GuskeGee Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I made a thread a while back about this girl I met briefly through a mutual friend at the movies. We barely spoke, but I was literally blown away by her. I came home and couldn't stop thinking of her. I thought over and over again about every single little detail during our very very very brief convo, but I couldn't find any indication or sign of interest from her, so after a while of analyzing and trying to come up with a way to contact her, I gave up. She was way too beautiful and attractive to feel the same way about me… Six months later, I went to our mutual friend's birthday party with a girl I've been dating recently. And guess who also attended the party? That girl from the movies. And then it happened. She sat next to me, we began talking and talking and talking, dancing and dancing and dancing. After a while, our mutual friend tells me that the girl just confessed she really likes me and that she had a crush on me since the movies Her problem is that she JUST got into a relationship three weeks ago (!). I confronted her, she told me how she had a crush on me, but didn't think I felt the same way and kinda gave up hope until she saw me again at the party. We went back to the dance floor and danced a bit more, until we started kissing. We went outside, so my date wouldn't notice. We kissed for a really long time and she even said "If I had known you were into me, I'd never have started seeing that other guy.." Same way I wouldn't start seeing that other girl. Now we're both in a very complicated situation - we're both seeing someone, but we're both hugely attracted to each other. What do you guys think?
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Dump the current girlfriend. You're being very unfair on her. Ask this girl out and see whether she is in an early enough position with HER guy to do the same. That's all you can currently do, right now...... 4
casey.lives Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 be with who you want to be with.. but don't go around hurting people or messing them up 1
Author GuskeGee Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 be with who you want to be with.. but don't go around hurting people or messing them up That's easier said than done though. I like both girls, one a bit more than the other, but both girls nonetheless.
empresario Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 That's easier said than done though. I like both girls, one a bit more than the other, but both girls nonetheless. It's actually not easier said than done. Do you think you're the only guy to balance two girls? Do you think you're some sort of a pioneer? I assure you you're not. You're just a jerk. Do what you'd like, but stop being selfish and choose one. Now, one more little point. Both of you have shown you have no regard for your SO's feelings. Do you really want to be with someone like that? Once the lust wears off...what do you think will happen? 2
yxalitis Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Purely physical attraction. Won't last. You're both as shallow as each other. Dump you GF, see this one behind her back, whatever you decide to do, remember your choices, and the impact they had on the lives of those around you. Your GF deserves better.
Author GuskeGee Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 Purely physical attraction. Won't last. You're both as shallow as each other. Dump you GF, see this one behind her back, whatever you decide to do, remember your choices, and the impact they had on the lives of those around you. Your GF deserves better. She's not my GF, we're not in a relationship yet, we've been dating and hanging out for three-four weeks, but it's not a relationship. And you have no idea whatsoever if the attraction won't last. I don't know what it is, but those are feelings alright, and they are pretty strong. It was an instant attraction.
kismetkismet Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 You made out with someone while you were on a date with someone else... that's pretty brutal and insensitive. You should break up with that girl because if you cared about her you wouldn't be making out with other people with her in the other room. No girl wants to be your second choice.. 1
Keenly Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 You can stick with the sure thing, the one you are with, and forget about the other one. Or you can gamble for the other and potentially (most likely) lose both. Choose wisely.
Author GuskeGee Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 It's actually not easier said than done. Do you think you're the only guy to balance two girls? Do you think you're some sort of a pioneer? I assure you you're not. You're just a jerk. Do what you'd like, but stop being selfish and choose one. Now, one more little point. Both of you have shown you have no regard for your SO's feelings. Do you really want to be with someone like that? Once the lust wears off...what do you think will happen? Where exactly did I write that I thought I was the only guy balancing two girls, moron? I met this girl six months ago, fell for her instantly, didn't do anything about it and moved on. I met another sweet girl a month ago, started seeing her, then the girl I met six months ago pops up and the feelings do too. Now I'm with one girl I've come to like over the past month and this girl I had a crush on for the past six months. That's not being a jerk, that's called a dilemma, because you care for two girls and don't want to hurt any. Man, you jumped on me like it was something personal. Makes me think you're either pressed as **** or completely idiotic.
babycakees Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I find this incredibly unfair to the girl you brought to the party. How were you able to converse and dance and kiss another girl when you brought her along on a date with you to the party? You are not being fair to the girl you are currently seeing (whether she is a girlfriend or just started seeing her). You need to get rid of her, because if you actually liked her you would not have done what you did at the party. Not to mention, she deserves better.
joseb Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 If you really feel this attraction you speak of, then finish up with the current girl and let the one you like know and that you would be interested in going out with her if she is single. You may find it's just infatuation, but I think if you don't do it you will always wonder.
empresario Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Where exactly did I write that I thought I was the only guy balancing two girls, moron? I met this girl six months ago, fell for her instantly, didn't do anything about it and moved on. I met another sweet girl a month ago, started seeing her, then the girl I met six months ago pops up and the feelings do too. Now I'm with one girl I've come to like over the past month and this girl I had a crush on for the past six months. That's not being a jerk, that's called a dilemma, because you care for two girls and don't want to hurt any. Man, you jumped on me like it was something personal. Makes me think you're either pressed as **** or completely idiotic. I see. Well then explain the dilemma to both women and see if they think you're innocent...or kind of a jerk. Go ahead. Tell your girlfriend you took her to a party and proceeded to kiss another woman the whole time. The benefit of this is I don't need you to accept my advice. But maybe you will accept theirs. I pity you. "Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive".
kismetkismet Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 it's not the fact that you met and have feelings for two girls. That's a pretty normal, if unfortunate dilemma. Making out with someone while on a date with someone else however is pretty shady and dishonest. You could still have had an honest conversation with the second girl without doing that. 1
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