riceball13 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 -She has a crush on me since she was 12 (she’s 20 now), but i wasn’t that into her so we just stayed friends. -We used to talk and text a lot but then I got into a relationship and a few months later she did too and we stopped talking. -Both of our relationships lasted for 4 years and ended a few months ago. -1 month after her breakup I started to initiate contact with her again. -We started to call and text a lot and my interest for her grew and I started to get feelings for her and so did she. -We had a few dates, we held hands when we were together and kissed a lot. -Even though everything went well she did have a few hesitations which she told me about: *we both just got out of a long term relationship and she thought we were moving too fast *she’s afraid that I use her as a rebound to get over my ex (because I never showed any interest in her before and now I suddenly do), *she’s afraid that when I get to know her better that I won’t like her anymore. -Even though she had all these hesitations and insecurities we kept on dating. -After our last date, which went really well, she suddenly starts to back away: she stopped calling me, her texts became signifcantly shorter and she started to take a lot of time to respond back to my text messages. -I wanted to know why she acted that way and she said she backed away because she needed time and space for herself. -I told her told her to take as much space and time as she needed and I didn’t contact her anymore. -We didn’t have contact for a week and then she started to text me again, but her texts are still very short and she still takes a lot of time te respond back. -I don’t want to come over as needy and pushy, so I also take a long time to respond and keep my messages short. I know she’s not ready to hang out again so I dont’ have any intention to ask her out any time soon. But what should I do now? Keep this low contact or should i go no contact? Should I wait for her until she’s ready, because if I act like i don’t care and move on she will definitely think that I used her as a rebound right? Or did she just lose interest?
xcupid Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I know she’s not ready to hang out again so I dont’ have any intention to ask her out any time soon. But what should I do now? Keep this low contact or should i go no contact? Should I wait for her until she’s ready, because if I act like i don’t care and move on she will definitely think that I used her as a rebound right? Or did she just lose interest? Go low contact. Date other women. She may or may not have lost interest - only she knows that for sure. But you can't force the way she feels - whatever it is that she feels. Don't wait for her because she may never be ready. She may even friend zone you rather than risk ruining the friendship she has with you. Good luck.
Author riceball13 Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 Go low contact. Date other women. She may or may not have lost interest - only she knows that for sure. But you can't force the way she feels - whatever it is that she feels. Don't wait for her because she may never be ready. She may even friend zone you rather than risk ruining the friendship she has with you. Good luck. thanks for the advice!
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