cipd11 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Last night I dreamt me and my ex were still together. When I woke up it felt like the BU all over again I'd been feeling like I was making progress but now I feel like I'm back at square one. The idea of him being with someone else hurts me so much. I just wish this pain would go away. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 It was just a dream. Healing after a BU is a two steps forward, one step back process. It will get better. Hang in there. 1
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Last night I dreamt me and my ex were still together. When I woke up it felt like the BU all over again I'd been feeling like I was making progress but now I feel like I'm back at square one. The idea of him being with someone else hurts me so much. I just wish this pain would go away. You and me both. This ****ing blows. I went to a concert last night and for the most part my mind was off her then I started seeing all the happy couples together and it just brought me down. It's crazy last year during this time we were together non stop now she's no longer a part of my life. We broke up 6 months ago, I was content with the breakup...hell I even initiated it. But recently she got a new b/f and it's killing me. I see no long term future with this women yet it kills me she's with someone else. I've been trying to keep myself busy, been going to the gym, been writing in a journal, but still I can't get her off my mind. People say "go find another girl", hard to do when she's always on my mind. A girl I don't want to be with other than for some companionship and sex. I've hooked up with other girls, because people say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone but it didn't help. This grieving sucks. I've completely cut her out of my life and I know this to will pass and I'll ask myself why I was so upset but damn it right now if this doesn't blow. Sorry, felt like venting. 1
dandylioness Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 cipd11 - I know the feeling, I have been there. Instead of just wishing the feeling away, try to accept that these are your feelings and it's OK to feel pain and sadness. There will be moments when you're making progress and there will be moments when you're set back due to a dream or news of your ex with their new beau. Just accept that this is normal and that this will happen until you finally stop getting set back. What I have found to be helpful in preventing "relapse" is to look at everything around you in this very moment and be thankful. Be thankful you are alive, even. Be thankful for the food on your table...or just anything and everything! The more thankful you are, the happier you will become because you'll see ALL the good around you instead of focusing on the ONE negative thing that's bringing you down right now. Be confident in who you are and know that you're the best person you can be right now...and if you don't believe that, then go do things to become better! I promise you that soon you will forget about your pain and will be a much better person, too. 1
Author cipd11 Posted July 12, 2015 Author Posted July 12, 2015 cipd11 - I know the feeling, I have been there. Instead of just wishing the feeling away, try to accept that these are your feelings and it's OK to feel pain and sadness. There will be moments when you're making progress and there will be moments when you're set back due to a dream or news of your ex with their new beau. Just accept that this is normal and that this will happen until you finally stop getting set back. What I have found to be helpful in preventing "relapse" is to look at everything around you in this very moment and be thankful. Be thankful you are alive, even. Be thankful for the food on your table...or just anything and everything! The more thankful you are, the happier you will become because you'll see ALL the good around you instead of focusing on the ONE negative thing that's bringing you down right now. Be confident in who you are and know that you're the best person you can be right now...and if you don't believe that, then go do things to become better! I promise you that soon you will forget about your pain and will be a much better person, too. Thank you for taking the time out to reply. I still find it overwhelming that people take time out of their day to help people like me. You're right, I have such great friends and family and I wouldn't be able to get through this without them. There are so many reasons to be happy and I'm letting one person, who I'm sure hasn't thought about me since the BU take over my mind and affect me in such a bad way. Today I joined the gym! I figured it would be a good way to take out my frustration. I have a lot of regrets from my relationship and this will help me release the anger I have towards myself. 3
Pennyapple Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 We've all been there. When my ex and I broke up about a year ago I dreamed of him a lot, and it made me feel depressed when I woke up. Now I rarely have dreams about him. Even when I do, I just brush it off and forget about it in like two minutes. Time heals everything. Don't think too much about it. It's nothing but a dream. 2
Satu Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Don't worry. Dreams like that are a sign of your subconscious sorting itself out. They can leave you feeling knocked off for a while, but they are part of the healing process. You'll be ok. 1
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