Jadey Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Hey guys i wos just wondering have your exes eevr got frustrated/upset over you ignoring them? Like not returning their calls etc? Ive only today decided im doing NC with my ex and its gonna be reallllly hard esp since i see him everyday...untill 2 months time and then i dont .. I hope it really pisses him off lol.Post your stories Oh and how long do you think it took them to actually realise youre ignoring them? Or dont you know? Jade xxx
UCFKevin Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Yeah, gosh, all this wondering and worrying. NC rules!
NTB Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 well for a while my ex gf thought and told me that i was the biggest jerk around cause i wouldn't answer or return her phone calls
ConfusedInOC Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Originally posted by Jadey Hey guys i wos just wondering have your exes eevr got frustrated/upset over you ignoring them? Like not returning their calls etc? Ive only today decided im doing NC with my ex and its gonna be reallllly hard esp since i see him everyday...untill 2 months time and then i dont .. I hope it really pisses him off lol.Post your stories The first time I implemented NC, she lasted a week and was calling me. I just hit a week again this time, so we'll see. But the point of NC isn't to make them feel bad. It's to get your life back in order and let them know you can survive without them. If you are worried how THEY feel, you are not using NC for the right reasons. Oh and how long do you think it took them to actually realise youre ignoring them? Or dont you know? Who cares?! Again, the point of NC is for you heal and move on, not worry about what the Ex is thinking. If the Ex is really bothered by NC, they'll make obvious attempts at contact. But if you break NC before the other side realizes they need to change, you basically prove to them you can't live without them and much like a marionette, you're back on their strings.
ltomlinson81 Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 If you are not going to contact your ex, then do it so you can move on. Don't do it because you hope to get a reaction out of him/her. You are only going to drive yourself more crazy if you care about their thoughts on you ignoring them. NC is meant to help you heal and move on without compliating your feelings or staying hung up on your ex. I think you should reconsider why you are doing it...
outdated Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I agree. Even though I try to do NC for my own sanity, it seems like a lot of people are doing it out of spite. I don't hate my ex for leaving me, there were some communication issues, but I think they could've been worked on and complete silence doesn't seem to be proactive. I still text her SOMETIMES, but always keep it light. We don't hate each other, why wouldn't we talk. I don't really expect her to get back together with me, 'cause she probably won't, but completely cutting the ties will not prove anything. I think the key is to be friendly if you have to make contact, and let them know that you are comfortable with yourself again, and that will be sexy to them whether they realize it or not. If you're going to get all mushy then it's a step backward, but if you're calling to be a friend, if that's truly okay in your heart, then there's no problem with it. I am recovering fine still talking to her occasionally, and frankly, I think it bugs her a little bit. But my intention is not malicious. I want her in my life even if it means that we are with other people.
morrigan Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Originally posted by ltomlinson81 Don't do it because you hope to get a reaction out of him/her. Exactly. The less you see him/speak to him/think of him, the easier it is to get on with your life and stop reliving all anger you have. Whatever reasons you two broke up, it sounds like the same sh*t would occur if you did ever date him again. If you see him at school, go past him like you would any total stranger. Hang out with other friends, focus on other things. The best revenge is enjoying your life and not worrying about his.
wow Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Well today s*** hit the fan. I completed nc for 1 month last week thursday. Then on fridAY i got a call from my ex's friend and spoke to her for 10 min then suddenly my ex was on the phone. {This was obviously planned} Well i gave her the impression i was very busy and had to go. The following morning i ignored the ex's calls but listened to the voice msg: "Give me a call i have a suprise for you". Well of course i did not reply. Today tuesday, i anwser her call and all she does is shout at me for not picking up her calls. Excuse me you broke up with me and made it clear that it is over. She stated that she is trying to be civil towards me and wants me in her life. Then my question is why throw me away. DID I FEEL GOOD AFTER THE CALL? hell yeah, for the simple reason that she took me for granted.
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