Don't know if my crush suspects anything

[Cain400]

So earlier today at work the female coworker I have been crushing on for 11 months made a comment to one of the other colleagues that kind of indicates that she doesn't suspect my motives for being helpful to her.

 

I do help my crush out with carrying heavy items even though it is not part of my job description. It is not mandatory that I help her out but I do it anyway for 2 reasons. One she is almost as old as my Mom and it is just part of being a gentleman to help my elders carry heavy items especially older women. The second reason I am motivated to help her is because I have a crush on her.

 

However I guess because I am careful to make sure I am helpful with other older work colleagues she doesn't really suspect that I have a secret motive (my crush feelings) for helping her out.

 

Why do I think that? Because one of the other work colleagues smiled and commented to her that it was very nice of me to help her carry those heavy boxes. Then my crush said to her "Yeah he usually is very helpful whenever he can".

 

I guess kind of implying that my behavior is normal and she is not attributing any suspicious motives behind helping her because she has witnessed me helping other colleagues in the same way. If I was being more helpful to her exclusively over the others then she would have reason to get suspicious and maybe uncomfortable.

 

So it turns out I am making the right moves. It is a little surprising that it has almost been a year and she still doesn't know that I have a crush on her. I mean by now there should be something leaking out of me that accidentally gives me away because women usually pick up on these things. By now she should be feeling uncomfortable working around me but that doesn't seem to be the case. How can I go almost a year crushing on her without her suspecting something by now? I mean I have gotten nervous around her in the past year. That should be a clue that gives me away.

[Imported]

Did you try baking her a cake? That's what you should do. But don't let her have any, just eat it in front of her. Offer to everyone around you, except her.

 

 

She'll be like, 'ahhh man, why can't I have some cake~!!'

[Cain400]

No I didn't bake a cake. I did buy her favorite candy and give some to her and all my other work colleagues. This way I don't take the chance of attacking her comfort level with any exclusive attention to her. In the workplace it isn't appropriate to give any coworker exclusive attention. I am not going to do any gesture for her that I wouldn't be willing to do for everybody else.

 

This way I have all bases covered just in case the worst case scenario she tries to use something against me later. She can't rightfully say that I am not treating others with the same consistency that I treat her.

Edited July 13, 2015 by Cain400

[Gloria25]

No I didn't bake a cake. I did buy her favorite candy and give some to her and all my other work colleagues. This way I don't take the chance of attacking her comfort level with any exclusive attention to her. In the workplace it isn't appropriate to give any coworker exclusive attention. I am not going to do any gesture for her that I wouldn't be willing to do for everybody else.

 

This way I have all bases covered just in case the worst case scenario she tries to use something against me later. She can't rightfully say that I am not treating others with the same consistency that I treat her.

 

Now this ^^ is mixed up!!!

 

https://youtu.be/o3_88g6y1UA

[autumnnight]

I think you should but everyone a cheeseburger in the office except her. And if you get into trouble, you should tell your supervisor that he is not really the boss, that God is the only true boss.

[d0nnivain]

Most people are clueless. If she is almost as old as your mom, you giving everybody in the office her favorite candy & carrying heavy objects for her are too subtle. She may simply think you are the sweet younger guy at her job but given the almost a generation between you unless you make a move, she's not going to notice you romantically. The idea that your interest in her "leaks" out of you is not a pro-active approach & more likely then not makes you come across as an awkward boy, not a romantic prospect for her. Also give the tremendous age gap, unless she unequivocally indicates that she wants to date you do not make a move. In the work place, I do not se this going well for you.

[PrettyEmily77]

I've not been on this forum long but in the last 4/5 months I've noticed a few threads about younger guys crushing on much older colleagues for exactly 11 months and doing nothing about it, so either time stands still for some ppl, or there's a trend emerging that I wasn't aware of

[casey.lives]

try and leave an impression. don't be forgettable. most people need a little razzle dazzle