VedderisBetter Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 I know some of you may say don't even think twice about it but the girl who cut my hair today asked me, "What're you doing tonight?" I said grabbing some food then not sure. I asked her the same thing and she said, "Probably not much. Just hanging out with my kid and my friend might come over." Neither of us added much after that lol. I just found the question to be either direct at showing interest or just being friendly. It is a Saturday, so do you think chances are she asks all her customers this question? I was thinking about requesting her next time and talking to her more and asking for a date. I may be reading it wrong though.
TigerCub Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 She was making conversation - seems like the thing to ask on a weekend. 1
Vintage79 Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Seems like a pretty typical question to ask someone to start a conversation - typical small talk for the service industry. 2
green_tea Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Yep I'd say you're reading it wrong. Hairdressers ask this all the time to make small talk. She also mentioned a child, so I'd assume she isn't single. 1
joseb Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I've probably been asked that my most hairdressers. They often assume cause you are getting your hair done you have plans for a big night out. Unless you are getting some other indications that she likes you it's very likely just hairdresser conversation. 1
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 **I've probably been asked that my most hairdressers.** They often assume cause you are getting your hair done you have plans for a big night out. Unless you are getting some other indications that she likes you it's very likely just hairdresser conversation. Ha ha, when I first read this, I read it as "I get asked out by most of my hairdressers," which made me think......wow joseb must be pretty darn hot!! :bunny:
preraph Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 haircutters just make conversation. If she hadn't added she already had plans, then at least there could be a question mark, but she already had plans, so she did not mean anything by it but just conversation.
angel.eyes Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 "My friend might come over" is not weekend plans. If she were attached, she would probably have mentioned the BF/husband. Next time around, you can suggest that since you're both doing nothing special, you should do something together...go see a movie or do something relatively casual that came up in your conversation. You really have no way of knowing whether her question was idle chit chat or bait. Take a risk. What do you have to lose by biting? Nada. It's not like she's the only person who has ever cut your hair. So, asking has only upside. 1
Versacehottie Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 "My friend might come over" is not weekend plans. If she were attached, she would probably have mentioned the BF/husband. Next time around, you can suggest that since you're both doing nothing special, you should do something together...go see a movie or do something relatively casual that came up in your conversation. You really have no way of knowing whether her question was idle chit chat or bait. Take a risk. What do you have to lose by biting? Nada. It's not like she's the only person who has ever cut your hair. So, asking has only upside. Yeah, if you easily took it one step further and said "what do you normally like to do?", there would be a huge opportunity for flirting and it'd be a harmless chance to find out if she is single or not. Most people in an extended conversation like that would drop it in conversation if they had a bf and you would have a chance to bond more with her and find out something she would like to do if she is single. The steps are A to B to C and so forth. Not A to Z. Take the baby steps in between. It's pretty simple. I think sometimes people are so singularly focused that they are forgetting the art of just friendly conversation. Here's a perfect example of where a good conversation can help you and be indirectly self-serving. Anyway, good luck
casey.lives Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 just go back in 3 weeks and keep finding out about her. what's the rush. plus she has a kid and her being familiar with you will make the likely hood of a yes higher. most woman are very reluctant to date just "anyone" with young children.
IronZ Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 If you feel she's genuinely interested then why not ask her out, but as Jerry Seinfeld put it, if she doesn't reciprocate, that's "a pretty big matzo ball hanging out there." Also consider what happens if it doesn't work out. Do you still get your haircut there? As Tony Soprano so eloquently put it, "I don't s** where I eat."
Bobbi7 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I think this is hairdresser common conversation. My hairdresser who is a woman-I'm a woman, asks me this question all the time...I don't think she is hitting on me. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 It is not a sign of interest, no. And yes, she probably asks most of her customers the same question. I teach adults, I nearly always ask all of them about their weekend plans. It's just a way to make conversation. 1
Omei Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Every time I go to a salon they ask me what my plans are its conversation its weird not to speak to someone your having to touch within the job.
jen1447 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I'll take the other side here and say that I know of almost no one who'll specifically ask about plans w/out it being a meaningful question, not the least reason being that to do so 'innocently' risks exactly this type of interpretation. Especially considering she said she really had no plans herself when you asked. (Exceptions would be good friends and longtime acquaintances, obvs.) If I were you I'd ask in return (good naturedly) "why, do you want to do something?" Then she can either backpedal and say "oh my god no sorry I didn't mean that" if that's the case or "as a matter of fact ...." and you don't look silly either way. Just don't overreact to either answer. 2
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I'll take the other side here and say that I know of almost no one who'll specifically ask about plans w/out it being a meaningful question, not the least reason being that to do so 'innocently' risks exactly this type of interpretation. Especially considering she said she really had no plans herself when you asked. (Exceptions would be good friends and longtime acquaintances, obvs.) If I were you I'd ask in return (good naturedly) "why, do you want to do something?" Then she can either backpedal and say "oh my god no sorry I didn't mean that" if that's the case or "as a matter of fact ...." and you don't look silly either way. Just don't overreact to either answer. I dunno jen, my hair stylist (male) ALWAYS asks me what I've got going on for the weekend, and he's been cutting my hair for years! Way before I met my bf, and way before he met his wife. I never interpreted it more than friendly conversation.... because it was never meant to be more than friendly conversation. And to be honest, if he *had* meant it as a way to ask me out, I would have felt awkward going back again. It is just not smart to mix business with pleasure...and most service providers know this...and would not risk losing a good customer or client...by hinting at or asking them out. And having them say no, then feeling awkard going back. 1
jen1447 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I dunno jen, my hair stylist (male) ALWAYS asks me what I've got going on for the weekend, and he's been cutting my hair for years! Well the only incidences that would be in doubt then would be the first couple, since after that I assume he bscly became an acquaintance. Who knows what might have been Katie! If only ....
Haydn Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 My `Stylist` Alfonso, asks me this all the time. But you never know......... 2
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Well the only incidences that would be in doubt then would be the first couple, since after that I assume he bscly became an acquaintance. Who knows what might have been Katie! If only .... LOL...what would have been was me feeling uncomfortable going back, and being forced to find a hair stylist as good as him!! :bunny:
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Every Friday, my married boss (male) with three kids always asks me what I am doing for the weekend. He asks the other two employees the same thing. Is this his way of asking us out? LOL 1
jen1447 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 ^ Nah, he's a 'known' - an acquaintance. What I'm really after here is to not discourage the OP. If he goes around thinking every "what are you doing tonight" is a dead end, his chances at love will probably suffer. He sort of sounds like he's looking or at least receptive if he's tuned into hairdresser comments, so ....maybe a guy we should encourage to be bold and seize opportunities and all that. 1
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 ^ Nah, he's a 'known' - an acquaintance. What I'm really after here is to not discourage the OP. If he goes around thinking every "what are you doing tonight" is a dead end, his chances at love will probably suffer. He sort of sounds like he's looking or at least receptive if he's tuned into hairdresser comments, so ....maybe a guy we should encourage to be bold and seize opportunities and all that. Fair point and I agree.... EXCEPT that when it comes to any sort of situation in which he (or anyone) is a paying client or customer...whereby the service professional asking a question like that would be considered fairly typical as a way to make conversation..... the rules of engagement may be slightly different. JMO ..... ;) 1
smackie9 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 My hair stylist always asks me what my plans are later, after my appointment. It's just conversation. If she was hitting on you she would have suggested something like...."oh me and my GF are going to hang out at____, you should come join us"
smackie9 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 BTW using your job as a dating pool is VERY unprofessional. I know it wouldn't be tolerated at the salon I go to.....it's all about making money by keeping your clientele....I'm sure any salon owner/employees want to uphold a certain image of professionalism......reputation is everything in the beauty industry since it is a very competitive market.
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