dangerbang Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Hi all. 2 letters arrived earlier for my ex fianse. We've been split over 3 months now. No contact from either side (She dumped me), but I did bump into her last saturday night in a bar. I tried to be polite and civil when she approached me, and after asking if we could chat outside for a bit, I answered "I don't see the point", or something along those lines. Then she said forget it and she asked me outright "Do you think it was for the best??" and I said something like, we'll never know. She didn't like this answer and called me "ugly" and that she hated me, before storming off. This woman is 34, not 14 by the way! Anyway, what can I say, unfortunately I still kind of care about her even though she was bad to me and has acted horribly around the time of break up. I guess I feel a bit sorry for her too, she's had a rough life. What do I do with this mail? I think one of the letters may be a cheque too, so I don't really want to throw them out. The thing is, I have no idea of her new address, or where she even works nowadays. I don't have any contact with any of her friends or know where they live. We live in the same city but that's about it. I could contact her and ask where to send them, but I don't want her to think I'm using this as an excuse to contact her? I thought she may email or text to apologise for last week, but I got nothing. No surprise really. Any ideas what to do with the mail? Thanks.
Rockdad Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 hand it back to the Post Office marked No such person lives here
Author dangerbang Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 Yeah the thing is, it's from the UK and we don't live in the UK anymore so the Post Office here wouldn't know what to do with it. I know I should probably just throw it out but part of me feels bad about that. Then again maybe I'm just excited right now that I've a reason to contact her? I don't want to be that guy though, emailing his ex who has been horrible to him.
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Give it to a mutual friend to give to her
theredpill Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 ^^ do this or if not feasible, call her and ask for a forwarding address and leave the conversation politely but swiftly, if she wants to talk arrange a date on the spot, don't do it on the phone.
Author dangerbang Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 Well as I said already, I'm not in contact with any of her friends, we never had any mutual friends on her side anyway. Hmmm, so looks like contacting her in some way is the only thing I can do here bar throwing them out. I think I might wait a while and see how I feel then. I also found a letter from her late mother to her, that I'd like her to have. But again, she f**ked me over and I don't want to be chasing after her to give her things back. Maybe the best thing to do is wait a few more months until my feelings have died down, or maybe she'll have been in touch by then, and I can ask for her address then.
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