arsenal78 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I've been NC with my exgirlfriend about a month now; only contact was her emailing about picking up a wii that she never picked up. Seemed more like a "check in" ploy to me at the time so I resumed NC. More recently and before I get into it, I realize that checking Facebook is never a good idea during the healing process but here's the story; we broke up two months ago the night that she went to a wedding - well unfortunately the groom passed away this Saturday; the same night that my ex girlfriend unblocked me from Facebook. The date of the unblocking also holds weight as it was the same exact date a year ago that we rekindled our desire to date each other and it lasted until early May. I should mention that this is the second time she's unblocked since our breakup. I do NOT plan to make contact with her unless she first messages me. I'm unsure if I have any desire to reconcile with her but I wouldn't mind a mature discussion with her or even just to see how she is. I realize that those options are also probably counterintuitive to my healing as I still feel like I love her. Any thoughts here would be greatly appreciative.
hotmrw Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I agree with you, I also see this as opening up a line of communication, if she has done this for the reason you and I both agree on I think she will sooner rather than later contact you, maybe not straight away but certainly soon, she will be hoping that you will contact her first, I would say just do what your doing and await her contact, because it is almost a guarantee she will be contacting you, then take it from there. Regards, Darren.
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 As you know, if you leave FB alone, you wouldn't know anything about her. I think if she wants to contact you, she will contact you, not just unblock you. Stay NC and get off of FB. Sorry to hear about the groom - tragic!!!
coryreply Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I think you're taking a good approach here. You obviously have no control over whether she blocks or unblocks you on FB. This date obviously holds symbolic value for her. Do you think she's trying to send you a message or just trying to tempt you to respond to her?
Author arsenal78 Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 I believe the date possibly holds significance - also the unfortunate passing of the groom may have struck a chord with her - seeing as we also broke up on the very date that the couple got married 2 months ago. It's quite eery. Maybe she's seeing just how fragile and delicate love can really be. However, I also feel like she might be testing me to reach out only to shoot me down or ignore altogether. But what would be the point of "unblocking" to do that? I think as you said my best approach is to wait for her to reach out...
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