Author LivingDeadGrl Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 Most of the answers that are trying to spin the issue off track are from people who inherently believe he morally cheated or don't believe in multi-dating. If you do believe in multi-dating, he didn't do anything wrong. This is part of figuring out who you want to be with. Too cynical of a view. Who knows really what is going on with the other girl?! Chances are you know better than any of us on the internet since you two are friends. How believable is his story and timeframe with her? Anyway, all that doesn't matter just yet. Change your life situation, give it some time until you are ready to date and see where things are with him. I'd be the most concerned with the fact that the next day he seems to want to see things out with the other girl (maybe that's what everyone here is latching onto). That sounds like he is picking her over you. However, let's put it in context. You still live with your ex-bf and even though it's over, if he were on here asking if he should get fully involved with you right now, I'd say give it a bit of time. Plus some people are not over-the-top like a romantic movie declaring their love from one kiss. Let the thoughts settle in. Do you for now. Thank you! In all honesty he did choose her over me and understandably so. He's been seeing her on a non-friend basis for probably about a month, and was friends with her prior to I think. They hadn't even kissed until last week. I on the other hand have just been his platonic friend mostly for 5 months, with light flirting and we had never met in person until that night. I don't blame him for choosing her. I am not in the right kind of situation to get involved with him right now, and as much as I would love for our amazing kissing session to turn into something more, it just isn't the right time. I can't blame him for making that choice at all 1
kismetkismet Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 He hasn't done anything TECHNICALLY wrong, but he hasn't been very kind to either of you either. I'm sure the girl would be hurt by what he did, and now that he's not drunk anymore he kind of tosses you aside.. I would just focus on finding a place to live and moving on from your recent relationship on your own. It's never good to jump into something new too soon anyway. I'd probably cut off the friendship with him a bit too. You don't want him to think that he can just have you on the back burner, because that's probably how he will feel about it now. That's not to say you should never ever speak to him again, but the timing is bad for both of you, and he seems inconsiderate. 1
Author LivingDeadGrl Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 He hasn't done anything TECHNICALLY wrong, but he hasn't been very kind to either of you either. I'm sure the girl would be hurt by what he did, and now that he's not drunk anymore he kind of tosses you aside.. I would just focus on finding a place to live and moving on from your recent relationship on your own. It's never good to jump into something new too soon anyway. I'd probably cut off the friendship with him a bit too. You don't want him to think that he can just have you on the back burner, because that's probably how he will feel about it now. That's not to say you should never ever speak to him again, but the timing is bad for both of you, and he seems inconsiderate. Thank you. I don't think he intended to hurt anyone and I agree he sort of tossed me aside. It's never a good thing to jump from one to the next, that is why I don't get why he would even want to be with this girl, she literally just ended things with her ex as well. It sort of screams desperation. I know he wanted a relationship. I am going to create major distance regardless.. I know that I am on his mind, but I am in no place to be with him right now anyway...although part of me hopes it doesn't work out with this girl, does that make me a bad person? 2
Versacehottie Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Thank you. I don't think he intended to hurt anyone and I agree he sort of tossed me aside. It's never a good thing to jump from one to the next, that is why I don't get why he would even want to be with this girl, she literally just ended things with her ex as well. It sort of screams desperation. I know he wanted a relationship. I am going to create major distance regardless.. I know that I am on his mind, but I am in no place to be with him right now anyway...although part of me hopes it doesn't work out with this girl, does that make me a bad person? no!! I find it hilarious that people jumped to the "cheating" and "he's a bad person" and then we find out the detail that it's only been a month and they just kissed last week!!!! Get real. Yes create distance. If only because he didn't "pick" you and because you want the mystery of him wondering what's going on with you. Also it's space to sort out your own situation. good luck-- i don't think this is over yet 1
Author LivingDeadGrl Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 no!! I find it hilarious that people jumped to the "cheating" and "he's a bad person" and then we find out the detail that it's only been a month and they just kissed last week!!!! Get real. Yes create distance. If only because he didn't "pick" you and because you want the mystery of him wondering what's going on with you. Also it's space to sort out your own situation. good luck-- i don't think this is over yet Thanks! I completely agree with you. You are awesome I don't think it is over yet either, BUT even if it is.. She is 29 and wants kids. He is 37 and is "fixed" as he has 2 already. When her biological clock starts ticking in 2-3 years and she dumps him when he's 40, he will remember he made the wrong choice. Ha ha! Kidding! 1
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