OhNoNotAgain Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I've been dating a girl for about a month and a half, and I'm not sure if I should end it before it goes any further. For the most part everything is good, we get along pretty well, are attracted to each other, and have fun together. However, we have some pretty big differences. The main issue is that we have completely different political and religious views. I don't think it would normally matter except we are both pretty opinionated, and follow politics somewhat closely. Besides the obvious arguments that come along with this, I am concerned about how this would impact raising a kid. How could I possibly deal with someone teaching my kid the opposite of what I believe? Not to mention that having a particular news channel on in my place would probably drive me insane. Another issue I'm having is the sexual side of things and I'll try not to go into to many details. We have good normal sex, and a lot of it, but she is no where near as adventurous as me. I like girls that are open about sex, and like to explore new things. But she doesn't even like oral sex, I've only gotten her to do it once, and she knows how much I like it. And she doesn't want it at all on her. That seems like basic stuff to me, so it's hard to imagine being with a girl that is so 'vanilla'. Who knows if this would change with time, but it's becoming an issue for me. Other than that, I really like her, so I don't know what to do. And to give you a little more background info, I was single for over a year before I met her, and went out on probably 25 dates. So it's also hard to just throw something away, when I know how difficult it is to meet someone. Especially throwing out someone that you actually like.
MoreAmore Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Like her or not, you sound very much incompatible in fundamental ways. I would let her know there's no future and decide together whether to have fun or break ties. 2
LoveRefreshed Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 (edited) I would end it with her. There are too many incompatibilities. Dating someone on the other end of the political spectrum wouldn't work. I'm very much into discussing those things and my view points can piss them off in seconds. Sexual incompatibility is the worst. I dated a girl that didn't like to give or receive oral sex. We stopped having sex, down to like once a month. I ended it over that reason. Never looked back. Edited July 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited to remove response to alerted post. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 So many people are apathetic about politics. I'm thrilled when I can find somebody who cares no which side of the aisle they are on. DH & I are in different parties; my parents were in different parties. I'd rather give the kid multiple view points & let him/her make an informed decision. But if you feel so strongly that you are incompatible, don't delay the inevitable.
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