! Get your s--t together man, you're talking like a spineless doormat. 3
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