Phoe Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I know some of you may say don't even think twice about it but the girl who cut my hair today asked me, "What're you doing tonight?" I said grabbing some food then not sure. I asked her the same thing and she said, "Probably not much. Just hanging out with my kid and my friend might come over." Neither of us added much after that lol. I just found the question to be either direct at showing interest or just being friendly. It is a Saturday, so do you think chances are she asks all her customers this question? I was thinking about requesting her next time and talking to her more and asking for a date. I may be reading it wrong though. I could confidently say that every time I've ever gotten my hair done, the lady has asked me this too. It's just conversation. 1
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 (edited) I know some of you may say don't even think twice about it but ***the girl who cut my hair today asked me, "What're you doing tonight?" I said grabbing some food then not sure. I asked her the same thing and she said, "Probably not much. Just hanging out with my kid and my friend might come over." Neither of us added much after that lol. *** I just found the question to be either direct at showing interest or just being friendly. It is a Saturday, so do you think chances are she asks all her customers this question? I was thinking about requesting her next time and talking to her more and asking for a date. I may be reading it wrong though. Okay...assuming you were interested..... this would have been a good oppy to learn more about her, to find out if she has a bf or husband. It's called the "art of conversation.". And it will serve you well in the future. When she told you she and her kid were going to hang out, you might have asked "so how old is your kid? Daughter? Son?". Wait for her response. Then you ask, where do you guys live? Close by? Wait for response. "So are you married? Boyfriend?". Wait for her response. If she is single, let her know you are too, and how difficult it is dating these days. Talk about that for awhile. If the convo is going well....casually say "we should grab a drink sometime." Wait for her response. See where I am going here? Instead of engaging *her*, you come on LS and ask US, total strangers, what she meant! Talk to her next time! I still think she was just making convo, but like jen said, you never know! But even if she was just making conversation, so what? Converse with her! :) Edited July 12, 2015 by katiegrl 1
jen1447 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I may be reading or interpreting it wrong but OP also said "girl who cut my hair," twice, which makes it sound like he just went into one of those walk-in places and she's not really his hairdresser so to speak. So if that's true, it wouldn't be like his ten year service provider asked what he's doing one day and he suddenly wondered if she's suddenly interested. More like a stranger.
Gary S Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Just ask her for her phone number after the haircut next time - that question will answer a thousand others - and if she's interested and gives it to you, you can call her for a date sometime.
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I may be reading or interpreting it wrong but OP also said "girl who cut my hair," twice, which makes it sound like he just went into one of those walk-in places and she's not really his hairdresser so to speak. So if that's true, it wouldn't be like his ten year service provider asked what he's doing one day and he suddenly wondered if she's suddenly interested. More like a stranger. Absolutely agree with you.... thought the same thing myself! Hence my last post....
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Just ask her for her phone number after the haircut next time - that question will answer a thousand others - and if she's interested and gives it to you, you can call her for a date sometime. Yeah but I still think he should *talk* to her first, don't ya think? :bunny:
S_A Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I know some of you may say don't even think twice about it but the girl who cut my hair today asked me, "What're you doing tonight?" I said grabbing some food then not sure. I asked her the same thing and she said, "Probably not much. Just hanging out with my kid and my friend might come over." Neither of us added much after that lol. I just found the question to be either direct at showing interest or just being friendly. It is a Saturday, so do you think chances are she asks all her customers this question? I was thinking about requesting her next time and talking to her more and asking for a date. I may be reading it wrong though. You're reading too much in to it. The girl that cuts my hair has been doing mine for a while and she ALWAYS asks me what I'm doing for the weekend. She's been asking me since day 1. I'd say 99% chance she just likes to chat while working. If you really want to be 100% certain, then you can't let the conversation go silent like that. But don't force it and transition to talking about the weather or something zzzzZZZZzzzzzZZZzzz. I'll say this though, if you REALLY like her skills, and you interpret what she asks you the wrong way, she may decide to not take any of your appointments anymore. So that means you gotta' find a new person (which can be a huge pain). I have not had someone do this to me, but the girl who cuts my hair has cut clients off before (men and women). If you come off as a creeper, this will happen, especially if demand for her is high. If you do get cut off, please don't transition to the guy that stalks her at work "My friend might come over" is not weekend plans. If she were attached, she would probably have mentioned the BF/husband. This is VERY true.
MissBee Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I know some of you may say don't even think twice about it but the girl who cut my hair today asked me, "What're you doing tonight?" I said grabbing some food then not sure. I asked her the same thing and she said, "Probably not much. Just hanging out with my kid and my friend might come over." Neither of us added much after that lol. I just found the question to be either direct at showing interest or just being friendly. It is a Saturday, so do you think chances are she asks all her customers this question? I was thinking about requesting her next time and talking to her more and asking for a date. I may be reading it wrong though. I think this was definitely a casual conversation and being friendly to your customer. If I go to my nail salon on a Friday for example the small talk might include questions about my weekend plans. If it was because she was romantically interested her response would not have been "Hanging out with my kid and my friend..." and then nothing else. Trust me.
MissBee Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 (edited) ^ Nah, he's a 'known' - an acquaintance. What I'm really after here is to not discourage the OP. If he goes around thinking every "what are you doing tonight" is a dead end, his chances at love will probably suffer. He sort of sounds like he's looking or at least receptive if he's tuned into hairdresser comments, so ....maybe a guy we should encourage to be bold and seize opportunities and all that. I don't think every "what are you doing tonight" is a dead end, but I don't see any indication here that this isn't one. I guess understanding nuances is part of the dating game and knowing when something is more and when it isn't. My advice would be to figure out which "what are you doings" are promising and which aren't and I'd put this in the not promising category. So far it seems majority of folks here get asked this question by their hairdresser, nail technician and people in this type of beauty/grooming industry as standard chit-chat for the profession of making someone look good and it's common to be asked this when you're getting these services on a weekend. I'd wager then, that given that this woman was pretty dry and frank about her weekend plans and didn't say anything that to me sounds like she was opening the way for more ( if you're with your kid, you can't hang out with the OP, likewise if your friend is coming over) that it was just friendly. It would have been different IMO if she said "Nothing much, hopefully something comes up though" or something like that that leaves room for you to be asked about...but hanging with your child and having your friend come over do not a date opening conversation make IMO. Also, if she's cut his hair more than once before or even during the duration of that cut, if she were interested I think she'd ask him other questions about himself, make more personal small talk and build up a bigger conversation while he's a captive audience in her chair...not just ask what he's doing tonight. Of course, he can pursue it anyway, the worst is she isn't interested (unless he and she feel awkward for future hair cuts after) but I really don't find that there is really much here to go on to believe this woman was making anything more than idle chat, esp given that many folks get asked this all the time by their stylists too...so it's obviously a very typical line. Edited July 13, 2015 by MissBee
babycakees Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Every time I get my hair done, they asks me "Are you doing anything tonight?" or "Got any plans for today?" or some other variation. It's just friendly chatter.
IronZ Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I dunno jen, my hair stylist (male) ALWAYS asks me what I've got going on for the weekend, and he's been cutting my hair for years! Way before I met my bf, and way before he met his wife. I never interpreted it more than friendly conversation.... because it was never meant to be more than friendly conversation. And to be honest, if he *had* meant it as a way to ask me out, I would have felt awkward going back again. It is just not smart to mix business with pleasure...and most service providers know this...and would not risk losing a good customer or client...by hinting at or asking them out. And having them say no, then feeling awkard going back. Normally I would agree with this point, but something about a hair stylist is different to me. I've been going to the same one since I was a kid in middle school. It's a male hair stylist so it's not like I have any signs to misinterpret, but my point is this is a guy I know really well now. I make conversation with him when I go. I ask about his kids, his weekend plans, where he's going on vacation. I see this guy normally once a month if not more often. I think the relationship you develop with a hairstylist is different from a business transaction. It's on par with friendship. If this guy has been going to the same woman for years and she's around his age, there may be something there. Obviously we don't really know because he would need to ask, but I liked Jen's suggestion of casually playing off her question and asking her if she intended for them to do something. It's an innocent question and it puts the ball on her court. If she intended anything by it, this is her opening to speak up instead of playing games of subtlety which we all hate.
joseb Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 In Ireland it's pretty much a cliche that one of the first questions a hairdresser asks is - areYaGoingOutTonigh? (we don't really pronounce Ts very well - or enunciate all that well either!) However, if the OP likes her, there is nothing wrong in a little flirty banter next time the OP goes in - you never know. I wouldn't go straight for the number tho.
smackie9 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Nothing more awkward than someone asking you out while you are working.
danmillar Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Unfortunately, OP, most people will not want to see you succeed. Jealousy is rampant, and many people do not want to see others succeed, esp. in an area in which they struggle mightily. It is not so much an issue of what this particular gal thinks, but of how many opportunities you create, and your willingness to take calculated risks. There is no way to lose here. One possibility is you ask her out and she will go out with you. The other possibility is she won't but you will have a better sense of how to gauge women's interest level.
danmillar Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Nothing more awkward than someone asking you out while you are working. Let me google that for you
smackie9 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Let me google that for you I speak from experience.
wb1988 Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I can't believe there is so much conversation over basically nothing, perhaps this is why we as humans will always have problems that go unresolved. She/he/it was only making conversation and you wish the person meant more which is why you're overthinking it and are being delusional. Imagine it from the other side, if you really wanted to hang out with someone you would have tried to include yourself in some way with the persons plans, invited them out, or said "maybe we should go to .... sometime".
smackie9 Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 She/he/it was only making conversation and you wish the person meant more which is why you're overthinking it and are being delusional. Imagine it from the other side, if you really wanted to hang out with someone you would have tried to include yourself in some way with the persons plans, invited them out, or said "maybe we should go to .... sometime". Or like what I said back in post #21 If she was hitting on you she would have suggested something like...."oh me and my GF are going to hang out at____, you should come join us"
danmillar Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 Or like what I said back in post #21 You're speaking as if you were an authority on the matter. You are not. You are engaging in speculation and trying to pass it off as fact. Use common sense and stop trying to generalize from your experiences to those of all other women.
phineas Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 she cuts your hair and is making conversation. Even when their ample bosom is pressing against you while they search for all the stray hairs they missed before. They are much like the hooters waitress who ignores you until AFTER you've eaten then flirts you up to get a better tip.
jen1447 Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 I find it curious that so many ppl claim some sort of omniscience on this. The fact is, none of actually know what she was doing.
joseb Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 I find it curious that so many ppl claim some sort of omniscience on this. The fact is, none of actually know what she was doing. I though everyone posting on LS was omniscient?
danmillar Posted July 14, 2015 Posted July 14, 2015 I find it curious that so many ppl claim some sort of omniscience on this. The fact is, none of actually know what she was doing. Exactly. Smackie9 in particular is trying to pass herself off as nostradamus. The fact of the matter is, none of us can offer anything more than speculation. It is really up to OP to work this one out on his own. If he can muster the courage and resolve, he will take a risk and see if she is actually interested.
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