Qboro90 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I definitely have not discussed any other guys with him. I will try to be a little extra flirty. I thought I was being flirty already, but hell some guys can't pick up hints sometimes! lol I just normally do not throw my feelings out towards a guy until I am 110% sure the feelings are mutual. Do you talk to him at all via text/phone calls? Why not send him a text Tuesday or Wednesday "thinking about going to happy hour Friday after work but no one wants to come... Wanna join me? :)". Or if you're not into bar scenes like that "hey ___ told me about this new restaurant and it sounds amazing...date night?". Personally as a guy it's incredibly refreshing to have a girl tell me she wants to do something with me... And actually have something she wants to do on top of that. If you're not comfortable reaching out to him then I think you're only option is to silently sit by and play the waiting game until he asks you. Which keep in mind, might not happen. So take control of your life and this romantic opportunity. Go after the things you want. 2
babycakees Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I agree. You need to be more straight forward and just come out and say you like him and want to spend time with him.
Lansing Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I will disagree with those that say you need to make it clear you want to go on a "date" with him in any sense of the word at this moment. You haven't hung out at ALL. I have a bit of a crush on this girl that I have met through a work related method (we don't work together). I got her out one time outside of work but I was hesitant to escalate anything because I don't want to put her in a situation where she feels awkward. However, if SHE asked me out even for an event, lunch, coffee, drink, whatever it would give me confidence that she likes me and I would probably proceed to escalate. She doesn't have to use the word "date". Actually, if she did say that right now, based on the way she acts normally, I would probably be taken aback and it wouldn't feel natural. I wouldn't recommend to go from zero to 100 mp/h over night. Why not bring up one of those things he mentioned before and be like "oh, you mentioned such and such before.. I have time next week if you still want to do it" or whatever.
ChicagoSparty Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 This isn't rocket surgery. Just ask him if he wants to go get coffee or a drink. Then go from there. If a guy is attracted to a girl, there's no such thing as a friend zone.
yxalitis Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 If a guy is attracted to a girl, there's no such thing as a friend zone. Bwaahaahaaahaaa.... Oh my...sorry...that was amusing...
yxalitis Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Has anyone here thought that just maybe..the guy isn't interested, and she's misinterpreted something, or that he has moved on? We are relying on what sounds like a shy, innocent and inexperienced girl's word for all this. He had dropped a hint in the past that he wanted to take things to next level.... That's all we have to go on... I'm hoping we aren't all setting this girl up to embarrass herself...with someone she has to work with.
wb1988 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Has anyone here thought that just maybe..the guy isn't interested, and she's misinterpreted something, or that he has moved on? We are relying on what sounds like a shy, innocent and inexperienced girl's word for all this. That's all we have to go on... I'm hoping we aren't all setting this girl up to embarrass herself...with someone she has to work with. Yeah I was thinking that as well. Also when she said the whole "I'm glad we're friends" then she's kind of put her foot in on that one and put herself in the friend zone as well.
Author brok3npromise Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 I guess I should have maybe added a few details. He has mentioned a few times before about wanting to do this or that together, but they seem like things further down the road. He'll comment and say "maybe you can come do this with me someday". He will also compliment and flirt with me occasionally. Where I got the idea that he wanted to take it to the next level was that told me before that he wanted to take me out. This was when I sort of panicked and believe that I may have given him the wrong impression.
Author brok3npromise Posted July 14, 2015 Author Posted July 14, 2015 But maybe he has moved on.... I don't really get that impression. But I guess it is possible. Another thing that is of some certain that he mentioned is that he said he's aware of another guy who does in fact like me a lot (although I have no feelings for him like that whatsoever) and he said he doesn't wanna step on anyone's toes. I stressed to him I was not into that guy at all.
phineas Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Well we work together and have yet to get together outside of work. We have exchanged numbers and expressed hanging out but like I said, I think I gave him the wrong impression. I and a few other men I know at work in higher positions simply WILL NOT go after female co-workers. way too many flirts & teases on the job just looking for an ego boost by leading men on then when their called out go to management & try to get the guy fired so the smart one's wait until the female co-worker asks them out. preferably in corporate email or text.
Author brok3npromise Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 So I decided to text him on Thursday night... Was going to ask if he had plans this weekend and then.... I fell asleep before he replied. I was pretty devastated when I woke up in the morning. Felt like such an idiot. He ended up texting me Friday night and we texted back and forth for about 4-5 hours. Pretty heavy flirting and all...
IronZ Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 OP just tell him for crying out loud! If I were the guy I would want to know. You won't be able to move forward until you know where you stand with him.
Author brok3npromise Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 I did tell him before. I said "in case you haven't noticed, I kinda like you". I just feel like this guy is sending a lot of mixed signals.
candie13 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 you're good, he got it. up to him to up his game or not. seeing people at work is really dangerous, though, I advise against it.
xcupid Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 you're good, he got it. up to him to up his game or not. seeing people at work is really dangerous, though, I advise against it. I agree. You're playing with fire.
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