jyorks Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Hello all, Need some advice, if you could be so kind. Basically I was with a girl for 4 years from the age of 17 to 21, she was my first girlfriend. About a year ago now we broke up. All of a sudden because of work, and other things, our lives started to go in very different directions which is fair enough, and we went our separate ways Anyway, I had a couple of dates relatively soon after we broke up with a couple of girls, some girl from tinder I got talking to, and a girl from work. But I soon realised I just wasn't feeling it, so I just let them fizzle out, and decided to concentrate on bigger things in my life, and get myself on a really good path career wise, and just enjoy being completely free from commitment after 4 years. So, time has gone by, I've done really well in a new job, got where I wanted to be faster than I thought, connected with friends and family alot, made a bunch of new friends at my new job etc. and feel ready to get back into dating again. However, I'm really struggling to get my groove back. My new job has virtually no girls working there at all, I live in a small town through the week, in a pretty remote area, so there just isn't the volume of girls to talk to like in a big city. And at weekends when I head home, which is a bigger city, I just can't seem to get any girls attention. Is it just a case of confidence? do I just need to be more direct and approach girls? It's not something I've really done before, so Im not really sure how to go about it :/ Any advice on what to do after being out the game a while would be appreciated! Thanks
joseb Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 If you are expecting girls to just come up to you then you might be waiting a while! What are you doing to meet girls currently?
Author jyorks Posted July 12, 2015 Author Posted July 12, 2015 I appreciate girls aren't just going to come up to me! Well my social circles just don't have any potential girls in them at all unfortunately, so if i'm going to get talking, it's just going to have to be a cold approach I think. My biggest problem is I just can't seem to catch any girls eye, and like I said, it's not something i've done before, so don't really know the best technique for that sort of thing! I just need advice on how to get that first approach really!
babycakees Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Honestly, reading this I thought I was reading something that someone wrote about my life. I, too, was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend for 4 years and after we split almost two years ago, I dated a couple guys casually. After many failed dates and no strong feelings towards any of them, I decided to focus on work and learning to be OK alone. I got promoted about 4 months ago to a supervisor position at my work and have thoroughly enjoyed pouring myself into a career. I now am ready to start dating again and I sort of have my sights set on a guy at the moment. We shall see how that goes Good luck to you in getting back into the dating scene. It is hard. I know first hand because I too am also just getting back into it. But I needed to take the time to myself and learn to love myself again.
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