Zerdux Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 So basically my gf broke up with me a month ago.There was a thread about it,you ca check it out. So my ex messaged me she misses me even thou she was the one who wanted to call off the relationship?I tried my bet to work it out with us then,but she said she didn't want it anymore and it was final,but it seems like tables are turning around?Anyone could suggest what could have influenced her to write this?What could be happening in her head? P.S The last time I spoke to her when we broke up I told her this will happen,but she said no.But it seems like I was right.
mightycpa Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 So basically my gf broke up with me a month ago.There was a thread about it,you ca check it out. So my ex messaged me she misses me even thou she was the one who wanted to call off the relationship?I tried my bet to work it out with us then,but she said she didn't want it anymore and it was final,but it seems like tables are turning around?Anyone could suggest what could have influenced her to write this?What could be happening in her head? P.S The last time I spoke to her when we broke up I told her this will happen,but she said no.But it seems like I was right.I wouldn't worry about it. She's just forgotten why she broke up with you. If you get back together with her, she'll figure it out again. 1
pidgeon1010 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I miss you doesn't necessarily mean she wants you back...it could mean she's bored and lonely. I wouldn't try to read anything into it. My ex would email and text to tell me he missed me and was thinking about me. Are we back together? nope.
Author Zerdux Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 I guess I have to see her actions further to see what is her intentions.
foolinlove79 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 My ex usually does that when whoever he wanted to see or was seeing didnt work out so then he comes back to me again. And then he leaves again. He also admitted he does this when he ia bored and lonely.
Author Zerdux Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 Another important thing: She invited me to her birthday party event.
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Another important thing: She invited me to her birthday party event. Aw, how nice. Decline the invitation. 4
theredpill Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 If she broke contact, arrange a date and go out, have fun like it's the first one. If she's disrespected you badly, cheated, etc. I'd ignore her and never speak to her again until you've met someone new and are completely in love. NC is to heal, sometimes it makes the ex think, sometimes you're meant to be and sometimes not. 1
dumbass2 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Another important thing: She invited me to her birthday party event. I hope you haven't said anything. Just say, "sorry, I have plans that day" and leave it at that. I know it's hard because you want her back, but I think it would be the wrong thing for you do because it is her birthday. That is something you spend with friends and family or boyfriend, which you are none these any more. She would like to have you there for comfort only and then more than likely toss you aside as soon as it's over. She is feeling sad about the break up. It is normal and even for the dumper, but she did do it and did think about it before she did it. What she is doing does not mean that she feels she made a mistake, but if you are not there for her like you were when you were her boyfriend, then maybe she will realize she made a mistake. You can't just continue to be there when she wants or needs you. I think it will be hard on you afterwards if you go, but if you do, be prepared for more questions and mixed emotions right after it's over.
Chi townD Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 So basically my gf broke up with me a month ago.There was a thread about it,you ca check it out. So my ex messaged me she misses me even thou she was the one who wanted to call off the relationship?I tried my bet to work it out with us then,but she said she didn't want it anymore and it was final,but it seems like tables are turning around?Anyone could suggest what could have influenced her to write this?What could be happening in her head? P.S The last time I spoke to her when we broke up I told her this will happen,but she said no.But it seems like I was right. I wouldn't pat yourself on the back just yet. All she said is that she missed you. Okay. So what? I miss football season. It doesn't even mean anything. It's not admitting that she wants to come back. Hell, she could have been drunk when she wrote it and doesn't even remember sending it. You just don't know and someone telling you that "They miss you" tells you nothing. Write it off as a breadcrumb dude. It means nothing. 1
Author Zerdux Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 I wouldn't pat yourself on the back just yet. All she said is that she missed you. Okay. So what? I miss football season. It doesn't even mean anything. It's not admitting that she wants to come back. Hell, she could have been drunk when she wrote it and doesn't even remember sending it. You just don't know and someone telling you that "They miss you" tells you nothing. Write it off as a breadcrumb dude. It means nothing. It was 11 in the morning so I ruled out the drunk text option.I thought it could be breadcrumbs,but then she invited me and her brother to her birthday.Yeah this tell me nothing yet,I just have to see how she is going to be approaching me now.
Author Zerdux Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 If she broke contact, arrange a date and go out, have fun like it's the first one. If she's disrespected you badly, cheated, etc. I'd ignore her and never speak to her again until you've met someone new and are completely in love. NC is to heal, sometimes it makes the ex think, sometimes you're meant to be and sometimes not. No she never done things like that,we had really a beautiful relationship.I think she is in the conclusion process that she f****d up.
ravfour4 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Inviting you to her bday is a good sign, sure it's no "I'm so sorry for everything I want you back for sure", but it's closer to that then "you're just a friend" or "I hate you". If she wanted to meet other men or held resentment towards you, she wouldn't invite you to her bday, she wants you there because it will make her happy (either that or she has no other friends). See how it goes and let us know. 1
Author Zerdux Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 I hope you haven't said anything. Just say, "sorry, I have plans that day" and leave it at that. I know it's hard because you want her back, but I think it would be the wrong thing for you do because it is her birthday. That is something you spend with friends and family or boyfriend, which you are none these any more. She would like to have you there for comfort only and then more than likely toss you aside as soon as it's over. She is feeling sad about the break up. It is normal and even for the dumper, but she did do it and did think about it before she did it. What she is doing does not mean that she feels she made a mistake, but if you are not there for her like you were when you were her boyfriend, then maybe she will realize she made a mistake. You can't just continue to be there when she wants or needs you. I think it will be hard on you afterwards if you go, but if you do, be prepared for more questions and mixed emotions right after it's over. She said life is hard without me,so I am guessing she seen what it is like when I am not there.I am not going to be some "toy" and will never be,if she will want to change something she will have to prove it. "I don't forgive people because I'm weak.I forgive them because I'm strong enough to know people make mistakes". 1
aloneinaz Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Sounds like you're going with her then. Have you two broken up before? All I know is that when a relationship breaks once, it's usually shattered. I've NEVER had a relationship last that included one break up. I don't know anyone else that has either. Everyone I know that's been together 20 plus years have never broken up. People don't end a relationship without copious amounts of thoughts about it. It's rarely a knee jerk reaction. Just know all of this before committing to dating her again.
Author Zerdux Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 Sounds like you're going with her then. Have you two broken up before? All I know is that when a relationship breaks once, it's usually shattered. I've NEVER had a relationship last that included one break up. I don't know anyone else that has either. Everyone I know that's been together 20 plus years have never broken up. People don't end a relationship without copious amounts of thoughts about it. It's rarely a knee jerk reaction. Just know all of this before committing to dating her again. I just kind of know her physiology pretty well.When we broke up I told her this was going to happen even thou she denied this.I just gave her space,see how life is without me and understand what she should appreciate in life.But no way I am going to let her in easy,she'll have a lot to prove me first
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