Argentina Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 I was recently in a short term relationship with a man. he broke it off because he is unsure of what he wants. He admits he emotionally shutdowns and this was becoming obvious to me in our physical relationship. We have continued a close friendship and he continues to provide a lot of practical support to me. I also provide the same to him. He has made it very clear that he is not ready for a relationship; that he has the highest respect for me and that he is not jealous of me moving on. He's told me outright that he did not love me in the way I wanted him to. I believed him and I moved on. I started dating someone else. He says he is happy for me and in fact, my ex, my new man and I even go out together once a week. We all move in similar social circles. Neither of these men like conflict, they respect me, so they make the effort to get on well. My problem is; understanding why my ex is telling me (adamantly) that he is fine with the new situation one day and the next he makes little jokes and sarcastic comments about my new relationship. He makes them sound lighthearted and in all honesty i'm not going to let it affect the choices I make. I have asked my ex outright why he makes these comments. Is it an ego thing? And he answered "I don't know". Basically, my ex's comments and certain actions would indicate to me that he is jealous. But he just keeps denying this and telling me that he is happy for me. Can anyone explain to me this type of male behaviour? He has let me go, but his words and some actions are giving me a clear message that he is not so happy about it. And my ex either doesn't understand it himself or he is just not wanting to tell me the honest reason why. Thanks
Gaeta Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 It's just his male ego talking don't pay attention to it. I did the same to a man once, I didn't want to officially date him but when he got a girlfriend I felt jealous. It's just hurt pride. I don't want you but I want you to want me type of thing.
ScotchBeef Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 As Gaeta said, it's just a male ego thing. I done the same thing to a girl i had broke up with without even realising that it was making her a bit uncomfortable. He will likely see himself as superior to your new boyfriend, as he was the one who chose to end it, so can make jokes if he likes. If it ocntinues, you should just tell him straight that it makes him look petty and a little bitter.
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