Bobbi7 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Say a guy's only intention is to have sex with her-hit it and quit it...how would he do this without being obvious about it? I think this new guy wanted me to have sex with him on the first date-example, he suggested to meet at a bar near "his place." Then at our first meeting-he suggested after we were done with drinks-"Netflix" and to grab some wine-that was the first thing that came out. But then, he threw out other things like dancing, taking a walk, "going to my place." What threw me off was when he said, he wanted me to meet up with his friends 3 days later. I'm not a prune-but if he just wants sex, he should be straight forward about this.
Lois_Griffin Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 LOL...it's 'prude,' not prune. Secondly, being invited to 'their place for a movie' IS the common phrase for 'let's go back to my place and have wild monkey sex.' Most guys will never tip their hand and actually TELL you they're looking to get laid. But most of them are always looking to get laid.
jen1447 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Charming you is the way. A guy's ability to charm is proportionate to his ability to get women in bed quickly, and usually someone who wants to get there quickly (with apologies to the many exceptions out there ) is only interested in the short game. Most of those ppl don't just say "I want sex." And they will use deception to lure you in, like promises of meeting friends, etc. That's not to say all of them do or that anyone who says they want you to meet their friends is automatically deceiving you, but you should be aware that there's really no fair play in that game. 3
elaine567 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Say a guy's only intention is to have sex with her-hit it and quit it...how would he do this without being obvious about it? I think this new guy wanted me to have sex with him on the first date-example, he suggested to meet at a bar near "his place." Then at our first meeting-he suggested after we were done with drinks-"Netflix" and to grab some wine-that was the first thing that came out. But then, he threw out other things like dancing, taking a walk, "going to my place." What threw me off was when he said, he wanted me to meet up with his friends 3 days later. I'm not a prune-but if he just wants sex, he should be straight forward about this. Most men realise that most women tend to want a "relationship" of some sort before they are going to give up the sex on first or second dates. He doesn't want to risk her saying NO, if he was to just tell the truth. Some girls would be horrified and some would be fine with that, but he doesn't want to do that and lose his chance completely maybe with a high percentage. He is desperate for the sex, he wants to increase his chances, not reduce them, so he weaves a nice little story about seeing her again, about a future "relationship" - she swallows the lie - he hits it, then quits... never to be seen again. 1
Redhead14 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Say a guy's only intention is to have sex with her-hit it and quit it...how would he do this without being obvious about it? I think this new guy wanted me to have sex with him on the first date-example, he suggested to meet at a bar near "his place." Then at our first meeting-he suggested after we were done with drinks-"Netflix" and to grab some wine-that was the first thing that came out. But then, he threw out other things like dancing, taking a walk, "going to my place." What threw me off was when he said, he wanted me to meet up with his friends 3 days later. I'm not a prune-but if he just wants sex, he should be straight forward about this. That's easy, you just don't allow sex to happen until it is clearer. It important to make sure you two are on the same page about each of your dating goals to start with. Even if he says hes dating for a relationship, you observe whether or not he is dating you that way. being consistent with contact and scheduling proper dates, i.e. Not short notice and cancelling on short notice, o ly wanting to go to your place or his, etc. Let him show you what he really wants.o
fitnessfan365 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 That's easy, you just don't allow sex to happen until it is clearer. EXACTLY!! Always makes me laugh when some women act like innocent victims of seduction beyond their control. In the end it was their decision to have sex so early on. Now is it possible to have something meaningful after sex on the first night? Sure. But in a lot of cases when a guy wants to "grab a drink" and then "watch a movie" after, his intentions are pretty clear. My advice? Look at a guy's date planning. Are the dates public or is he suggesting something at his place within the first few dates?
Phoe Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I'd say a bar and netflix are a good indicator of what that guy wants. OR. Like mentioned in above posts, wait until a man's intentions are very clear. I ALWAYS wait, and consequently, I've never been used, I've never experienced "hit it and quit it".
jen1447 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 EXACTLY!! Always makes me laugh when some women act like innocent victims of seduction beyond their control. In the end it was their decision to have sex so early on. Now is it possible to have something meaningful after sex on the first night? Sure. But in a lot of cases when a guy wants to "grab a drink" and then "watch a movie" after, his intentions are pretty clear. My advice? Look at a guy's date planning. Are the dates public or is he suggesting something at his place within the first few dates? ^ I take it you're not familiar withe the concept of a con, FF? People get other ppl to do stuff they don't really want to all the time.
MidwestUSA Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 So did you go ahead and suggest an in between place for that first date 'near his place'? If I recall, he was okay with it, you had the chance to speak up, and choked. Guys will let you go as far as you let them.
ZA Dater Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Charming you is the way. A guy's ability to charm is proportionate to his ability to get women in bed quickly, and usually someone who wants to get there quickly (with apologies to the many exceptions out there ) is only interested in the short game. Most of those ppl don't just say "I want sex." And they will use deception to lure you in, like promises of meeting friends, etc. That's not to say all of them do or that anyone who says they want you to meet their friends is automatically deceiving you, but you should be aware that there's really no fair play in that game. I suppose fair here could be defined by whether the lure bothered you are not. Me, I couldn't simply use someone like this for sex.
elaine567 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I've never experienced "hit it and quit it". Either have I, but the way some relationships panned out, I would have been grateful if they had quit early doors, it would have saved me a lot of heart ache later... Hit and quit may not be all that bad. LOL! 1
Phoe Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Either have I, but the way some relationships panned out, I would have been grateful if they had quit early doors, it would have saved me a lot of heart ache later... Hit and quit may not be all that bad. LOL! Haha! Oh yes... I can definitely think back on some past relationships that would've saved me some grief had they just gone that route instead. If you're gonna be an asshat to me 5 months from now, please just be an asshat on the first date, okay? 2
yxalitis Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Gee ladies, no woman ever wants a ONS huh? It's always the man? Puh-lease... My ex "Karen" told me she had a few flings when her loneliness and horniness got too much, but having a child made dating too difficult...so she'd get the kid looked after, and have a night just for her. She is the sort of girl that will ALWAYS get her man, she looks hot, sexy, and knows how to move on the dance floor. We went dancing the first time, and her moves where a total turn on, she then calmly told me which of the guys watching wanted her (Yeah, she could say stuff like that sometimes...). I'll add here that I've never wanted or had a true ONS, I believe that if you get to that level of intimacy, it should be with someone you LIKE, and want to see again.
EEflags Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Charming you is the way. A guy's ability to charm is proportionate to his ability to get women in bed quickly, and usually someone who wants to get there quickly (with apologies to the many exceptions out there ) is only interested in the short game. Most of those ppl don't just say "I want sex." And they will use deception to lure you in, like promises of meeting friends, etc. That's not to say all of them do or that anyone who says they want you to meet their friends is automatically deceiving you, but you should be aware that there's really no fair play in that game. It's a combination of charm and good looks and knowing how to read the situation.
babycakees Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 If a guy is inviting you back to his place, he wants sex. If he invites himself back to your place, he wants sex. If a guy says he just wants to watch a movie/netflix/tv... he wants sex. All very good indications. Men will typically always try something during a movie back at their place if all they want is to get laid.
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