dsprimal Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Hey everyone this is a bit long but PLEASE hear me out I need help! So long story short. I met this girl 3 years ago and when we first started hanging out I admitted to wanting more than just a friendship with her and that since she has a boyfriend it won't be right for me to still be friends with her because I would always want more. So we stopped hanging out for a while and then eventually reconnected again (my doing). I figured I would rather be friends with her than nothing at all. so 2 years have passed and we still talk regularly and hangout. I still have a crush on her because she is beautiful and exactly what I prefer in a girl although we do have our differences. I'm more quiet, she's more live and outgoing. This is where it gets interesting.....last night I went out with her and her best friend, and a couple others. Her boyfriend lives in CALIFORNIA and we live in NY (I will continue on that thought later). she got super wasted and i've never seen her so drunk before. she ended up in the bar bathroom puking. I had to literally go into the girls bathroom and pick her up and carry her home. the next morning we told her everything and how embarrassed she was and she thanked me a lot. I went to get breakfast for myself before everyone woke up and even bought her a raspberry cream cheese croissant at the bakery cause I knew she loved those and thought she would be happy to have that in the morning after such a horrible night. So here is my issue. She must know I still like her. Pretty sure she does, she's smart. she was talking to us the following morning about how her boyfriend in california (they have been dating for 3 years but literally see each other 6 weeks out of each year) got mad she didn't text him last night and all this nonsense. she was getting super stressed over that and it literally sounded like things are crumbling. she always travels out there to see him and he never returns the favor. anyways....she started talking about this other guy friend she has who she's been hanging out with and how he might be better for her right now and how this guys family already likes her etc. So i'm here hearing all of this and it hurts because here I am being the guy she needs but she's not even recognizing it. her parents even told her that they like me a lot for how I treat her. How can she see all the things I do for her but yet not consider me as a potential boyfriend for her? I don't understand. I now feel like ignoring her forever and falling off the face of the earth and not even giving her a reason why. She has shown me she really cares for me by being their for me during really hard times i've been through in the past couple of years and even supported me at my mothers funeral last month. So she shows she cares but I just don't know anymore. Thank you
babycakees Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Sorry. But she's friendzoned you. She knows you like her. But she only sees you as a friend. 1
Gloria25 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Dude, you need to stop being a "nice guy" cuz if you haven't noticed, it hasn't gotten you anywhere. Nice guy = doormat, o'l faithful, tampon Good guy = gentleman, commands respect Her ex = jerk who cuz he's a jerk, got her climbing the walls begging for him Look, those things you do for her are all sweet and that, but you do that for a chick you're in a RL with, who "earned" it. You do all that too soon and for any chick and she's not gonna appreciate and/or respect you. Also, the fact that she - like many chicks - mistakes what her ex does as signs of a "strong" man, shows you she is not wise enough to distinguish a jerk/bad boy from a "good man". Leave her alone to go chase that fool all the way in Cali. Next time she gets drunk like an azzz and starts puking, roll up a wad or toilet paper, toss it to her and tell her to wipe her own sorry face herself cuz you resign from being her emotional tampon and/or hand her a phone to call dude from Cali to help her. Shoot, maybe that gesture alone might make her panties wet for you cuz for once you are showing her you actually have a spine/backbone.
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