Samsung1234 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 (edited) I really don t know whats happening. In the last 2 months she started to show less and less affection. Thing that makes me feel bad. She was and is very stressed out with her college, exams, graduation exam, family problems. She is the kind of person that puts at heart every little negative emotion. She says that she starts getting in a depression mood and I am worried about her. Thing is I am an affectionate person, I love to kiss, hold hands, hug, cuddle etc. First few months of relationship she was the perfect lovable gf, but for 2 months it just went down. She accuses me that I nagg too much, that I don t show any "substance" any more, any needs, any preferences like I did when we were happy in past. That I changed too and I start complaining too much so she couldn t concentrate on her exams for her career and instead of being "a sensitive girl" like she called me, I should of man up and understand her and help her in these hard times, not complain about everything and get clingy. Now she got in a semi-cold mood. I don t say no, I started to complain kinda a lot like a hot head ... maybe this scared her away and made me look weak ? Did I lost the "manly" view that she had on me ? Whenever I get cold on her, or go on with my life she calls me and wants to comeback. When I post a picture on FB and get lots of likes from girls, she gets so annoyed and jealous cause she thinks she will lose me. After a fight where I told her that I don t need this anymore and left, after hours she called me 3 times in a row, answered to her 4th call and she was very desperate that I dont answer. Whenever we fight and broke up, she is the one that says that she doesn't want to see me and after hours or days calls me because she misses me. Mixed signals ? What should I do ? Edited July 13, 2015 by Samsung1234
Redhead14 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I really don t know whats happening. In the last 2 months she started to show less and less affection. Thing that makes me feel bad. She was and is very stressed out with her college, exams, graduation exam, family problems. She is the kind of person that puts at heart every little negative emotion. She says that she starts getting in a depression mood and I am worried about her. Thing is I am an affectionate person, I love to kiss, hold hands, hug, cuddle etc. First few months of relationship she was the perfect lovable gf, but for 2 months it just went down. She accuses me that I nagg too much, that I don t show any "substance" any more, any needs, any preferences like I did when we were happy in past. That I changed too and I start complaining too much so she couldn t concentrate on her exams for her career and instead of being "a sensitive girl" like she called me, I should of man up and understand her and help her in these hard times, not complain about everything and get clingy. Now she got in a semi-cold mood. I don t say no, I started to complain kinda a lot like a hot head ... maybe this scared her away and made me look weak ? Did I lost the "manly" view that she had on me ? Whenever I get cold on her, or go on with my life she calls me and wants to comeback. When I post a picture on FB and get lots of likes from girls, she gets so annoyed and jealous cause she thinks she will lose me. After a fight where I told her that I don t need this anymore and left, after hours she called me 3 times in a row, answered to her 4th call and she was very desperate that I dont answer. Whenever we fight and broke up, she is the one that says that she doesn't want to see me and after hours or days calls me because she misses me. Mixed signals ? What should I do ? You both are giving mixed signals to each other. You're doing the "dance of anger". That's unhealthy. How old are you two and how long have you been seeing each other? 1
wb1988 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 (edited) Thing is I am an affectionate person, I love to kiss, hold hands, hug, cuddle etc. First few months of relationship she was the perfect lovable gf, but for 2 months it just went down. She accuses me that I nagg too much, that I don t show any "substance" any more, any needs, any preferences like I did when we were happy in past. That I changed too and I start complaining too much so she couldn t concentrate on her exams for her career and instead of being "a sensitive girl" like she called me, I should of man up and understand her and help her in these hard times, not complain about everything and get clingy. Now she got in a semi-cold mood. I don t say no, I started to complain kinda a lot like a hot head ... maybe this scared her away and made me look weak ? Did I lost the "manly" view that she had on me ? You both are giving mixed signals to each other. You're doing the "dance of anger". That's unhealthy. You actually answered your own question OP. There aren't any mixed signals, actually it makes perfect sense if you think about it. Also ignore the advice from anyone that uses the word 'healthy' when talking about relationships! You've basically gone soft. You wanting to give so much affection is because she doesn't give it to you and she doesn't want to give it to you because you give her too much affection. When you back off then she wants you more, when you are too needy then she wants you less. It's only a mixed signal if you're a dumb dumb. She even asked you to man up and called you girl. From what you've said it seems she has lots of stuff going on and you're turning into a liability. Girls don't really need help but rather a quiet shoulder to lean on, this is what a real man does. Right not you're behaving super beta which is why you probably want to solve her problems, are really needy and overly-emotional. Also every relationship starts great, the first 2 months is the period when you can do no wrong which is why she was okay with you being a pussy at first but now it's starting to tick her off. I personally think it's already too late and she's lost all respect for you the moment when she saw you as an overly-affectionate baby. Edited July 13, 2015 by wb1988
Satu Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 She has an absolute right to be who she is, and doesn't have to try to be who you want her to be. Accept her exactly as she is, or end it.
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