VedderisBetter Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 I met a girl off a dating site and we went out to eat. She was fine for the first 20 or so minutes then started acting really tired. She told me she gets migraines around period time. TMI but I guess true. We had plans to go see Terminator and what made me kind of mad is that I text her telling her I'll buy tickets online which I did. Instead of seeing that movie, we decided to head back to my place and watch tv and she fell asleep for an hour or so on my shoulder. Then she woke up and ate her food but when she got up to leave, she said her head was hurting again. I've had another girl pretend sleep on a date but something tells me this girl was being legit. She said she had them earlier, took some tylenol and they came back. Thoughts?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 2 possibilities, both result in you moving on. 1. Not into you so faked migraines: Move on, she's not into you. 2. Really does have migraines: Move on, you don't want a person like that in your life. You will resent the timing of her headaches in the future.
Phoe Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 2. Really does have migraines: Move on, you don't want a person like that in your life. You will resent the timing of her headaches in the future. ???? what the...??? 8
Cinnimon Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 I think if it had been fake she would have went home and not back to your place, maybe she was trying to tough it out. Just try and treat her like you would want to be treated should the roles had been reversed. 3
IronZ Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 What kind of girl puts on such a show where she goes over to your place and pretends to sleep on your shoulder just so she can get away from a bad date? If she really wanted to get away she could have left right after dinner or went to a dumb movie (where she wouldn't have to interact with you) and left after that. Something tells me she was being serious. Give the girl the benefit of the doubt. It's that time of the month. 1
Shining One Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 I'm with the not faking crowd. She would not go to your place if she wanted to get out of the date. I would see what she's like after her period is over before drawing any conclusions. 1
loveweary11 Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 I would steer clear of this one too. You'll end up in a caregiver role, walking on eggshells while these migranes are going on.
Snakechammah Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Wow. She must trust you a lot to fall asleep in your home (so vulnerable being unconcious in a stranger's house) on your FIRST DATE!! I think it's legit (anyone who's unwell will pass out) but I do question her safety etiquette. She is lucky you are a trustworthy man. Good on you.
acrosstheuniverse Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Sounds legit to me. If she's anything like me (I get them sometimes, every six months or so I'll have a spate) I HATE letting people down so I'll try my best unless I'm totally incapacitated to continue on with my plans. Maybe she didn't want to be seen as a flake so went anyway despite being unwell. I would just let it go. Ask her out again or wait for her to suggest something. When you have a migraine and you're in that much pain sometimes you'd rather just fall asleep and stay still in ANY circumstance than try and get up and get yourself home, which may account for her troubling lack of concern for her personal safety! 2
elaine567 Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Getting a migraine attack is not just getting "a bit of a headache", they can be pretty incapacitating. Migraine - What is it? | The Migraine Trust
introverted1 Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 I used to get period migraines. Not every month, so it wasn't something where I'd have avoided a date. It's actually not uncommon in your 20's; the drop in progesterone in the days just before the period is a trigger. I don't think this made me someone to "steer clear of" (and fortunately no one did). If you like her, ask her out again. 2
veggirl Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 That doesn't even sound like a migraine. I get migraines and they certainly don't go away with tylenol nor do they go away within what, 30 minutes??? then come back. Migraines are long lasting usually, unless you have Rx meds. Anyway, what's your question...? Did you set up a 2nd date? Are you wondering if she faked it? I'm sure she had a headache, although doubt it was a migraine, just ask her out again and see what she says. 2
Gary S Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Hey, people are not machines, sometimes they have a headache. So have a second date next week. I don't think she'd be sleeping in your house on date one if she did not like you. Duh!
katiegrl Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 That doesn't even sound like a migraine. I get migraines and they certainly don't go away with tylenol nor do they go away within what, 30 minutes??? then come back. Migraines are long lasting usually, unless you have Rx meds. Anyway, what's your question...? Did you set up a 2nd date? Are you wondering if she faked it? I'm sure she had a headache, although doubt it was a migraine, just ask her out again and see what she says. Yah seriously. I had a migraine only twice in my life (extreme stress), and I had to stay in my room with shades shut to keep out the light, and cold compresses on my head. It lasted HOURS. I was also throwing up! No way did she have a *migraine.* My guess is she wanted to create a sweet moment by having her head on your shoulder.... she was probably awake the whole time! Gauging your reaction!
xcupid Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Migraines can be debilitating. Maybe she was using that term for a bad headache. Whatever the reason, give her some slack and the benefit of the doubt. If she wasn't interested in you she would have blown you off and gone home. 1
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