Teknoe Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 She was supposed to meet over casual drinks Saturday night. She told me she had to take care of a sick family member a few hours before, and suggested we get breakfast instead the next day. So I met her and I'm happy to say she looks like her profile pictures, unlike the last 4-5 girls I dated online. Old pics, misled pics... it was refreshing to see the same girl in the pic. The date was fine. I don't think any of us felt sparks right off the bat, but it seems like we're open to continue this beyond one date. I felt a little rusty though, to be honest. There were moments of silence during our breakfast and usually I can be pretty good about silences... where I can let it ride out until the other person continues on or asks a question. Today I found myself filling in the gaps (maybe a bit too much as to avoid the potential for awkward silence). Anyway, we agreed to a movie outing this week, so we'll see how that goes. I might be commitment phobic (unless it's a girl I am absolutely crazy about, but those tend to turn out to be 1-way infatuation streets) because I found myself pondering a future of me and my date together and "worrying a bit about how life might be different/the loss of freedom/comfort zone." LOL. I tend to do that. It might be a defense mechanism. I could see myself really liking this woman, though. But I don't want to get ahead of myself. It was a solid first date that led to a second one. I'll try to stay in the present. 1
Author Teknoe Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 don't try. DO! good luck Thanks Casey. I'll try... er... DO my best. LOL. She seems to be a sweet girl. Not the kind I crush on (but like those ever turned out well for me, lol), but I could see my attraction for her growing the more we connect. At the same time, this could be a 2 and done after Friday night, lol. It really could go either way. Only time will tell.
Redhead14 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 She was supposed to meet over casual drinks Saturday night. She told me she had to take care of a sick family member a few hours before, and suggested we get breakfast instead the next day. So I met her and I'm happy to say she looks like her profile pictures, unlike the last 4-5 girls I dated online. Old pics, misled pics... it was refreshing to see the same girl in the pic. The date was fine. I don't think any of us felt sparks right off the bat, but it seems like we're open to continue this beyond one date. I felt a little rusty though, to be honest. There were moments of silence during our breakfast and usually I can be pretty good about silences... where I can let it ride out until the other person continues on or asks a question. Today I found myself filling in the gaps (maybe a bit too much as to avoid the potential for awkward silence). Anyway, we agreed to a movie outing this week, so we'll see how that goes. I might be commitment phobic (unless it's a girl I am absolutely crazy about, but those tend to turn out to be 1-way infatuation streets) because I found myself pondering a future of me and my date together and "worrying a bit about how life might be different/the loss of freedom/comfort zone." LOL. I tend to do that. It might be a defense mechanism. I could see myself really liking this woman, though. But I don't want to get ahead of myself. It was a solid first date that led to a second one. I'll try to stay in the present. On a first meeting from OLD, breakfast or drinks in the evening is the way to go. You don't spend a lot of money on this. This is about confirming that they look like their pictures and are who they say they are. This is not a date. It's an introduction. And, you are already over thinking this. I'm not so sure about a movie for a first real date, though. This doesn't give an opportunity to really connection. You aren't able to talk to one another (of course, if she talks through the whole movie, that might say something But, after the movie, get some drinks or dinner at least.
Author Teknoe Posted July 17, 2015 Author Posted July 17, 2015 On a first meeting from OLD, breakfast or drinks in the evening is the way to go. You don't spend a lot of money on this. This is about confirming that they look like their pictures and are who they say they are. This is not a date. It's an introduction. And, you are already over thinking this. I'm not so sure about a movie for a first real date, though. This doesn't give an opportunity to really connection. You aren't able to talk to one another (of course, if she talks through the whole movie, that might say something But, after the movie, get some drinks or dinner at least. Yeah that's the plan. After Ant-Man tomorrow night, I'll ask her out for drinks. We've texted only very briefly during this past week. I don't want to text too much as there'll be nothing to talk about when we do meet up. I only texted her to confirm plans for this 2nd meeting. Keeping it very light and casual
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